irc333 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I've met a few women, one just recently, that said her last ex was someone she dated for a good while, but was never really into him as much as HE was into her. (he was head over heels). She apparently ended only because...well...she wasn't that much into him. She claimed he was a nice guy, treated her well, reliable, loyal, and dependent. The kind of things that some women aren't attracted to...well, at least the stereotypical woman that Friendzones nice guys. It sounds like she SHOULD have friend zoned the guy, but instead got into a romantic relationship with him anyhow based on all the qualities in a guy that most people seeking a long term relationship. But apparently, it sounds like he was rather boring. She mentioned most men (that are also now ex's) that she was DRAWN too were the over bearing / controlling types. But...nice guys...it's like she dates them only because of their qualities and characteristics regardless of actually being DRAWN to him. It's like "Wow, this is a great guy, I'll date him even though I am not at all remotely attracted to him!" Ever known people in relationships like this...I don't think it happens frequently. With all the "Sigh, I was just FZ'ed posts" it's not often you hear about people dating those that they SHOULD have friendzoned instead.
sillyanswer Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I've met a few women, one just recently, that said her last ex was someone she dated for a good while, but was never really into him as much as HE was into her. (he was head over heels). So she found herself a meal ticket until something better came along or until she got bored of him. She sounds like a real catch. 1
crude Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 She claimed he was a nice guy, treated her well, reliable, loyal, and dependent. Sounds like she was describing her dog. This is why men have to demand that women contribute equally to a relationship, rather than do all the work for the woman who acts aloof. How is a man to know that a woman is into him if she does nothing but take, use, and coolly observe some idiot jumping through hoops for the entitled one? 1
Star Gazer Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 (edited) Why do you care about what this woman is doing with her dating life??? Edited July 21, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
404namenotfound Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 All I have to say to that is it confirms that the friendzone doesn't exist and some women have no problem using guys. What I mean by that is that I believe any relationship short of mirage doesn't really deserve a title as every situation is different and everyone has different intentions and motives. So its not that they should have friendzoned the guys, the guys just should have seen this and realized that any relationship where they do all the work isn't good and isn't going to last. Sure women like that shouldn't lead guys on, but as a guy myself I just need to be aware of that danger as I can't change what other people do.
Author irc333 Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 (edited) Why do you care about what this woman is doing with her dating life??? Would you be less irritated with the posts that I make if I started posts saying, "Hey, there is this person that I AM dating that is jerk, should I dump her?" Would the latter be less annoying to you Star Gazer. You always seem to have a beef with my posts But hey , at least it's not about an online dating profile, right? So ya gotta give me some credit. LOL Edited July 21, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
MissBee Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I think, especially from my experience, sometimes women are drawn to men who absolutely are not relationship material and they get into these relationships with these essentially emotionally unavailable or otherwise problematic guys and hurt themselves over and over. However, when they start to wise up and be more mature about what hasn't worked, they decide to give a man who actually has good qualities a chance, versus choosing some exciting guy who will hurt them again. I understand the logic and it's actually a good thing. For some women, they end up realizing that this guy is actually good for them and they fall for him and some don't and are still drawn to the unstable situations, so try it on for size, but eventually go back to picking their usual type.
Star Gazer Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 (edited) Would you be less irritated with the posts that I make if I started posts saying, "Hey, there is this person that I AM dating that is jerk, should I dump her?" Would the latter be less annoying to you Star Gazer. You always seem to have a beef with my posts Can you explain why you're so interested in other people's relationships? Edited July 21, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited quote and redacted off-topic commentary
Author irc333 Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 Can you explain why you're so interested in other people's relationships? The same reason everyone else is and post such subject matter in these dating forums.
Sanman Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 I've been that guy before. It was quite clear there was a problem after a few months and we broke up. What it boils down to is this girl was using the guy to try something new on for size instead of fixing her problems on her own. It is something you have to watch out for. It is why I ensure that a woman invest equally the relationship(not just money, but time and effort as well). The more a person has to invest, the quicker they make a real decision. When I found a woman willing to invest in everything equally, I found my best (and hopefully last) relationship.
CrazyConcept Posted July 22, 2013 Posted July 22, 2013 So what exactly are guidelines for women to friendzone the guy?
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