girlygirlgirl Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. He was so love,sweet and caring. He is the nicest person I have ever met. I just felt no spark and thought it would wrong to string him along, then have to breakup years later. He was really upset at the time. I saw him recently and he looks so good! He's always been into fitness but didn't take it that seriously while we were going out. He seems really confident and maybe a touch arrogant. He has lost so much weight and looks really toned up. From what I have been told, he is really getting his life on track now. Why has this happened? I am happy for him, but he was so sad a little while ago
xilver Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. He was so love,sweet and caring. He is the nicest person I have ever met. I just felt no spark and thought it would wrong to string him along, then have to breakup years later. He was really upset at the time. I saw him recently and he looks so good! He's always been into fitness but didn't take it that seriously while we were going out. He seems really confident and maybe a touch arrogant. He has lost so much weight and looks really toned up. From what I have been told, he is really getting his life on track now. Why has this happened? I am happy for him, but he was so sad a little while ago That's the best way to start feeling good again. He could have kept on feeling sorry for himself or done something about it. He chose the latter and that is great for him. When you really think about it the most important thing in life is the health and well being of yourself and those closest to you. It's easy to get complacent in a rel, and slack off on eating right and working out. Working out also reduces stress and makes you feel good about yourself, so maybe it became like a drug for him that he couldn't get enough of and now you are seeing the results.
HobGadling Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Being dumped was the wake up call he needed. People get complacent in a relationship. When you are happy with someone you feel more relaxed. You don't get so uptight about eating/drinking/doing certain things. This usually means you might put on a little weight. You also might feel more settled so become less outgoing. Basically. You put on weight and become boring. You worry about it. But hey, you have someone who loves you just the way you are right? When you break up you realise you need to get back in shape. You also have more free time to devote to self-improvement. That's it really. He doesn't want it to happen again.
wantex Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. He was so love,sweet and caring. He is the nicest person I have ever met. I just felt no spark and thought it would wrong to string him along, then have to breakup years later. He was really upset at the time. I saw him recently and he looks so good! He's always been into fitness but didn't take it that seriously while we were going out. He seems really confident and maybe a touch arrogant. He has lost so much weight and looks really toned up. From what I have been told, he is really getting his life on track now. Why has this happened? I am happy for him, but he was so sad a little while ago you are just happy coz he isn't sad or you feel a small spark when you saw him?
Woggle Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Be honest are you starting to get feelings now that he seems happy without you?
Author girlygirlgirl Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 I don't love him. I have hardly seen him or spoke to him. Maybe jealous and annoyed, I dunno why. I didn't want him to, but I was worried he would go to pieces. It seems likes everything he wanted to to in life, he put off when we were together. It look like he is now really getting it together, and doing it. I am happy for him, but feel sort of offended. Did I mean nothing to him all along? I was convinced he was going to go back to smoking and taking drugs and drinking. Especially after seeing his reaction to us breaking up. I am just a little shocked I really don't want to lose him from my life completely. I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks. I don't know if he wants to talk to me anymore.
Woggle Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 If you broke up with him why does this bother you? Let him be? Why does it offend you that he is not falling to pieces?
JDPT Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 Sounds to me like misery loves company. I'm glad he got it together regardless of how devastated he looked during the break up, good for him you should also be happy that he is proactively doing things to better his physical appearance and state of mind. Your ex is a role model to us who are still struggling.
wantex Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I don't love him. I have hardly seen him or spoke to him. Maybe jealous and annoyed, I dunno why. I didn't want him to, but I was worried he would go to pieces. It seems likes everything he wanted to to in life, he put off when we were together. It look like he is now really getting it together, and doing it. I am happy for him, but feel sort of offended. Did I mean nothing to him all along? I was convinced he was going to go back to smoking and taking drugs and drinking. Especially after seeing his reaction to us breaking up. I am just a little shocked I really don't want to lose him from my life completely. I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks. I don't know if he wants to talk to me anymore. you don't love him but you wonder why he isn't speaking to you
daftpunk Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 I don't love him. I have hardly seen him or spoke to him. Maybe jealous and annoyed, I dunno why. I didn't want him to, but I was worried he would go to pieces. It seems likes everything he wanted to to in life, he put off when we were together. It look like he is now really getting it together, and doing it. I am happy for him, but feel sort of offended. Did I mean nothing to him all along? I was convinced he was going to go back to smoking and taking drugs and drinking. Especially after seeing his reaction to us breaking up. I am just a little shocked I really don't want to lose him from my life completely. I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks. I don't know if he wants to talk to me anymore. You don't love him. You got involved with him knowing this and dumped him after awhile. And now you're mad at him for doing something positive to numb the obvious pain of you leaving him. I wouldn't talk to you either. 2
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