lillybear1 Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 NOTICE: I know this is long, but I promise it is all relevant and you will be beyond awesome if you'd help a girl out. So, I met this guy via online dating. We had been talking for 3 months or so and our conversations were great. Even though I never had intentions of actually meeting anyone off there (myf riend made a profile for me so she wouldn't feel bad about her own) he was really, really nice, so when he asked to meet in person, I was game. So, we met and went out to eat. Turns out he was a lot cuter in person than his pictures portrayed, so I got really nervous when I saw him haha. I think we both were nervous, at least a little, so the first part of the date was kind of awkward, but I feel like we settled into it after a bit. Overall, I thought it went well. At the end, he walked me to my car and hugged me, so I thought that was a good sign, too. I left the date being quite interested in a second date. Problem is a never heard from him. After talking to friends, I realized that I had maybe come off as uninterested. I paid for my meal before he could offer, drove myself, and cut the date short. So, I figured I'd shoot him a text to make sure that wasn't the case. I sent one around lunchtime that basically said that I had had a good time and thanked him for driving down. That night, he texted me back and basically said that he had had a good time, too! So, I texted him, wished him a safe trip on a weekend trip he was taking, and that was it. Still didn't hear from him. SO, my best friend visited 2 weekends ago and I was telling her about it. She decided to take my phone from me and texted him asking if he wanted to hang out sometime. I was a little irritated at first, but then I realized that then, at least I would know either way, because I had been pretty stuck on it since. So, 5 days goes by and I hadn't heard from him and I had figured he wasn't interested and then Friday morning I get a text message from him apologizing profusely and explaining how busy he had been, but that hanging out sounded good! I had no time to text him back as I was w/ my good friend shopping for her wedding dress, but I texted him back that night and put the ball in his court to plan it. Never got a text back about that, but the next day he texted me asking if I'd seen some movie that came out at least 5 years ago. So, I texted him back and from then on, we've been having a conversation, but the texts have been being sent from him at least 24 hours apart. He apologizes every time and all, but really? I understand if you're busy and he's told me that his life has been crazy here lately, but are you really THAT busy? It's not like I want to go back to high school or something and text him all the time. I'm not about that life nor do I have time for it, but it'd be nice to have a normal conversation w/ him every once in a while. I feel like he's not interested b/c of that, but then again, why say that you want to hang out? Why text me back at all after 5 days? So, I think he's interested at least a little, but I don't know. Sorry this is longish. What do y'all think? Interested or no? What should I do?
todreaminblue Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 I dont know if he is interested, not texting back sounds like he isnt into pursuing you...why not call him and ask him out, you have had one date already, that is the only way you will know for sure..ask him if you really like him, or let it go.......good luck.....deb
shexy Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 He doesn't sound interested to me. If he was, he could find 5 seconds in his day to text back. 2
Author lillybear1 Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 Wellll, he just texted me haha. what do you know. Issue still stands though.
