what are the odds she will comeback?

[davegreen177]

Me an my ex dated for over 2 yrs. im 22 she is 20. she lost her mom at 14 an her dad is disabled losing their house. so she lived with me an my family. I bought her clothes,food etc. after a yr of dating I got her a job at my work. She was off work for 2 weeks sick. during her time off she was talking to a guy online an broke up with me while I was working she cheated. its been over a month. las week she msgd me saying she was missing talking to me an wantd to know if I can see her at her dads sunday. so I did so. she noticed ive been working out my change in appearance an attitude. she said I have brighten up. we talkd for 2hrs. She asked if I was seeing anyone I said no. she was touching my arms an knees too at some time. she seemd flirty. she said she was confused tht her heart was in 2 pieces. one piece with me an other with new guy. she told me the new guy is sweat,mamas boy, and taught her alot on god. so he wont f her over like she did me. wondering do you think she still likes me? what are the odds of her coming back? will her new relationship last? I love her an already herd all the dont take her back or move on I dont need those answers

[Exitleft]

You seem to want to be told what you want to hear even if it's not the truth and it is your choice to cling to false hope if you want.

 

If you don't take the honest advice on here for what it is, you will be like the majority of us who ignore it and end up back on here within months because we chose not to follow the advice we asked for.

 

So the reality is: a 20 year old girl left you for an 18 year old, you want to know if she will come back. It's quite possible when things don't turn out the way she thought they would, she will be back. You will be her option, plan b. And if you accept it you may also have created a habit of cheating that will ultimately bring you back here sooner or later.

 

That's the truth.

[LovelyScars]

If you loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.

[westjames111]

man, I understand why you would want to help her out, but the fact she cheated on you after you did all of that for her makes its a lot more complicated. I know you care for her and want to help but it sounds like when you did help she betrayed you. She really needs to help herself out and once she fixes herself then maybe at that point you can help her. I know its hard to say no though and watch someone suffer who you care about. best wishes

[crederer]

He taught her a lot about God? Pretty sure affairs and coveting your neighbours spouse are right up on the top of the list for things you're not supposed to do.

 

Anyways, how can you want to be with a woman that wants to be with someone else? Just move on, you;re attached to the idea of what it was more so than what it actually was.

[davegreen177]

me and my ex dated for over 2yrs. im 22 she is 20 now. her mom passed away at 15 and her dad is disabled losing his house. me and my family took her in. i bought her clothes, food etc. i even got her a job at my work. we did fight sometimes alot. she left me for a 18 yr boy who she met online.

 

she moved out of my house and in with him and his family. about a week ago she msgd me online wanting me to come talk to her at her dads. so i did.*she noticed the change in my attitude and that ive been working out. she asked if i was dating anyone. i said no. she then told me she was confused and that she doesnt know what she wants. after she was all flirty i left after a while.

 

so yesterday she invites me again. i show up we talk and she is flirty again laughs at anything i say has love eyes on me too. she talks about our relationship and she was calling me baby and saying she cant throw any of the things i got her out or get rid of pics of us. she said i dont care im never getting rid of them. we went up stairs had a heart to heart moment both cried.*she started cuddling on me and jus wanting me to hold her and then i went down stairs sat on a chair and she sat on my lap starts cuddling again. letting me touch up on her. i was joking about kissing her and she seemed not to care. she said she was still confused that she likes 2 people at once.*

 

so how do i get her away from this boy and back to me? i want us to be together i love her alot. i already herd answers like forget her move on she is no good. dont need those answers. do you think i have a better chance then that guy? is she in a rebound relationship. she keeps msgn me online still putting smiley faces lols and haha. on almost ever msg. should i stop answering her back?

[thishatteredsymphony]

She left you for someone else. The bottom line is that if she is having second thoughts about this she needs to be coming out and telling you that directly. Otherwise this is just playing with your feelings.

[BeholdtheMan]

so how do i get her away from this boy and back to me?

You don't.

 

This woman cast you aside like garbage when a better deal came along. Now she's having second thoughts? Too late. She made her choice. You're not some backup plan she can fall back on when her current stud is neglecting her.

 

Grow a pair of balls and move on.

[Radu]

She is playing the field.

 

Look at what you wrote of her life, she probably learned very early that she needs to attract someone to take care of her.

While she might believe that she once [or still does] love you, in reality one it's probably a case of survival instinct.

Now that she got slightly better, she is looking for the better option.

 

She does this to you when you are not going through a hard time, what will she do to you when you go through a VERY hard time ?

Let her be, and be happy that she showed her true colours early on.

Don't weap for the lost money or time, you are young and you have been dealt a very important lesson.

 

PS: All the affection she has shown you recently is meant to keep you hoping, to keep you as an option in case things don't work out with her present guy.

[thompkevin]

OK, if you are absolutely sure you want her back (which you shouldn't), you should just keep going on with your life as you've been doing till now. Don't let her control your life by manipulation. In fact, start dating someone else. If she really wants you, she will come back to you. Or, you can just wait around for her rebound relationship to fall apart. It will happen.

