westjames111 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 First off to put it in perspective I will give a little back-story. So I started talking to her the night she graduated high school. She was 18, and I was 20. Now I am 23 and she is 21, so we dated for about 2 ½ years. This past January we were in a rough spot in our relationship and she ended up leaving me for a guy that I had met and introduced her to about a month before. We all attended a concert in December, and I guess from that time until January she was secretly seeing him behind my back until I eventually caught her, and she left. I couldn’t understand how she could throw away 2 years and all our memories for this guy she had only known for a couple of weeks. To top it off she didn’t know him like I did. He wasn’t the best guy in the world and partied a lot and did a lot of drugs. I did all the wrong things at first by begging her back, and bargaining. This only seemed to make her hate me more and pushed her further away. She placed all the blame on me by saying, “You didn’t give me the relationship that I wanted and I told you that if you wouldn’t then I would find someone who would.” I tried to get her back from about January to about March and then I gave up. She would send me texts on occasion and once even texted me that she regretted what she had done, but she didn’t take any actions on it. She also b*tched me out one day when she found out that I was talking to someone new and she texted me saying “ How could you do this to me?!?” It was at this time that I started complete no contact. I hadn’t talked to her in about 3- 4 months when last week she started texting me about how she missed me. She wanted to know if I still missed her. She told me that I meant a lot to her, but she just couldn’t be in a relationship like that anymore. She said she will always love me and was thankful for what we had. She even went as far to say that she was going to the “music festival” that we attended every year and if she saw me there she might stand next to me during a band we both liked. I tried just ignoring all of these but then a couple of days later she messaged me again and said. “Turns out I cant go to the music festival and its “new guys” fault. This is one thing that I truly appreciated about you. You took care of me and made sure we always had fun” That was two days ago and I haven’t heard anything since. Talk about crazy right? She dropped me on a dime for this other guy and pretty much told me to go f*** myself but now 7 months later she is messaging me. Part of me is getting the satisfaction I wanted the whole time knowing that she regrets or misses me, and the other part thinks that this might be all some kind of game and that I need to disappear again before I found out something I don’t want to know. Any thoughts? Also to clear up before anyone says anything about breaking no contact.. She texted me from a new phone number so originally I had no idea who it was. Then when I did find out it was her, she was already confessing all this stuff to me and so I was kind of interested in seeing were it would lead. Shoot me.
for666 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 that's not GIGS... she's seeks better and better i guess you didn't give her enoth gigs is when she dumps and than go find new one but you'r found and dump'd you it's hard ... not easy but now you have to realize something she didn't love you like you love'd her and she doesn't deserve you you'r love is meant for someone els! she just want to upgrade her feeling NC HARD CORE! never look back on her if she did it one's she gonna do it again 100% hard yes but reality is a bitch! be a man NC and forget that women find someone that gonna love you and hold you and don't look for the next thing and the guy she date well she gonna dump him 2! don't woryy just be happy it's over and you now see her real face she just waited for the next good she think's F her man! NC move on and find better cos you can!
Author westjames111 Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 that's not GIGS... she's seeks better and better i guess you didn't give her enoth gigs is when she dumps and than go find new one but you'r found and dump'd you it's hard ... not easy but now you have to realize something she didn't love you like you love'd her and she doesn't deserve you you'r love is meant for someone els! she just want to upgrade her feeling NC HARD CORE! never look back on her if she did it one's she gonna do it again 100% hard yes but reality is a bitch! be a man NC and forget that women find someone that gonna love you and hold you and don't look for the next thing and the guy she date well she gonna dump him 2! don't woryy just be happy it's over and you now see her real face she just waited for the next good she think's F her man! NC move on and find better cos you can! I can see your point here. I was just thinking gigs because it was after a long relationship, she thought she could fins something better and then realized it wasn't as green as she thought. Your point does make sense though, and I know I can do better and I don't wont her back. Do I still have some feelings for her? I do, but not the way that I once did and I will never take a cheater back. My parents/friends would disown me at this point anyway haha.
JDPT Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 She is absolutely nuts, remain strong with NC, the end.
Author westjames111 Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 She is absolutely nuts, remain strong with NC, the end. Yes I plan on it. Like I said I originally broke the no contact becuase she has a new phone number and I didnt know who it was. By the time I found out, she was already confessing all this stuff to me and it was so satisfying I continued it for a bit, but haven't pursued it anymore in 2 days now. I wont call it "closure", because I feel like that doesnt exist in situations like this, but it did make me feel a little better.
for666 Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 you make the closure here! she cheated it's a fact! you'r go... i say cheater one's cheater always some gonna forgive some not but i say NC and forget her
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