Does dating an older virgin work out?

[crederer]

A woman that age being a virgin is a red flag for sure.

[Eggplant]

if she's healthy enough to understand the difference between loving because you're with the right person and know what you want out of the relationship vs loving because you gave your virginity.

 

I see -- it's too much pressure. Valid concern.

[Drovert]

Saying her virginity is no longer a turn on means you think it's too late -- that the good stuff is gone. If that's the case, why are you settling?

How would you have reacted if you were dating a 30 year-old virgin man and he tells you it just never happened? Wouldn't you have questioned him too?

[Drovert]

how about a man that age?

Anyone (man or woman) being a virgin at that age is starting to reach the ''concerning stage''.

[BradJacobs]

Anyone ever stumbled with an older virgin? Is it great? Do they eventually get over their uncertainty and shyness?

I dated a mid-30 year old virgin woman.

 

My advice based on my experiences: run.

 

I'm used to sex. I don't consider it a relationship until that happens. It's frustrating knowing that your sex drive is causing a major rift in the relationship, which makes you feel like a horrible person. In turn it will manifest itself somewhere in the relationship.

 

Best of luck if you stick it out.

[Drovert]

I've met several virgins in their thirties and even more people with very limited experience in their thirties or what and you know what? they are a mix, totally different types of people. those who say they are all alike don't know what they are talking about.

Maybe it must be coincidence or you attract them. Most of the girls I've met were either very experienced (3 of my past gfs were actually way more experienced than me; I learnt from them too) or average.

 

I guess what just happened is something new to me; something I'm not used to bumping into every day.

[Drovert]

i never asked a single partner if they were a virgin and i wouldn't have given a crap either way if they told me. they were all virgins with me.

I didn't ask. I already long assumed that a woman is experienced. She told me that herself.

[SJC2008]

As an older lesser experienced man I'd love to take her side but since she's not religious there has to be an underlying issue relating to physical intimacy. I have social anxiety which is about 85% gone but it was very bad when I was younger. My first year in college I was late to one of my classes and I couldn't even walk in, I walked right by. My point is that my social anxiety was that bad but I had my first sexual exp at the age of 19 with a 27 year old woman (oral, no intercourse) and I lost my virginity at 22.

[New User]

As an older lesser experienced man I'd love to take her side but since she's not religious there has to be an underlying issue relating to physical intimacy. I have social anxiety which is about 85% gone but it was very bad when I was younger. My first year in college I was late to one of my classes and I couldn't even walk in, I walked right by. My point is that my social anxiety was that bad but I had my first sexual exp at the age of 19 with a 27 year old woman (oral, no intercourse) and I lost my virginity at 22.

 

 

Damn dude. I mean absolutely no disrespect by saying this- I sincerely hope that you've gotten past whatever hangup you may have had. I simply cannot relate.