kvfox2004 Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 Greetings all, I have been in a relationship with a man 10 years older than me for a year and a half. We waited until 9 months into the relationship to have sex. We have always used a condom. Now he wants to use a non-barrier type of birth control so that we can have unrestricted sex. I am torn about this subject. I love him, but what if I regret this? Please respond?
UCFKevin Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 Use a condom. If you have ANY hesitation about doing it his way, don't do it his way. He can't make you do anything and if he gets pissed that you still want to use condoms, tough for him it's your body, he's not the one who could get pregnant.
honey2005 Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 I agree with Kevin. If you're not comfortable having sex without a condom don't do it. Birth control can't protect against STD's so it would be safter to continue using a condom, even if you do decide to use another form of birth control.
surfergirl Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 By all means keep that thing covered. Natural is way better feeling but it's just not safe. Don't risk it.....it's not worth the worry in the long run.
Amethyst Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 As others have said, birth control pills don't protect you from HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. A little more pleasure is not worth your life!
Naive Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 By the way your post comes across, I have to say USE A CONDOM!!!
ps123 Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 Is he willing to get tested? Do you feel you need to get tested? Maybe you could go together to do it. Plus that way youll know he actually went. If he wont get tested...then use the condoms.
Amethyst Posted October 26, 2004 Posted October 26, 2004 Originally posted by ps123 Is he willing to get tested? Do you feel you need to get tested? Maybe you could go together to do it. Plus that way youll know he actually went. If he wont get tested...then use the condoms. Even if he gets tested, they need to use a condom. Some diseases will only show up on tests at certain times (like when they aren't lying dormant). Besides, there's always the chance he'll sleep with someone else.
faux Posted October 26, 2004 Posted October 26, 2004 Originally posted by Amethyst Even if he gets tested, they need to use a condom. Some diseases will only show up on tests at certain times (like when they aren't lying dormant). If they both get tested, specifically request what to get tested for (so that they are tested for everything), and wait the appointed period of time to ensure that they are both 'clean', there is no problem. After this time, it is possible for the woman to consider an alternative form of contraception. I think it may be something to look into, as the couple did wait nine months before engaging in intercourse. Besides, there's always the chance he'll sleep with someone else. There is a chance she might sleep with someone else, too.
Amethyst Posted October 26, 2004 Posted October 26, 2004 Originally posted by faux There is a chance she might sleep with someone else, too. Yes, and I didn't mean to imply otherwise. I simply meant that she shouldn't blindly accept that he's being faithful and play around with her health.
snilljente Posted November 6, 2004 Posted November 6, 2004 "Even if he gets tested, they need to use a condom. Some diseases will only show up on tests at certain times (like when they aren't lying dormant)." Even if they are dormant...won't they show up when you get tested?...I have Herpes which has only flared up ONE TIME (the first time)...and has been dormant since..but if I had a Herpes test, it would still be positive...
Amethyst Posted November 6, 2004 Posted November 6, 2004 Originally posted by snilljente Even if they are dormant...won't they show up when you get tested?...I have Herpes which has only flared up ONE TIME (the first time)...and has been dormant since..but if I had a Herpes test, it would still be positive... My mother has herpes, too. She was tested for it once (after being raped), and told she didn't have it. A few months later, she had an outbreak (and hadn't had sex since the rape). When she questioned the doctor about it, he said that when the disease is dormant it isn't present in the bloodstream (only in a particular gland or something), so it might not show in a test.
snilljente Posted November 6, 2004 Posted November 6, 2004 Yes, ok...I didn't know that....charming isn't is...I had regular STD screenings and was careful..now I have the lovely H thing....it sucks....I am not a slut....I have made mistakes, but not a slut...I always thought of people with STDs as promiscuous....How is your mom handling it...is she still married to your dad or does she have a SO?
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