Talulah Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 So, my ex and I both worked and dated abroad. He left about a month ago, broke up with me, we still had to work together and live right next to each other for the next month and a half. We decided to remain friends, but he used it to sloowwwlllyyyy get over the relationship, while I just tried to ignore him at work. He left at the end of June and we talked last Wednesday. He said something about an e-mail that he supposedly send me but that I never got. Then, we e-mailed the next day. This week, he decided to e-mail some people at work and some people that he knows in town, along with some of his friends back home with an e-mail saying goodbye to most of them and updating everyone on his trip with pictures. He sent me and his sister the first part of his 'blog'. I was really humiliated at work because I did not get the e-mail, everyone assumed that I did. I don't know if he truly forgot or not, but I am super hurt by this and now really am focused on working on myself. He has a facebook account, which he barely checks (he told everyone that he doesn't have one), blocked him from Skype and made a filter for his e-mails. I truly wanted to be friends, but if he doesn't care then why does he keep doing stuff to hurt me???!!! I wouldn't do that to someone else, and for what? So, yea I might lose him forever, but I would really like to gain myself back. I like myself a lot. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Easily the best decision you've ever made! Please, DO NOT STRAY FROM THIS! I'm almost a year out and I backtracked today and saw my ex sucking face with new dude and it set me back so far. You need to do this and stay strong. I fully support you
Author Talulah Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 Easily the best decision you've ever made! Please, DO NOT STRAY FROM THIS! I'm almost a year out and I backtracked today and saw my ex sucking face with new dude and it set me back so far. You need to do this and stay strong. I fully support you I've done NC before and I was able to do it more easily.I'm just sick of caring, I am going to be super busy next month, I am leaving the country where I live, moving to another to do a course while studying for my teaching license. With two weeks of vacation prior to that. Very similar to his plans. He broke up with me because he was going to be so busy and he was so thankful for that. Well, guess what? I will be busy too. And I can't waste more time on this.
Author Talulah Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 Good girl : ))) Feels great does it not ? Hugs It does, but now I am afraid that he will forget me
bluegreen Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 No he won't human mind is made like that we never forget good or bad. He just might never get back to you WAIT calm down but not because of block but because he does not want to. Sounds cruel but i say this for myself as well and any other girl in same situation once they fall out of love - infatuation and s... starts hitting fan there is no going back for them. But YOU can go on forward
Author Talulah Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 Well, it's for the best. I just don't want to be sad anymore. I'd like to be happy. 1
Echo000 Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 blocking and completely removing them takes courage. I did the same thing after finding out from my ex casually that she is moving away. Hurts and hard to realize that its all truly over for good, that they are gone and cant contact you even if they really wanted to (trust me, they really dont want it bad enough anyway. hence why it burns extra bad). So good for you. stay strong, i almost broke my own NC/block today. but i didnt! and you shouldnt either!
Author Talulah Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 blocking and completely removing them takes courage. I did the same thing after finding out from my ex casually that she is moving away. Hurts and hard to realize that its all truly over for good, that they are gone and cant contact you even if they really wanted to (trust me, they really dont want it bad enough anyway. hence why it burns extra bad). So good for you. stay strong, i almost broke my own NC/block today. but i didnt! and you shouldnt either! I'd like to think that he does or at least I hope that he will. 'm having my doubts no though
aloneinaz Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 From 7 weeks of NC experience. It's gets easier as each day/week passes. She ended our toxic relationship and hasn't heard a word from me since nor will she ever. I really think you have to cut all ties to them. I blocked her on Facebook as soon as I got my stuff back. Deleted all pics from my phone, texts, everything. Not talking to them via email, text or phone and not seeing them is the key to healing and getting on w/your life. After 2-3 weeks, I knew that relationship was over and I started dating again. Best thing I could have done. I'm now dating a girl for a couple of weeks that I really like. I couldn't imagine sitting home alone for 7 weeks feeling lonely, missing female companaship. Screw that! She said it's over and I agree... 1
Author Talulah Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 I've been through it all.....I still wonder how some people get to be friends with their exes or still be in contact with them. I guess some people just don't want to ever let go? I am friends with one of my exes, but we dated for a month and that was it. He contacted me a year later apologizing on facebook. Guess I'd like to get there someday. But I don't care if I do now.
Echo000 Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 ya you really shouldnt care about ever being his friend again. thats the love you have now trying to cling on in any way it can. In the near and forseeable future, he is no longer an important person in your life. in fact, he is not in your life at all. Thats tough to accept / deal with, so keep your focus on that.
Author Talulah Posted July 20, 2013 Author Posted July 20, 2013 After breaking NC for the first time and now being on NC day 9, it feels great. I went out last night with two co-workers and then today we went out for lunch and then to the movies. Finally, after alsmost two months I have truly enjoyed myself. And stopped worrying about other things on my mind. I really think that traveling helps people move on, which is what I am going to do now. Big break-ups always remind me of a scene in "Love in the Time of CHolera", where the father of the main character, after learning that her daughter has fallen in love with a boy that he did not approve of, packs his households and takes her out on a trip for about a year. When, they return she has fallen out of love with him. This part has always helped me.
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