mearl20 Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Back in January I met a guy and found out he went to my high school. We never talked in high school even though we graduated together and it was a small school (he was a "popular kid" haha). At the bar though he bought me a drink, we talked, danced and exchanged numbers. We go to different schools an hour away so we would text frequently. We talked about anything and everything and I know a lot about him now. I once visited him at school for his nephews birthday (he has older siblings too). Then I stayed the night, and he found out I am a virgin. He then told me all about his number and his past ex gfs as well about his family. After that I think he freaked out and only talked to me every once in awhile. He also told me a couple months ago his gf of 3 years broke up with him so he was still heartbroken and was trying to be by himself for awhile, so I have him his space and distanced myself. Recently, he started talking to me more and commenting and liking pictures on Facebook (random ones too). He was also asking how my vacations were and that he's jealous and we snapchat a lot as well. Last week he told me to visit him, and I was wary because of last time and thinking he was using me. But I went anyways and I met him at his work and we hung out there for awhile and talked to some of his coworkers. We then drove to his house so he could change and we could go out to a country dance bar place. The whole way to his house, we playfully argued, fought and laughed. Then we picked up his friend (also went to our hs) and went to the bar. He paid for me to get in and for my drinks. He started getting a little drunk (he even apologized for it). At the bar, there was a poster that said "wanted $6500 reward" for the theme of the place and he looked at it and said "we can get that money and go live far away by ourselves". It was completely random and I was not expecting it. Then when he went to talk to people he knew or to the bathroom, his friend out of the blue asked me "so do you like him?" And I told him yeah I did and that he's nice. He then told me that he's a good guy and a good bf and that he likes me, he could tell. I questioned him a little and told him the guy I like goes back and forth but he said to trust him and that I'm all he ever talks about (not sure if he made that part up or not). Then he said to ask him what his intentions were and he kept telling me to ask him, multiple times. The whole night the guy I was with was all over me, joking with me, hugging me, putting his arms around me, kissing me on the cheek, even when there were people talking to him and his friend, he would direct his attention toward me (mind you, he was a little drunk). He would put his arm around me when I laid on his shoulder as well. He brought up intentions and asked me what mine were then I asked him too, and he wouldn't answer and said "idk", but he wanted me to tell him first. I was too scared to say I wanted to date him seriously in case it was too soon. We went to his place and I could tell he wanted to sleep with me, it was obvious, but I kept reminding him I didn't want to and then he would keep telling me he just wants to make out with me and that he loves kissing me. Eventually he passed out because he was pretty drunk at this point. He told me before he never cuddles yet this night he would switch off between spooning me and sleeping on one side of the bed. When we woke up and I had to leave he brought me to my car and would look at me a lot and talked and joked again. He only hugged me goodbye but I saw him look at me for a long time before I drove away. He then stopped in his car to make sure I knew how to get out of the town and to text him when I get home safe. He then texted me right after and still texts me a lite (this was wed we saw each other). Before I left, he also said he was coming to my town for a concert with his family (he even told me to buy tickets), but that we should hang out as well as hang out next week when he's free. Today he said he wanted to hang out after I work but now he's not texting as much and he told me he might stop by my work but he's going to be with his nephew (which I understand). I'm just very confused with this guy. I'm really comfortable with him and feel like he is a great guy but tends to be flaky. Is he using me? Why is he so confusing? Any thoughts on his behavior? Thanks!
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