Sneaky Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 So I returned to the social media me and my ex share today, I had not unblocked her instead I just kept away from the site for nearly two months with the intention of reaching out and at least be friends when I felt ready. Though I do not know how I feel about that original prospect at the moment. I just felt agitated that I was putting everything else on hold to try and move on. I’m not sure what happened but one of her updates just said “bye” I clicked on it and her entire profile was cleared out with only that message left. Now I panicked at first that something had happened but I quickly found out she just made a new profile and that’s fine and probably healthier since we won’t be notified of each other’s activity. I guess I broke no contact by looking at her profile, so that’s kind of weak and it really did make me feel terrible but at the same time I feel like there’s a great weight lifted off my shoulders because I don’t feel the need to avoid some of my hobbies and interests anymore. I have no intention of contacting her and if I do, I'll just post here so you can all shout at me instead. Thank you for reading.
Author Sneaky Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 (edited) Okay it's a day later and I just feel kind of awful now. I'm thinking maybe I wasn't ready to try and return to the hobbies and social media we shared. I've only seen a picture of her the one time yesterday, I did not read any of her updates or anything at all and still she's back to being all I can think about. I don't even feel sad I'm not even sure how I feel anymore... I just want her out of my head. Edit: Okay so she just blocked me on Skype even though I did not reach out or anything... that really really hurts because I was hoping to at least be friends at some point. I guess at least I won't be tempted to contact her, I guess. Edited July 20, 2013 by Sneaky
Author Sneaky Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 Does anyone have any input on this? Because getting blocked really made me confused. I don't know if she just didn't want to be reminded of me anymore because it hurts or if she's angry or what... and if she's angry, why now when I haven't said a word in over fifty days... This really hurts badly because I really wanted to be friends in the future once I got past my emotions and now it's just like she cut me out of her life.
JDPT Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 She is dealing with moving on hence why she blocked you and quiet honestly she is not looking for your friendship and neither should you. Start by accepting that she is not looking for friendship all she wants is to move on. Be strong and in control and start your healing process, don't waste your time and energy on someone who does not want you in her life, save yourself future grief and move on. 1
Author Sneaky Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 I did some thinking on this and you are right. It’s her life and she does not wish me to be part of it: that’s her decision. I’m not going to pretend that I’m blameless or anything, I should have started respecting her wishes a long time ago, but I’ll respect them now and stay away. Thank you for helping, I do appreciate it. 1
ruby77 Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 I blocked my ex boyfriend on all social media. Not because I'm angry with him or hate him but for my own sanity and because I cannot bear to see anything that reminds me of him. I can't heal if I'm constantly updated on his life. Don't take it personally. 2
Author Sneaky Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 (edited) I blocked my ex boyfriend on all social media. Not because I'm angry with him or hate him but for my own sanity and because I cannot bear to see anything that reminds me of him. I can't heal if I'm constantly updated on his life. Don't take it personally. That makes sense, it was impossible for me to start moving on before I decided to stay away from social media entirely, because I would constantly see what she was up to and it drove me insane. (Not that I'm completely over it yet so this was probably healthiest for both of us.) I was just very confused on why she would need that space when I am the one that was dumped. She seemed very indifferent and at the end even annoyed whenever I tried to reach out before I started NC, so I always assumed she had moved way on already. Anyway, thank you for replying. Edited July 21, 2013 by Sneaky
JDPT Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 (edited) I am realizing after three months of breaking up that NC although as excruciating as it may be is the healthies way to start our healing process. All this pain will eventually make sense and make us realize that we had to go through all these phases in order to reach a better place. Edited July 21, 2013 by JDPT 1
Author Sneaky Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 I agree, after the initial shock wore down and I started to think about it; I realized I feel kind of fine about this blocking thing. While a while ago before I started NC it would have totally devastated me. What's really strange is that at some level I actually feel better than I did the day before because she finally showed me that I had an impact on her as well. Not that the thought is giving me any false hope or anything, like I said it is her life and her decision. It's just somehow comforting after all the time spent with a bruised ego that she did not just flip a switch like what we had meant nothing to her, if that makes sense. 1
TaraMaiden Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Could I respectfully suggest you quit over-thinking this? She's your ex, you're hers. She's moved on. Do the same. Life is a big thing, go grab it, don't confine yourself to this little box of torturous thought-processes. It really isn't worth the wasted time. 1
Author Sneaky Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 I can see where you are coming from and I did not mean to give the impression that I was. I did not spend much time thinking about this at all today, like I said I feel kind of fine with it now I don't feel tortured at all. I just remembered reading the first reply yesterday and did not have time to respond at the time so was doing so now. 1
JDPT Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 My ex did work a number on me, it was abruptly over no explanations no reason I was just done. Things happen for a reason. We will learn from all mistakes and become more experienced individuals. This past relationship has thought me the dos and don'ts and what I look for in a partner. 1
Author Sneaky Posted August 2, 2013 Author Posted August 2, 2013 Okay it's been a week now and for some reason this is really getting to me now though it did not initially. She activated the old account just to unfriend me on it the other day... what the hell? She's not even using it, what's the point? I feel so pissed off at the moment and I'm not sure if I won't cave this weekend. It's been two months since we talked at all and still she has this effect on me. She's probably having a great time at the moment while I'm sitting here feeling like I haven't moved on at all. I'm just so full of doubt and I wish this would just end already. Goddamnit, I was feeling fine just last week. Okay, rant over.
Chi townD Posted August 2, 2013 Posted August 2, 2013 She's figuring out that you're finally coming back on the social media scene. So, she's safeguarding her life and privacy. I wouldn't over think it. Actually, she's doing you a favor! She's doing all the hard work for you! 1
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