FitChick Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Call, don't text. If you have to, set up a time for a phone call to discuss time and place and activities of your next meeting. It's not like you're a stranger. 1
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 NOTICE: I know this is long, but I promise it is all relevant and you will be beyond awesome if you'd help a girl out. So, I met this guy via online dating. We had been talking for 3 months or so and our conversations were great. Even though I never had intentions of actually meeting anyone off there (myf riend made a profile for me so she wouldn't feel bad about her own) he was really, really nice, so when he asked to meet in person, I was game. So, we met and went out to eat. Turns out he was a lot cuter in person than his pictures portrayed, so I got really nervous when I saw him haha. I think we both were nervous, at least a little, so the first part of the date was kind of awkward, but I feel like we settled into it after a bit. Overall, I thought it went well. At the end, he walked me to my car and hugged me, so I thought that was a good sign, too. I left the date being quite interested in a second date. Problem is a never heard from him. After talking to friends, I realized that I had maybe come off as uninterested. I paid for my meal before he could offer, drove myself, and cut the date short. So, I figured I'd shoot him a text to make sure that wasn't the case. I sent one around lunchtime that basically said that I had had a good time and thanked him for driving down. That night, he texted me back and basically said that he had had a good time, too! So, I texted him, wished him a safe trip on a weekend trip he was taking, and that was it. Still didn't hear from him. SO, my best friend visited 2 weekends ago and I was telling her about it. She decided to take my phone from me and texted him asking if he wanted to hang out sometime. I was a little irritated at first, but then I realized that then, at least I would know either way, because I had been pretty stuck on it since. So, 5 days goes by and I hadn't heard from him and I had figured he wasn't interested and then Friday morning I get a text message from him apologizing profusely and explaining how busy he had been, but that hanging out sounded good! I had no time to text him back as I was w/ my good friend shopping for her wedding dress, but I texted him back that night and put the ball in his court to plan it. Never got a text back about that, but the next day he texted me asking if I'd seen some movie that came out at least 5 years ago. So, I texted him back and from then on, we've been having a conversation, but the texts have been being sent from him at least 24 hours apart. He apologizes every time and all, but really? I understand if you're busy and he's told me that his life has been crazy here lately, but are you really THAT busy? It's not like I want to go back to high school or something and text him all the time. I'm not about that life nor do I have time for it, but it'd be nice to have a normal conversation w/ him every once in a while. I feel like he's not interested b/c of that, but then again, why say that you want to hang out? Why text me back at all after 5 days? So, I think he's interested at least a little, but I don't know. Sorry this is longish. What do y'all think? Interested or no? What should I do? Basically his life is hectic, or you're just not at the top of his priorities. I wouldn't stick around waiting. I wouldn't do this to someone myself (what he's doin'), but other people do. 1
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 He doesn't sound interested to me. If he was, he could find 5 seconds in his day to text back. I agree. If it were the other way around though and the guy wanted a text back, he'd be seen as a bad guy.
ddlovexx Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 I'd say forget about him. I know it's somewhat tough, but if a guy is interested, YOU WILL KNOW. You won't be writing on LS to us asking for our help because you'll be talking to him. 2
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 I'd say forget about him. I know it's somewhat tough, but if a guy is interested, YOU WILL KNOW. You won't be writing on LS to us asking for our help because you'll be talking to him. Here's an example OP. Hey, Ddlove. Yeah, you. How you doin'? Girl, you are gorgeous. How about you come up and see me some time?
StayBeautiful Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 He is 100% not interested. Next time your "friend grabs the phone", grab it back and delete his number. He's doing the typical thing of - ignore....ignore....text ....ignore.... ignore ....ignore.... ignore.... text... text...ignore - hoping you get the message, then giving in when he's bored, then forgetting you again. You can either choose to stop playing the game, or you can push for another date - which you'll probably get - and then go through the same thing afterwards. Men who want to date you - ask you and date you. Men who don't - keep you hanging around with texts because they can't commit to cutting you off "just in case" 1
PutARingOnIt Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Too busy to send a text? People need to stop using that as an excuse. If your phone rings and you answer it, chances are you see that you have a text message waiting. It only takes two seconds to reply. LOL. He is so not interested. On to the next. 1
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 He is 100% not interested. Next time your "friend grabs the phone", grab it back and delete his number. He's doing the typical thing of - ignore....ignore....text ....ignore.... ignore ....ignore.... ignore.... text... text...ignore - hoping you get the message, then giving in when he's bored, then forgetting you again. You can either choose to stop playing the game, or you can push for another date - which you'll probably get - and then go through the same thing afterwards. Men who want to date you - ask you and date you. Men who don't - keep you hanging around with texts because they can't commit to cutting you off "just in case" Some women do that too. That's life...That's what all the people say
blueskyday Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Next time he texts, text back "Call me" Really, for whatever reason, he's lazy and not pursuing. This makes for a very bad boyfriend if things should continue....
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