[davegreen177]

me and my ex dated for over 2yrs. she is 20 i am 22. her mom passed away when she was 15. her dad is disabled losing her home she grew up in. when we dated she lived with me and my family the whole time. i bought her food clothes. etc. i even got her a job at my work. she left me for a 18yr boy who she met online for only 2 weeks. and moved in with him and his family. they been together for over a month now. so my question is are these signs she wants me back?

 

1.she wants to be my friend still. she said she loves me still. we are friends on fb. she still has pics of us on fb. doesnt post pics of her and her new bf. doesnt talk highly about him or anything on fb.

 

2. still msgs me atleast 3-4 days out of the week. we talk through fb. she always puts lols,hahas,and smiley faces on the msgs. as if she is flirty.

 

3.she hangs out with her best friend alot. when we 1st started dating she wouldnt hang out with her friends she was all over me at the beginning.

 

4.she says she misses talking to me. asked me to hang out with me at her dads. ive been over there 2 times now. 1st time. she noticed the change in my attitude and ive lost weight and my new clothes. she asked if i was dating anyone. i said no. she then told me she was confused. the 2nd time she had love eyes on me laughed at anything i said. we ended up having a heart to heart and cuddling in her bed. i was teasing about kissing her and she didnt care. i sat on a chair and she sat on my lap and cuddled more.*

 

5. she kept talking about our relationship over and over. she said she cant get rid of anything i bought her or and pics of me and her. that she doesnt care who cares. she wants to see me again and told me to msg her on fb

 

6. she told me she didnt have anything bad to say to her bf about me. that he still thinks she is in love with me?

 

7. she msgd my mom apologizing for what she did. told my mom she is the best

 

8.she admit all the things she did wrong in the relationship

 

p.s. she lost her job and has no money or car and no phone.does she want me back? what game is she playing?

[theonlyjuan]

Hard to say. You never know what goes through people's heads, maybe she wants to be your friend.

 

I wouldn't read too much into anything. You need to move on if she wants you back I'm sure she will say. Deal with it when it happens

[giblesp]

Signs she wants you back would be her leaving her boyfriend and coming back to you, with as much assurance as she could give that she's not going to run off again with some else.

You'd have to really be very careful if that were to happen, as she's already walked off with someone else once.

 

In the meantime, she's having a sexual relationship with her bf and fooling around with you. Your her second place, her number 2. Don't put up with this, be a girl's number one or nothing.

 

Go no contact, she can be friends when you've got her out of her system and have a new girlfriend.

[nerdlingZA]

I used to ask myself the same questions , don't worry about her , GO NC she'l come back crawling to u , if she contacts you and your mom its more likely she wants assurance if she breaks up with her current BF she wud come back to you easly , go NC dude.

[NiceFails]

She's puting u in her purse in case her new bf didn't work. I say, nc and and seriously consider not taking her back even if she crawled and begged.

[davegreen177]

Me an my ex dated for over 2yrs. she lived with me and my family the whole time. due to her mom passing away when she was 15 and her dad disabled with no income. I took care of her with food, clothes,etc. even got her a job at my work. im 22 she is 20 now. about a month ago she cheated on me and left me for a 18yr old boy who shes been talking to for only 2 weeks online before hand.

 

Since then ive been over an seen her at her dads house 2 times. she noticed the change in my attitude and appearance. she askd if I was dating anyone I said no. she was touchy feely. the 2nd time we ended up having a heart to heart cried some points. ended up cuddling in her bed. an down stair on the chair. she was talking about our relationship alot. but she said she is confused an is with this guy still

 

love this girl I dont want to loose her. I know im crazy. I want advice on how to get her back? not to move on. should I stop contact with her? what will make her crawl back to me? giving her space and time? advice would be great

 

.P.s. she lost her job,has no money,car or phone. but she is about to get a new job1 hour ago*-*4 days left to answer.

[NiceFails]

Lol I wonder how much shad has to do to you in order to leave her.

[maturityassets]

The best way is to focus on moving on.... plain and simple. You might or might not meet someone else in that time but regardless you live your own life. she cheated on you. So its time to be you again because there is no more "us" between you guys and its not your fault

[na49]

Hire someone who is capable of controlling other people's thoughts and actions and have them work their magic.

[Darren Steez]

This is a full proof method to get her back. Follow these steps very carefully.

 

1. Grow some n*ts. It might take a while and it's very hard work but once the n*ts are grown, you'll notice a marked improvement about how you feel about yourself

 

2. Delete her phone number, block her from facebook and email. THIS IS CRUCIAL!

 

3. Go NC for about 5 years. That means not talking to her, if you see her then cross the road or buy a fake wig and mustache for disguise so you can move about the town without fear of her recognizing you and break Instruction 2

 

4. After Instruction 1, go and date other girls

 

5. If she visits your house, don't open the door, instead adopt an accent and tell her the guy who used to live here has moved and will be back in town in 5 years.

 

Follow these rules and you'll find success