Pisces13 Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 (edited) I met this awesome girl 4 weeks ago and I felt an instant connection with her. The first couple of weeks was just texting, but we finally met up and had our first date two weeks ago. We've had 3 more dates since within the last 2 weeks. Date #1: Dinner and quiet drinks. Date wasn't perfect, but went pretty well. She texted me right after saying she had a lovely night, and then texted me again the next day telling me to set up another date. Nothing physical happened. Date #2: Dinner and a movie. Again wasn't perfect, but we both had a good night and she again texted me right after saying she had a good night, and told me again to plan our next date. Again nothing physical happened. Date #3: Went to a nightclub. I was pretty physical with her this time, I made out with her, put my arm around her, held her hand, danced with her etc. she was in return as well, initiated kissing me, grabbed my had, put my arms around her etc. She texted me again right after we left telling me how she had a great night, how I was pretty much perfect, that I'm a great kisser and how she wished she was snuggling up to me at home. She texted me again the next day reiterating how good a night she had. Date #4: Dinner. This felt like the worst of our dates, she didn't seem overly focused and checked her phone a lot. She did say she was quite tired, but still. The night wasn't bad, but wasn't great. She reiterated again how good a night she had on our last date, she told me again that I'm a really good kisser, she also told me that her friend that was with us really liked me and also that her Mum likes me too I held her hand again, and made out with her at the end of the night. She still texted me after thanking me for a good night, and emphatically told me once again that I really am a good kisser, to which I replied saying I wish I had of kissed her more and she replied saying "me too" (she replied again saying she is shy and doesn't initiate things). I asked her if maybe she wanted to do something this Saturday night, she said she was keen, but she "would let me know", she hasn't mentioned anything about it since... Note: In between date 2 and 3, we had another scheduled, but she cancelled saying she was sick, we then met up the next night which was date #3 (she asked me to come out). I've made it pretty clear to this girl that I like her and want something more with her, but I don't feel like I'm getting much in return from her apart from little hints. She has started taking longer replying to her text messages over the last week and a bit as well. She does have a pretty hectic job, and a fairly busy social life, so I'm partially putting it down to that, but she still seemed to be a lot more prompt replying over the first 2 weeks we were texting. Her vague response to going on another date in addition to the waning texting has me questioning though if maybe she is trying to let me down easily? Or knowing how I feel about her, is it possible she is now playing hard to get? Any ideas?? Edited July 19, 2013 by Pisces13
Axee Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Its too early to say anything.. I would suggest you continue the same way without doubting her.. It will be clearer in some time ..
404namenotfound Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Sounds like its going alright to me. I'd just try being a little more flirty myself and then ask her out on a more low key date like a park or something where you can really make out and hold hands more. 1
Author Pisces13 Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 Well I guess she isn't trying to let me down easy after all lol, we went out again for dinner last night and then took a nice stroll down along the river. We made out a lot more, and cuddled up to each other a lot. I wasn't planning on it, but things felt like they were going so well that I actually asked her to be my girlfriend. She said she isn't ready yet though, but that she isn't saying No, I think she might have a few concerns about me and my ex, as like 5 minutes after she asked me if I'm still in contact with her. I felt really stupid for asking, but oh well, I really really like this girl, and I think after 5 dates you have a pretty decent idea of what you want. She is perfect in my eyes, everything I love in a girl and more and I've felt a strong connection to her since the moment we first met, something that doesn't happen easily for me. I know that I don't want to see anyone else, so I thought why not ask. I completely understand where she is coming from though, it's still early days yet I guess, I told her I can wait. At least she knows what I'm looking for with her. She texted me after she got home saying that she is "liking me more and more" and then told me I'm a catch, so that is good I guess!
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 You are being really passive OP. Why is she doing all the texting and initiating?
Author Pisces13 Posted July 21, 2013 Author Posted July 21, 2013 You are being really passive OP. Why is she doing all the texting and initiating? She isn't. I asked her on the first date, and was planning on asking her on the second one a couple days after, didn't expect her to text me the next day telling me to organize another. I then organized the second one, and after that was again going to ask her out, but I didn't expect her to text right after telling me to plan the next one. I asked her on our date last night as well. I initiate texts with her too, seems to be one day I'll initiate, then the next it's her and so on.
phineas Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Had a date, contacted her next day. She got back & said she had fun but thought the distance would be a problem. We are talking a 40min drive tops. It's a BS excuse, message was received, number deleted. Learn to ignore what is said & just look at actions. The reasons why you are not going to go out with her should be like water on a ducks ass to you since the end result is no date. 1
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 She isn't. I asked her on the first date, and was planning on asking her on the second one a couple days after, didn't expect her to text me the next day telling me to organize another. I then organized the second one, and after that was again going to ask her out, but I didn't expect her to text right after telling me to plan the next one. I asked her on our date last night as well. I initiate texts with her too, seems to be one day I'll initiate, then the next it's her and so on. Hey, little tip for you if you're interested. I know you're excited and you're probably a decent guy, but don't get overzealous. Sometimes ladies can't handle when someone is being overly assertive. They think its being pushy. In other words, don't focus too much on her; make sure you have your own life and don't build yourself up around her and what she's doing, especially this early on. That's what it sounds like she's doing.
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 she replied again saying she is shy and doesn't initiate things She's definitely not shy, that's for sure, she's done a lot of contacting and initiating. It doesn't matter right now since things are going alright, but if she ever tries to use that excuse again you can be sure it's just an that - an excuse. Just sayin.
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