Mrlonelyone Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 A friend of mine for almost a year now is very involved. She lives with her boyfriends parents. She and I got involved in doing a research project. Everything was friendly she was involved and I was in my stormy relationship with the one known here as M. This new friend is making noises like they could be interested in me. On the one hand I don't want to mess with a relationship so strong it might as well be marriage. I mean this one calls her boyfriends parents mom and dad and vice versa. On the other in a while I could be kicking myself for passing up on someone. What would you do and why?
sweetkiwi Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Don't help this girl cheat. Bad relationship Karma for seven years. 1
tomtucker Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 It depends on how hot she is. I would say go for it if she's 7+.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 Don't help this girl cheat. Bad relationship Karma for seven years. Yes. This one is different. Unlike the petty so called "relationships" many get in after going on a couple of good dates, committed so long as no one is looking and no one hotter comes along. It would be like committing adultery. At one time they would be called common law married already. It depends on how hot she is. I would say go for it if she's 7+. Yes certainly a 7+ mentally emotionally and physically. Just my luck. They would be taken.
RedRobin Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 'might as well be married' isn't married. If they are soooo committed, then why aren't they married?? It isn't cheating unless deception is involved and there is overlap. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 A friend of mine for almost a year now is very involved. She lives with her boyfriends parents. She and I got involved in doing a research project. Everything was friendly she was involved and I was in my stormy relationship with the one known here as M. This new friend is making noises like they could be interested in me. On the one hand I don't want to mess with a relationship so strong it might as well be marriage. I mean this one calls her boyfriends parents mom and dad and vice versa. On the other in a while I could be kicking myself for passing up on someone. What would you do and why? For example?
404namenotfound Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 IMO anything short of marriage is fair game. Its only cheating to have two partners in my book. That said be willing to deal with a mess. Also there is a big grey area which I am currently stuck in, where there is sexual tension but no one wants to make a move because of the mess it may make. I have no idea what to do there.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 'might as well be married' isn't married. If they are soooo committed, then why aren't they married?? It isn't cheating unless deception is involved and there is overlap. That's generally my attitude towards the issue of cheating and relationships. For example folks will talk about their relationship with someone when they have been on a few dates, or slept over a couple times, but never even discussed just what their thing is. That is why generally, as you put it, if someone is open to dating me I go for it. Like 404 said, this is a situation in a grey area and it would be a huge mess. As much as I think I may regret it latter, I will distance myself from this person a bit. It helps that this ones boyfriend is actually a decent and worthy fellow.
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