hemsk Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 PLEASE DO NOT REPLY UNLESS YOU READ THE WHOLE THING. RIDICULOUS I KNOW. BUT I DONT WANT MIXED ANSWERS! PLEASE AND THANK YOU! So let me try to break down this simply Me and this girl, been together for 2 and 1/2 years. She lived with her controlling step dad for those years. A month ago she moved into her grandmas, she has been asking me this year that we should get our own place together. This past month, we have been having REALLY bad sex, i mean i lay on her wrong and she complains, i CAN fix this but i was mad so i refused. She broke up with me last tuesday, so its been 6 days, 4 days before we broke up, i was being kind of controlling asking her where she was going, and being worried, and wanting to hang out. Friday three days before we took a break, she invited me to go to a party with her friends at work, i told her i did not trust other guys around her and i was being not to trust worthy,even though i KNOW she would never cheat on me. i declined and later that night i was texting her, if you get bored and can come over, and i kept texting her, and i said i should have came. Saturday we went to a party together, everything was fine i told her i thought she was hitting on this guy. and she said she was just having a conversation. so i dropped it.. because she probably was.. later that night we went out on the porch and she laid her head on me and i started playing with her hair.. she spent the night that night and we did not have sex even though i wanted it. she told me to set my alarm to 9am so we could do it for an hour in the morning because she works at 12 and needed to get ready. so i set the alarm for 945 and she got mad we fought a little bit, and she left. Now the same day sunday, she worked from 12-930, after work she usually calls me, this time she did not, i gave her a call at 1040 and she answers and was like "Hey i was just getting ready to text you" i freaked out a little bit and was like, you never told me, and why was i not invited. it hurt a little bit. i called her back again and told her i was upset. but she was in front of her friends, i think i embarrassed her. Monday she came over after work around 6pm, we talked for a while and she laid on me, asked me about if i would smoke in front of my kids, and i said no but i might smoke at night to help me get to sleep. she was a little upset, i then said you would make a good mom. we ended up laying in bed around 10pm and i wanted sex, and i was being so rude, she kept laying on me, she wanted me to cuddle with her, but i refused, about 10 minutes later, she got up and said she needed to think and left. Tuesday, the morning, i texted her five times and was just saying how i was worried, and then i called her at 10am and woke her up, i felt bad for doing this. We talked and i told her i could not work because i was thinking about her to much. I asked if i could see her before she went to work at 4pm, and she refused to see me. she said after work, so 10pm rolls by, she calls, and comes over. she sat me down and told me that we should take a break. i freaked out for about 5 minutes and then i relaxed and respected her decision. SHE GAVE ME NO REASON, she said i just need time to find my self, and i need my space.. i said well we dont hang out that much anyways can we just have time to think about it then, she said no. i asked her what i am suppose to do on this break, she said take this time to improve your self or something like that. i asked her if i could hug her for the last time, and we hugged for a few minutes. and she kissed me. I told her a girl did this to me one time. and she started crying. i asked her if i am suppose to be looking for another girl and she started crying, she said if you find another girl, to tell her. i eventually said. i would wait forever for you. and i will always love you. She texted me that night and said. "feel free to text me whenever...goodnight" I never texted back. she texted me the next morning and said "Hey i hope you have a good day" (8:59am) I said " Thanks you too" (11:26am) She texted me "Hey" (5:56pm) I said "Hey there, how was your day."(6:07pm) She said "it was okay. Worked until 4. How was your day?"(6:08pm) I said "it was alright, i also worked until 4" (6:11pm) Then i texted her something funny that happened at work. she just omg thats funny, that doesnt happen unless on tv. I texted "By the way, i am sorry for my moodieness the other night, i did not mean to make you feel awful, i wish i could take it back" (8:15pm) She replied "its ok. i just needed you to understand"(8:15pm) i said " i wish i had, i do now" (8:15pm) She said "thank you :)" (8:16pm) i then said, "I wish i could erase the past four days, i was an immature jerk and regretting it now."