Author Southern Cal Dude Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 OP in what context are you using "pursued"? Meaning they show initial interest and you take the lead or are they strait up asking you for your # and asking you out? I.E. courting you? If it's the latter I've been pursued a few times (by older women). I met a nice Italian woman (customer) at my job before and she gave me her phone number and I called her and we went out. That same week another woman said we should go do xyz that we were talking about. A few months ago at a bar I made eye contact with a woman and smiled at her and a few mintues later she came up to me and my friend and she introduced herself to us (she said I didn't show interest thread). Giving me their number, asking me to go out with them somewhere, propositioning me for sex.
charlietheginger Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 These are traits that happen with both genders. Most definitely ALOT of what happens in persons younger yrs Effects their personalities..... And even to a extent people sexuality. I remember A girl from elementary school named brenda the booger Eater. She was my friend becuase she lived next door. Brenda always had the boys picking on her. In highschool She never was asked to prom or out on dates. She confided To me years later after she cameout as a lesbian she had Crushes on boys likes boys but boys never liked her so She felt unloved and seeking love went with a lesbian that Made her feel special and adored. When i know for a fact had just one boy asked.her to A dance or prom she would have felt loved and accepted By men and prob stayed straight.
PlumPrincess Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Very true, the women in this country are (ready for the blanket statement?) spoiled little princess wannabees. Its amazing how friendly women in other countries are, or if you do find a genuine nice gal in the US shes probably from somewhere else. (Canada) The only women men from the US and Western European countries nowadays consider nice are women from economically weaker countries and where women traditionally have less to say than men.
Moe'sTavern Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Most definitely ALOT of what happens in persons younger yrs Effects their personalities..... And even to a extent people sexuality. I remember A girl from elementary school named brenda the booger Eater. She was my friend becuase she lived next door. Brenda always had the boys picking on her. In highschool She never was asked to prom or out on dates. She confided To me years later after she cameout as a lesbian she had Crushes on boys likes boys but boys never liked her so She felt unloved and seeking love went with a lesbian that Made her feel special and adored. When i know for a fact had just one boy asked.her to A dance or prom she would have felt loved and accepted By men and prob stayed straight. Somehow I don't think people have same sex relationships because they can't get dates with the opposite gender.
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Somehow I don't think people have same sex relationships because they can't get dates with the opposite gender. That's not always true. I know people that have flipped from hetero to homosexual, because of past trauma, bad experiences with the opposite sex, or because they didn't get dates with the opposite sex. By the way, is this Moe's Tavern? Is there a woman named Hugginkiss, first name Amanda? 1
TheBigQuestion Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 The only women men from the US and Western European countries nowadays consider nice are women from economically weaker countries and where women traditionally have less to say than men. And yet, not every country mentioned in this thread is economically weaker than the US or western Europe. Some of the countries with allegedly desirable women that have been mentioned ARE IN western Europe. In fact, I don't think anyone here mentioned anything about trolling third world countries for poor desperate women, which is what you're making it sound like regardless of whether that was your intention. So what exactly is your point?
phineas Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Well they get so much male attention, they don't know how to process disinterest. Some have, as you said, started showing interest because I was different than the other guys, but sometimes their ego is so big that they can't for the life of them understand how you're not bowing at their feet, and give you absolutely nothing. I remember one girl in particular I used to go to school with, we had a lot of projects and stuff we had to do in class together. She was pretty cold and I can't help but shake the feeling it was because she couldn't believe I wasn't treating her like a goddess. She was a model. I was not impressed. I'm not intimidated by looks. So I treated her like a regular person and she didn't exactly warm up to me. I wonder what would have happened had I been one of those other guys treating her like a queen but I assume nothing good. As far as girls that are standoffish, I thought the ice queen was a fun challenge, but it gets old fast. After a while you realize that's just how they are. They're not going to change. I wasn't put here to entertain a woman for her approval like some sort of court jester. This. Looks don't impress me. How a woman has those looks does. I know plenty of beautiful women who won the genetic lottery. Their diet is crap. Their lifestyle is going out all night long and drinking then sleeping most of the day. They still look damn good & never change. Even when they hit 40 they look damn good. What impresses me is a woman who lives a healthy lifestyle and enjoys things in moderation & works out ect to look good.
Revolver Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 They don't get ignored tho. Every girl I've ever considered pretty usually goes from relationship to relationship. You ever seen that episode of how I met your mother with the girl next door And how every time she breaks up all the guys have to be aggressive? They do that beecause there's a relatively small window of opportunity when she'll be single so they have to try to capitalize. It's like that in real life as well 1
SammySammy Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 They don't get ignored tho. Every girl I've ever considered pretty usually goes from relationship to relationship. You ever seen that episode of how I met your mother with the girl next door And how every time she breaks up all the guys have to be aggressive? They do that beecause there's a relatively small window of opportunity when she'll be single so they have to try to capitalize. It's like that in real life as well Right. Then these guys who claim to not like beautiful women, play these "ignoring" games or who are simply afraid of beautiful women wonder how THAT guy ended up with her. Maybe it's because he ... talked to her? 2
ThaWholigan Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 They don't get ignored tho. Every girl I've ever considered pretty usually goes from relationship to relationship. You ever seen that episode of how I met your mother with the girl next door And how every time she breaks up all the guys have to be aggressive? They do that beecause there's a relatively small window of opportunity when she'll be single so they have to try to capitalize. It's like that in real life as well Meh, you'd be surprised ......
