marym84 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 my ex and i have been together for 5 years, 3 years ago he moved to another country and ended it, even tho i wanted to try to make things work long distance. he told me to move on. i was a wreck, but i eventually felt better again, 6 months later he came to my city for vacation and told me he wanted me back, he was really sorry, he said he wanted to make it work and as soon as a finished uni he was going to be waiting for me in his city. told me i was his "home" and he felt miserable without me, i gave him a second chance, stayed together in a long dstance relationship for 1.5 years after that, i finished uni last month, and was getting everything together to go see him and eventually move to where he lives, ( that was our plan) but right before buying the plane ticket to go see him he told me he doesn´t love me anymore, and he´s really sorry but he can´t do this. this is the first time in 5 years he says he stopped loving me, all the other times we broke up was due to the distance factor. This time he told me that the love is gone. i was devastaded. i am now wondering, did he really stop loving me just like that? i need ananswer from a guy, from a guy´s perspective. whatthe #$" happened? ishe scared of commitment? is he ever going to regret this? i want to move on becuase i feel like i´vebeen had. i feel like he went too far. but i can´t stop wondering , is it possible to fall in love with someone again after you say the words " i am not in love with you anymore"? Please don´t tell me to move on and forget about the chance of reconciliation. i know i have to move on, but i need to know if he will ever regret this, i did some begging and pleading, i wasn´t going to let my relationship go without fighting but after a week i stopped and havent conected him in 6 weeks,. is this the end? please share your stories.
Love...a miracle Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Hi Mary, I also broke up recently. My girlfriend left me because she said our relationship was draining her emotionally and that she needed time to know herself better and deal with her emotional health. It is a very difficult concept to understand, but I have come to accept that if you truly love your significant other, you will give him/her the space they need to heal and discover their meaning in love. In the same respect, if your SO loves you they will return to you. I have been doing NC for a month now. It is incredibly hard. I have come to many revelations about my life. Whatever the outcome, I have come to respect myself and realise that circumstances are sometimes inevitable. Nevertheless, I am in love with my little bug and my heart is telling me that if our love is supreme she will return to me. Sending you positive thoughts and hugs
AllTooWell Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 The above post is very true and very well-worded. You don't need to forget the chance of reconciliation but the thing is only time will tell if he will regret it. No matter how much you tell us about your story, ONLY he can feel regret. No matter how much we analyze it or people advise him of it, it's one of those things that no one can predict. You need to go and live your life, and let what happens, happen. 1
Author marym84 Posted July 22, 2013 Author Posted July 22, 2013 this forum is really amazing, i´ve found very thoughful answers and great answers here. thank you !
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