henderson14 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I ended a relationship with this girl YEARS ago, and she is still sending me messages. For a while it was just voicemails, but she moved to facebook messages and emails. They got less and less frequent, but I haven't responded in 4 years! I just got one after 6 months, the longest ever. Should I just respond and find out what she wants from me, or keep ignoring her? I'm starting to feel sorry for her. I don't want to respond to her and then hear from her every month again.
shexy Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 There was probably something either about you or your past relationship with her that she still pines for....it is kind of sad, but she's probably just not let you go yet.
MrTurk Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 There was probably something either about you or your past relationship with her that she still pines for....it is kind of sad, but she's probably just not let you go yet. Thats a cute and naive answer Now for reality....shes got some issues if she still contacts you for that long with no response from you.
It-is-what-it-is. Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I ended a relationship with this girl YEARS ago, and she is still sending me messages. For a while it was just voicemails, but she moved to facebook messages and emails. They got less and less frequent, but I haven't responded in 4 years! I just got one after 6 months, the longest ever. Should I just respond and find out what she wants from me, or keep ignoring her? I'm starting to feel sorry for her. I don't want to respond to her and then hear from her every month again. Tough one. Could she have some communicable disease she needs to tell you about? Did she have your love child? Returning stolen $? No? Stalker...ignore.
Author henderson14 Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 I guess what I really want to know is that if I respond will it make things worse? Or vote for ignore?
veggirl Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I guess what I really want to know is that if I respond will it make things worse? Or vote for ignore? she will get all kinds of excited and encouraged if you respond. ignore and block.
InsaneTrombone Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 she will get all kinds of excited and encouraged if you respond. ignore and block. This .
Phoe Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Ignore. Responding will make it worse. An ex of mine from 7 years ago still calls and texts. I never answer. He has his friends call as well. He's also been known to use his friends facebook accounts to message me, so that I would not know it was him talking to me. Back when I was in college he drove all the way up and left a voicemail that he was "in the area, down by the dorms, just hanging out..." did not respond. Was completely freaked out. Last time I was able to speak to one of his friends I said that I want to be explicitly left alone and that I never want to EVER see or speak to him again and that he needs to respect that. He left me alone for a while...I made the mistake about 2 months ago of commenting on the status of one our mutual friends, who was at a concert of a band I really like. Turns out he was at the concert too. He called incessantly for a few weeks, and finally last week he showed up at my work. I freaked out and bolted to the break room, told security. I had to be escorted to my car, I was so unnerved.
MrTurk Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 You have to weigh your options. Does she know where you live currently? If she gets crazy, are you worried about your safety? I myself lead a bit of a boring life...and would probably choose to talk to her. I kind of have an interest in women that are a little off. I dated a girl that cut herself every so often, and when I caught her one time she tried to stab me . . .and I kept dating her
Author henderson14 Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 Looks like everyone says ignore. I just seriously want to do what is best for her. I'll be fine either way. She doesn't know where I live. I just want her to move on and be happy and I don't want any type of relationship with her. I feel bad for her. So sad.
It-is-what-it-is. Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 You have to weigh your options. Does she know where you live currently? If she gets crazy, are you worried about your safety? I myself lead a bit of a boring life...and would probably choose to talk to her. I kind of have an interest in women that are a little off. I dated a girl that cut herself every so often, and when I caught her one time she tried to stab me . . .and I kept dating her Are you this funny all the time or only on Friday nights?
MrTurk Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Are you this funny all the time or only on Friday nights? Usually all the time, but few pick up on it. But that story was true...she did try to attack me.
It-is-what-it-is. Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Usually all the time, but few pick up on it. But that story was true...she did try to attack me. I bet she was from Cuyahoga Falls...Cuyahoga Falls is pretty boring.. I just like to spell Cuyahoga.... Oh and OP don't answer /call unless there is anything she could say you want to know...like where you can find the buried treasure.
sillyanswer Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 facebook messages I'm sure there's a "block" button somewhere.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I have a freaky experience with some guy that knew me when we were kids. We live in different countries now. We used to live on the same street, and over a year ago he found me on FB. I didn't remember him at all, but thought it was cool and would chat on and off. Just boring stuff, nothing romantic. Then I got busy and forgot about it.....until I received a very angry email from him about the fact that I have been ignoring him. He deleted me on FB, then readded me few hours later. I responded to his email saying that he seems overly attached and I am sorry if I gave him the wrong idea. I thought that would be it. But then......he was sending me hearts and roses every few days...so I blocked him on FB because it was creeping me out. He sent emails in which he seems to know an awful lot about my life...(he asked my relatives and friends in my hometown about me). I tried with one last email: I was never romantically interested in you, please never contact me again. I still hear from him to this day. I block him immediately, but he has made a number of new email addresses and fake FB accounts. He even got his brother to try and add me on FB. Each time he get blocked, he will send me an angry message from a newly opened account. I have not responded to anything. This is probably the closest to the stalker that I have had in my life. The only good thing is that he lives over 24 hours flight away. Any message from him makes me immediately sick to my stomach
Author henderson14 Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 We should hook up some of these male stalkers with my female stalker. It would be a match made in......... Heaven?
Echo000 Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 well what is this ex writing to you? what do her messages say? if you are in no fear of your safety..idk im a curious guy i would find out what she wants if her messages are unclear. maybe give her closure in some way. but if responding would only make her come on stronger, leave it. block all that stuff
daftpunk Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 One message every six months (and the span between messages, from what you said, seems to be increasing) is not the end of the world. Just continue to ignore it if you've no interest in her or what she has to say. I can't think of anything more obvious.
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