bluegreen Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 OK people be honest here have you ? There is many kinds of abuse not just by hand abuse by words actions thoughts and I see more then few people here not even realizing they will be or already are. I think experiences and honest post might help them imagine the joy of saving someone from that kind of cruel dark fate I personally would be proud to be able to accomplish that even once. I'll start myself I have taken some crap like yelling some insults and am gonna walk away if ..... until the relationship ended for this among other reasons. Now I could kick myself for it until Kingdom Comes why did I let it
white Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Probably all of us in one way or another. And those who claim not probably did it themselves. I had a relationship when I was 20, the course of which changed my romantic life for the worse forever. Her insane behaviour toward me and the still unbelievable level and nature of her infidelity, was abuse as sure as if she'd attacked and disfigured me. In fact I'd have preferred some simple assaults and broken limbs. Some people are monsters like anything from a horror film. They eat souls and spread madness.
SensitiveTJ Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I was in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship back in 2009. At the time, I rationalized it away as being due to stress and my failure to make her happy. But now being older and wiser, I see it much differently. I suspect she was a victim of abuse, physical or sexual, and was simply taking it out on me. She wasn't a good person then and she isn't now, but at least it's over, for me at least. I've moved on, become smarter about such things. I still attract damaged girls, it's true, but I can usually see it coming. The exception was 2011, I was with a very manipulative and conniving person. My life was fairly messy due to that relationship, but I survived and she's gone. You live and learn. I was fortunate to have never lived with or married either of these girls, that would have severely complicated things.
Seductive Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Yes. My boyfriend in college wasn't abusive while we were dating, but he became abusive AFTER we broke up. He wanted to control me after we broke up, and wanted to sabotage my efforts finding someone else. My self-esteem was already low, so I chose to let him have power over me. I went through several months of verbal, emotional and sexual abuse from him. He had convinced me that I couldn't get anyone else and that my life would be ruined if I dared not listen to him? After I got the confidence to cut him out of my life, I was celibate for 2 years. I told myself that I was going to heal from him. Ever since I cut him out, I've been lucky to NEVER have experienced such a man again. Everytime a man shows signs similar to my ex, I'm out the door.
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