evviebee Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 so I totally feel like one of those stupid girls that already knows the answer to her question, but I still feel it necessary to lay my feelings and concerns out in black and white. long story super short: boyfriend of 5 months bailed on the relationship due to him being too depressed to put forth effort. I have been in no contact since the breakup (6 months ago) aside from the ex sending me happy birthday texts and trying to make closure type phone calls (which I did not answer). about a month and a half ago, he had texted me at 3 in the morning with a simple "hey!". it had been at least 3 months since he had last tried to contact me prior to this so it had taken me off guard. I actually found myself quite angry that he had broken the silence because I had been doing well in regards to moving on with my life and being content with single life. i responded with "who's this?" and he in turn said nothing back to me. although i should have been pleased with myself, i beat myself up a bit worrying as to what could have happened had I responded pleasantly. a week after his attempt at contacting me, I gave in and called him and didn't receive an answer which left me feeling quite disheartened. so here we are present day, he was on my mind and I was in a state of mind where I felt as though I could text him without being affected if the conversation didn't go well. He has definitely been on the brain more so lately because this is the time of year where he and I first began seeing each other. I said to him, "Nights like tonight, I think of you and all of the good times we had on my porch swing." He responded with, "Really... So you do know who this is lol." Our conversation was filled with lots of "How are you" "How's work...school...your mom, etc." He did however, say things that gave me hope that he misses me such as telling me that he still listens to the mix CD I made him, that he will help me always, and that he will always see me as a "down ass chick" (yeah his words, not mine). Our conversation ended with him saying that we should catch up and hang out soon. I am now analyzing the crap out of this little conversation, but I can't help it as I never really believed that he wanted to break up. It all seemed so sudden to me. It has been three days now though and I haven't heard so much as a peep from him. Should I get my hopes up for reconciliation? Or is this him just making sure he can still affect me?
StrongLass Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Should I get my hopes up for reconciliation?...Or is this him just making sure he can still affect me? 1.Absolutely not. 2. Yes. You slipped up & let him know how much he's still effecting you with your little "Who's this?"/"I remember when" f*ck up. He did however, say things that gave me hope that he misses me such as telling me that he still listens to the mix CD I made him, that he will help me always, and that he will always see me as a "down ass chick" (yeah his words, not mine). Our conversation ended with him saying that we should catch up and hang out soon. That's friendzone talk & you know it, you're just chasing your tail at this point hoping for a different answer.
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