(8:24pm) she said "sighh its ok"(8:30pm) i never texted back, she then said "goodnight..."(11:08pm) she put ... after she said goodnight, like i was suppose to keep texting her after she said sighh its ok. The next morning, aka Thursday i texted her first and said, sorry had good night typed in my phone. She texted me at 12:10pm and said Good Afternoon I said " good afternoon, have a good day!" (12:27pm) she replied "you too thanks :)" (12:34pm) she texted me again about five minutes later of some messages on facebook this guy sent her, and she asked me if i knew this clown, the guy messaged her and said something funny at first, like you are my soul mate, then a day later he was calling her names like a fat skank, she is really skinny and has a nice body.. so she is not fat for one. I replied, "I know that name from somewhere, but that guy doesnt know what he is talking about" (12:55pm) She replied 10 seconds later " " I texted me " Dont worry, your none of those things " (1:01pm) I texted her again at 1:47pm and said "How are you doing" she replied 6 hours later, "good going to dinner with allison" (7:40pm) i said "hey thats whats up, have a good time" (7:58pm) she did not text me the rest of the night. Friday Afternoon i texted her "Hey there " (12:02pm) she replied " Hey hey! " (1:00pm) I texted her back " i was wondering if we could talk ?" (1:24pm) 2 hours later, i was standing in my drive way waiting for a friend to come scoop me up so we can chill, and she pulled into my driveway and we talked for a few minutes before my friend pulled in. when she got here, she got out of her car and looked straight faced. she asked me if she could hug me. so i gave her a nice hug and she said, hey you got a hair cut, and she wiped the sweat and a few pieces of my hair off my forehead. i then said how sorry i was for making her work so hard for my love and i wish i could have told you all the little things i loved about you. she didnt really say anything and then my friend pulled in so she said we will talk later at this party we were going to. so i texted her at around 730pm and i was talking to her, she said she was doing her nails, i then said, "when would you like to finish our talk from earlier?" she replied "i will be over after i take a shower" so she came over, and i complemented her on her outfit, i then said would you like to go for a walk, and she said she was swore from walking earlier today, but ok. so we walked and i was like, i regret not letting you into my life and not communicating with you more. and i was just like, if i were you i would of took a break a long time ago, not sure why i said this. we talked some more, and she said she just needs a friend right now, like about how we talked about the guy who messaged her on facebook. She pretty much said anything i say wont change anything. she still wants a break. i was about to tell her all the little things i loved about her, she looked like she was gonna tear up but didnt, and said not right now, maybe some time later. so we go to this party and all she did was sit down on the couch and talk to her girl friends, and in the bathroom, i did not understand, i was having the time of my life, talking and drinking with friends making everyone laugh. Eventually she was sitting there, so i was like HEYY do you want to be my beer pong partner, she said sure, she sucked royally, made no cups. i walked away after the game with out saying anything to her. a group of friends went out back to smoke a bleeze, i sat down and then she walked outside and sat right next to me...i passed the blunt i rolled the other way from her, we smoked it, when it was almost done, i was again got up with out saying anything to her and went back inside. We eventually left and went to go eat with friends at a restaurant that is 24/7 i bought her meal, when she was dropping me off she was hugging me with her one arm and i reached in with two arms to hug her, she said i only need one arm but i ignored it. She then gave me a kiss on the cheek and i kissed her on the cheek and that was that. The next morning, aka saturday morning, she said "hey how are you?"(11:52am) i said, "alright about to go workout" (12:06pm) i texted her back an hour later and said hey just got invited to the same party as last night, just at a different location (1:17pm) she replied "idk im pretty tired" (2:36pm) i said " i hear ya there, well ill see you around " (2:39pm) she texted me five hours later saying " Are you going to go? " (7:16pm) I just said, "Yeah for sure" (7:55pm) she said, "well have fun...ill talk to you tomorrow" (9:39pm) i said "are you not wanting to go?" (9:50pm) she said she is hanging out with some people she works with (9:51pm) all i said was "kk" (9:51pm) so that night i went to that party and i noticed a lot of girls hitting on me, one came and just sat on my lap and eventually she was trying to make out with me, but i would not have it. i just walked away lol, later i took a body shot off a girl and was just getting plastered. She texted me the next morning.. aka Sunday and said "hey how was your night? " (12:17pm) i said " it was okay and you?" (2:06pm) she said "good i didnt stay long"(6:10pm) i said "its to bad you couldnt make it, everyone was asking about you."