Elias18 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Hello LS, I posted here a couple of months ago. I broke up with a girl that I loved very much. There were a lot of differences. We differ in age, there's a gap of 7 years. I have a serious job and she is going to university over a couple of months. The breakup is 5 months ago, I went NC for the first two months. After that I saw her a couple of times in a local bar, said a few things but NC for the rest of the time. This girl is very attractive, intelligent and has a good sense of humor, despite the age gap I think we were a good match. We had a very intense short relationship (+/- 3 months) then I broke up with her. I broke up with her because: -The difference in age, she has a lot of partying to do and I don't think a 18 year old girl is ready to settle. - She moves to an other city and is going to live there - I think she would leave me in the near future - I was scared to have a relationship with a young person - She got loads of attention of men and likes to party a lot I'm on 60+ of NC, she messaged me 2 months ago on fb, asking how I have been (I didn't respond). Last time she liked my facebook post (this was 2 weeks ago). I thought I was becoming indifferent towards her, I worked a lot on my self, dated other girls, had a lot of fun.... But I miss her so much, I love her and I can't forget her. I slept with other women but it hasn't helped me. I have a constant urge to check her fb, but luckily I didn't. What should I do? I love her and I miss her like hell, but I'm scared to contact her, maybe I get rejected/ignored or maybe there is another guy. But then again, it won't solve the problems. I thought I was over her , but this is a giant setback.
Talulah Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Hello LS, I posted here a couple of months ago. I broke up with a girl that I loved very much. There were a lot of differences. We differ in age, there's a gap of 7 years. I have a serious job and she is going to university over a couple of months. The breakup is 5 months ago, I went NC for the first two months. After that I saw her a couple of times in a local bar, said a few things but NC for the rest of the time. This girl is very attractive, intelligent and has a good sense of humor, despite the age gap I think we were a good match. We had a very intense short relationship (+/- 3 months) then I broke up with her. I broke up with her because: -The difference in age, she has a lot of partying to do and I don't think a 18 year old girl is ready to settle. - She moves to an other city and is going to live there - I think she would leave me in the near future - I was scared to have a relationship with a young person - She got loads of attention of men and likes to party a lot I'm on 60+ of NC, she messaged me 2 months ago on fb, asking how I have been (I didn't respond). Last time she liked my facebook post (this was 2 weeks ago). I thought I was becoming indifferent towards her, I worked a lot on my self, dated other girls, had a lot of fun.... But I miss her so much, I love her and I can't forget her. I slept with other women but it hasn't helped me. I have a constant urge to check her fb, but luckily I didn't. What should I do? I love her and I miss her like hell, but I'm scared to contact her, maybe I get rejected/ignored or maybe there is another guy. But then again, it won't solve the problems. I thought I was over her , but this is a giant setback. I feel the same way tonight, I had such an amazing day but then I got home and started to watch a show that we used to watch and now I am so sad and feel so lonely. Ex and I spoke last week and I thought that I didn't care but now, I just wait for an e-mail or anything from him. I'm such an idiot
theonlyjuan Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Once you have properly move on, you won't feel this way about her. Because you haven't moved on, you want to go back to what's familiar because your'e lonely. It's a short term fix. Your long term solution is...To fill your time with things you want to do. One day you won't feel the same about her. You might still love her, but it won't be so intense. She is too young to plan anything long term, people change so much from 18-26+ I had pretty much the same age problem with my ex. One minute you get the impression she want's a relationship n all that, the next it feels like she has no clue what she wants and with who. Everything you had and felt for that girl, you can have with someone else. I would wait until you are 90% over her, if you want to talk to her then, go ahead. By then you probably couldn't care less. Is it just me, or does dating a younger girl, when your in your mid 20's make you feel good but sometimes, make you feel utter crap!
Author Elias18 Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 Thank you for your advice! I hope this feeling will fade soon, I thought I was over her. But it's true it's nice to date a girl begin who is younger when you're in your mid twenties. But they're not "mature" enough to be in a serious relationship. That's doesn't mean that there aren't mature girls of 18 - 20, but I think this girl would get GIGS sooner or later. Especially when she studies in another city, does a lot of partying and has many attention of other guys. It's sucks, I wish I met her in her mid twenties. I want to have a serious relationship, not just a "fun time" because that will end eventually. I met my previous girlfriend when she was 15, I was 17 at the time. She dumped me when I was 20, that hurt a lot. It took me almost 2-3 years to heal from that. But I think that breakup influences other breakups, I think it left a scare and great difficulity to let somebody go. In the meantime I haven't had a serious relationship, most partners were "friends with benefits". I hope that one day I will find love, I just got so much love to give.
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