wanting more Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Over 3 year A with xMM. 2 d-days. A ended ugly. His BW blamed me (and still does) 100%. My BSO found out, talked many many times with xMM BW. It's been almost a year since A ended. The only contact I've had with xMM was once (voicemail I left for him) telling him to stop calling and leave me alone a few months ago after he started calling and leaving me voicemails at work about how much he loved and missed me. Did get another call from his BW, saw my # on his phone and got the blame for contacting him again. My relationship with my BSO was not a good one. I stayed many years with him because I thought that's what I needed to do. We have 3 kids together. After a really rough couple months, he did move. Actually moved about 3 hours away. We talk on the phone every now and then concerning the kids. He still texts me (not nearly as much as in the beginning) and the texts are not ugly and mean as they were. He told me he's staying where he is. I'm confused now. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. I am very sorry for the hurt I've caused him. I should've ended our relationship before getting involved with someone else. I don't want to R. I think 75% of the time he also realizes he doesn't want to R. He'll send text about how he wants me to go and be happy, he doesn't want me to hold on to what we had. (I don't, what we had wasn't good). I don't want him to hate me, or us to not be able to be in the same room without wanting to strangle each other. When he texts I respond mostly with I'm sorry. And I really am sorry. I was with him for over 20 years. I don't want the only feeling between us to be hate. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. Do i keep saying I'm sorry? Do I not talk to him at all? I don't think I'm doing anything to lead him on thinking I want to R. Am I doing the right thing or wrong thing.
Artie Lang Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 i don't think you need to do anything.sounds like the both of you are moving on as best as you could. 2
Journee Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I'm not sure there is much more you can do. However your ex is wired to process his feelings will be the way he does it. You showing remorse and really meaning it will help in the long run.
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