(11:25pm) she replied " aww well maybe next time...lol" (11:26pm) and i have not talked to her since, it is now 2:00pm Monday and the last thing i said to her was at 11:25pm Sunday night. MONDAY July 15: i texted her: "hey hope your having a good day" (3:57pm) Her: "Aww i was going to text you that! Thank you i am" (5:51pm) End of conversation for the day TUESDAY July 16: She texted first: "Hey how are you" (3:54pm) ME: "Got a killer migraine, how are you"(6:11pm) Her: "just got off of work so im tired"(10:46pm) WEDNESDAY July 17: I texted her first, trying to make a joke she said what? i continued on for two text messages and told her it was just a funny youtube video i saw. she said, "i was going to say. i dont get it" me: "wanna see something crazy"(1:49pm) her " sure" (1:52pm) me: i sent her a picture of me half naked, and i said " check out my beast of chest hair" (2:05pm) me: "actually it makes me look like a mermaid heh"(2:15pm) her: "Lol! i told you you have chest hair!" (3:30pm) i post the picture on facebook and a second later she said her: "no one wil get what your facebook post means"(3:31pm) me: "ill post it as a mermai lol. its legit right"(3:35pm) her: "lol idk" (3:35pm) me: "should i not post it on facebook, you have better taste then me lol"(3:41pm) her: "thats your choice" (3:42pm) me: "right on, so whatre you up to this lovely evening?"(3:43pm) her: "worked all day today"(7:03pm) me: "damn, that is no bueno"(7:05pm) me: "so whatre you up to tonight, its a nice night to get outttttt" (7:46pm) her: "whats going on tonight" (8:46pm) me: "Just playing poker outside, thats all i know, its a nice warm night though" (9:46pm) her: "i know its really nice" (10:01pm) me: "you ever find anything to do tonight?"(10:26pm) her: "im at applebees now with freinds. and then i think just hang out"(10:27pm) me:" dude 9 to 12 at applebees is half off appitizers. Get on that."(10:28pm) me: "i think, dont take me literal" (10:53pm) her: "yes it is thats why we went lol"(11:02pm) me: "8 to 5 sucks, have a good night lol"(11:17pm) her: "Sorry:/ goodnight"(11:31pm) THURSDAY July 18 Me: "hey" her: "hey i didnt know you went camping with Krysta. SIDE NOTE: I went camping on Monday and Tuesday with multiple friends, not just her... ME:"yeah i didnt know either, they talked me into it an hour before, i caved in lol" (1:03pm) ME: i said i stayed up with some guy friends and drank alot and it sucked pretty much, i ended up passing out on my freinds pool table lol. that was at 1:46pm. she has not texting me back since. and i saw her driving to work an hour ago, aka 4pm so i know she read the text. but never said anything, i dont know if she is mad, jealous or what.... Try to keep in mind she has been wearing my promise ring still. even at the party on friday I am pretty sure she convinced her self to take a break. i still love her, but honestly its her loss if she is not gonna give me the time of day... EVEN THOUGH SHE IS STILL TALKING TO ME... we are still facebook official...and she is still wearing my promise ring. What do you think? and what should i do about this? why would she text me first....? Famous answers: give her time and space... I will need to add more to this. so bare with me
Chi townD Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Welcome to the friend zone, dude! Did you notice that after the break up, she started to contact you less and less? That you were the one starting up most of the text conversations? Basically, after the break up she started up most of the conversations because she knows she hurt you pretty badly. She needed to see if you hated her or not. As soon as she figured out that you didn't, she pretty much stopped contacting you; or starting up text convo's with you.
ReadMyThread Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Welcome to the friend zone, dude! Did you notice that after the break up, she started to contact you less and less? That you were the one starting up most of the text conversations? Basically, after the break up she started up most of the conversations because she knows she hurt you pretty badly. She needed to see if you hated her or not. As soon as she figured out that you didn't, she pretty much stopped contacting you; or starting up text convo's with you. CHI TOWN! How you been bro!? lol.
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