PlumPrincess Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 And yet, not every country mentioned in this thread is economically weaker than the US or western Europe. Some of the countries with allegedly desirable women that have been mentioned ARE IN western Europe. In fact, I don't think anyone here mentioned anything about trolling third world countries for poor desperate women, which is what you're making it sound like regardless of whether that was your intention. So what exactly is your point? Oh, you mean Canada? Let's move over to a Canadian forum and see how the guys over there bitch about their women.
mano Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I am one of the prettiest cutest ones in my whole department. But its just my shy nature that i dont make a first move. I want the guy to pursue me himself. Alot of people(especially guys) tend to think i am quite rude n not interested. But the ones who made the move or tried to b friendly with me i am quite nice to them. It depends on the girls nature too.
Phoe Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Women have no problem approaching men they're interested in. I'm a woman and I have an extremely difficult time approaching men.
Phoe Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Somehow I don't think people have same sex relationships because they can't get dates with the opposite gender. I know a lady who turned lesbian 10 years ago because she was so sick of failures with men. She seems quite happy now.
Author Southern Cal Dude Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 I know a lady who turned lesbian 10 years ago because she was so sick of failures with men. She seems quite happy now. You don't turn gay. She always was and was closeted. I'm a woman and I have an extremely difficult time approaching men. I'll give you the same advice I would give a guy. You just gotta suck it up and approach.
Phoe Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I'll give you the same advice I would give a guy. You just gotta suck it up and approach. Yup, I know. Does not change the fact that I do have difficulty with it.
sweetkiwi Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Yup, I know. Does not change the fact that I do have difficulty with it. I used to have difficulty speaking....I worked on it. Now you can't get me to shut up . If you want to be the kind of woman who approaches, you can.
Author Southern Cal Dude Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 Yup, I know. Does not change the fact that I do have difficulty with it. Many people have difficulty with it. But be prepared to lose guys you're into because another woman goes after what she wants.
Phoe Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Many people have difficulty with it. But be prepared to lose guys you're into because another woman goes after what she wants. Lol. On the first page you said women have no problem approaching men they are interested in. Was simply disagreeing. 1
FitChick Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 People who crave attention and are used to it don't like being ignored. That's how I got George Clooney to walk over to introduce himself to me and shake my hand. Really.
Author Southern Cal Dude Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 Lol. On the first page you said women have no problem approaching men they are interested in. Was simply disagreeing. They do approach. And my point was that if you don't, others will. 1
Phoe Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I used to have difficulty speaking....I worked on it. Now you can't get me to shut up . If you want to be the kind of woman who approaches, you can. I'm definitely a work in progress, but at least I've got the mindset started! I'm a friendly and extroverted person naturally. I can have a nice conversation with anyone, at any time, but turning that from a totally "friendly" conversation into an "I want to date you" conversation? NOPE. lol.
Divasu Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Has absolutely nothing to do with my thread. You're right. My apologies... It isn't the point of this thread. The point of this thread, as I understand it, is about: -ignoring the prettiest women -And, no one wants an ice queen It's not limited to women, but I don't date men and this isn't what the thread is about. Negging consists of backhanded compliments. That has nothing to do with my scenario. Negging = Low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman. I didn't label all women. I labeled the one(or 2 in my case) as ice queens because that's what their behavior consisted of. This is clearly a sensitive issue for you, so perhaps you shouldn't post in this thread if it's going to get you worked up.
Imported Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Negging = Low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman. I like to "accidentally" compliment girls. The compliments are real, I really think it, but being caught "accidentally" giving away more than I intended to give away on what I think of her (when it is positive) almost always works better than just saying it.....because that can be cheesy, fake sounding and like you're trying to get something in return. I don't ignore "the prettiest girls". I just don't make a move on them if they ignore me. I almost only 100% go for women that expressed interest in me in some way. A smile, a knowing look, a change of expression, people say men are always making "the first move", but I think it is usually the women that makes the first move....at least in my experience. I just make the first move where it is undeniable. So the "really hot" women that are "ice queens", I will leave them alone, because it seems to me like they want to be left alone. Usually anywhere I go, there is always women interested in me and a lot of the time those women are "really hot" and or look/sound/behave interesting to me and I want to get to know them, so I do. 2
Divasu Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I like to "accidentally" compliment girls. The compliments are real, I really think it, but being caught "accidentally" giving away more than I intended to give away on what I think of her (when it is positive) almost always works better than just saying it.....because that can be cheesy, fake sounding and like you're trying to get something in return. I don't ignore "the prettiest girls". I just don't make a move on them if they ignore me. I almost only 100% go for women that expressed interest in me in some way. A smile, a knowing look, a change of expression, people say men are always making "the first move", but I think it is usually the women that makes the first move....at least in my experience. I just make the first move where it is undeniable. So the "really hot" women that are "ice queens", I will leave them alone, because it seems to me like they want to be left alone. Usually anywhere I go, there is always women interested in me and a lot of the time those women are "really hot" and or look/sound/behave interesting to me and I want to get to know them, so I do. Sounds like a very reasonable and healthy attitude.
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