Jayman Posted October 27, 2004 Posted October 27, 2004 amerikajin , You are right on the age thing . When I met my soon to be x she was 27 . Now my thing was that I didn't want to date anyone under 25 for the same reason's you stated that whole life experience thing is the best to make some one grow up . I'v said it on this site before she ,my girlfriend , picked the best time to screw up . This time next year the show I work for will be national . And needless to say what single mother would not want to date a guy who work's on a national children's TV show ??? I'v teated the water's since finding out about her game's . Water is real nice I mean really nice .
Author MelodyJ Posted October 28, 2004 Author Posted October 28, 2004 Ok, now that I am activated I can respond. Attie, you know not what you speak. Gutless witch? I stayed in a bad situation much too long thinking that somehow, it would change. That if I tried hard enough, HE would change. Never happened. I didn't want to uproot the kids because between myself and their dad they had moved 4 times already. But, I did niot deserve to be critisized, called every name under the sun, accused of f*g someone every time the clock passed the time he felt it should take for me to get home from work. Overtime? No way, you will be home at this time every night. Travel for my job, no! But he sure likes my paycheck, because it is bigger than his. And my child support goes to the household account, not toward my children, unless he says it is ok to buy them things, I don't. Or, should say did'nt. Now, I am going to do what I want. I can't try anymore. No one will ever scream at me, call me the "C" word, push me or pull my hair again. I tried everything. I am a beautiful woman, maybe a little vain, but it is no lie. Nails done, hair and makeup perfect. Toes painted to match. Greet him after his work day in a sexy outfit, lasagne in the oven, apple pie on the counter, his favorite drink, the house all clean and candles burning and Van Morrison playing in the background. What do I get? Thanks, and then ignored. When I tried to approach him for intimacy, I get rejected. He says men that melt for a pretty girl, or a sexy advance are weak, he does'nt fall for the "Power of the Pu**y" as he calls it. What, you expect to get layed because you made lasagne? Yeah, I do!!! Especially if its only 2x per month, and that may be one of them. One time I was feeling, you know, we were in bed and he was ignoring me. Reading. Kids were gone (we only have them every other week) so I reached out to touch him, he pushed my hand away. So I got up, wet over tohis side and crawled up his leg to his .... and attempted to perform on him, he said "don't , I m not in the mood" so I said "Well, then I'll put you in the mood" and I put my face in his lap. He grabbed the back of my hair, not gently either, lifted my head up and growled that I had a lousy sense of timing, what don't I understand! I was shocked, and humiliated beyond belief. I guess I did'nt realize there was a good or bad time for a B.J., my mistake. That will never happen again, and it has'nt. I think he is bi-polar, and I am afraid of him.
Author MelodyJ Posted October 28, 2004 Author Posted October 28, 2004 Gloating? That would imply that I am proud of cheating. If I was proud of it, why would I wait so long to do it? As an attractive sales rep in a male dominate field, and terriories in L.A and O.C., their is no shortage of opportunities if that's what I wanted. So gloating, no. Confessing, maybe. Sharing it makes it real, not like the dream that I have in my head. I did it, I think about it, and I guess, maybe I do feel a little guilty for not ending my situation first. Stupid maybe, but not gloating. But thanks for the input.
Naive Posted October 28, 2004 Posted October 28, 2004 Originally posted by Ms. M As an attractive sales rep in a male dominate field, and terriories in L.A and O.C., their is no shortage of opportunities if that's what I wanted. Definitely not gloating.
Author MelodyJ Posted October 28, 2004 Author Posted October 28, 2004 Gloat: To feel or express great, often malicious joy or self satisfaction. Sorry, I still don't see gloating in anything I have posted. I am far from a malicious personality. I am actually a very nice lady, a good friend, and a great mom. I do have confidence in myself and what I have realized I want out of life, if that is bad, then so be it.
StillHurtin Posted October 30, 2004 Posted October 30, 2004 Your BF sounds like a lot like how my own dh use to be b4 he quit drinking. He wasn't so controlling, but he did call me names a lot, accussed me of cheating every time I went out w/ my friends. BUT I never once cheated on him. I guess it was b/c I made my vows to him and God that I would be faithful and no matter how bad it got, I was. He on the other hand was not. Anyhow, I think you either need to get the he!! out or MAKE him go get help. He could have Bi-polar (my sister does and is on meds). He needs to get help. Either he does it or you and your children LEAVE. I know how hard it is, believe me, I went through it. It's not easy. Don't wait for him to seriously hurt you or your children. Go to a woman's shelter if there is one available in your area. Get out. He doesn't sound like he is going to change. Life is way to short to be living like this.
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