madmax87 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 That's what my ex told me to do regarding acceptance. I told her it'd been a few months (2 at the time) since we split, and I was okay with the fact that I wasn't her guy. She said "Months ain't nothin', sometimes it takes years. I'd say get friendly with the feeling." At the time I took that as "It'll take a while to get over me," when really she meant "There are no second chances. I decided nope, not you." I'm in this predicament in which I want to get over her and recover and move on, but then I also want a second chance with her. She's done with me though. Decidedly finished. If any of you have come across my other threads you'll see that I struggled with the breakup, that I was clingy. I kept talking to her until only three weeks ago and she made it clear that I was being the whiny, clingy ex. The tough thing is it was basically an amicable breakup. She wasn't angry with me, she wasn't hurt by me, she just wasn't feeling it. If either party was angry it'd make the whole thing a bit easier. Well, not easier, but not talking to her would be a bit more manageable. I know, it's all an ego thing, but still! I mean, I was totally into her. My feelings were, and still are, sincere.
theonlyjuan Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Move on. Just get the idea of a second chance out of your mind. You could probably be friends one day, but get rid of hope of getting back with her. It's not good for you
Author madmax87 Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 You're not the first to tell me that, and won't be the last. You're right. It's just tough, that's all. I guess another thing that bothers me is that she seems happy now that she's not with me. That's just heartbreaking.
theonlyjuan Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Yeah " seems happy " You don't know what is going on in her head. Most people try to make it out like they are doing really well, and are happy. She might not be miserable but it doesn't mean she is as happy as it seems. She is trying to move on and trying to be happy. You should do the same
itto ogami Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 It's not healthy to be getting advice from your ex on how to get over her. She sounds like she slightly is getting off on your loss. Why are you still talking to her? If you want a second chance, bolt. Radio silence. Let her miss you. Hit the gym, work on yourself. Switch up your style. Take a class. Onward. Get used to that feeling.
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