Gingerlee Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I don't even know what to say at this. The last I heard of my ex (3 weeks NC, started the day he got into a relationship with this girl with the SAME NAME as me!!) and now his best friend told me they are moving out together. I've been fine the most part, but I now feel physically sick and can't stop crying. We started talking about moving in together 2 years into our three year relationship. 2 YEARS!! He has been with her 3 weeks!! I don't even know what to do with myself. I honestly thought I was over him, if that's the case then why does this hurt me so much?!
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Ginger, If it's any consolation- it won't last. Revel in that thouht.
Author Gingerlee Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 He is 21 and she is 17!! I just feel completely deflated!
Philosoraptor Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Sounds like he is trying to move fast to get over things. It will likely blow up in his face when he really gets to know this person. But he may not even have intentions to do a thing, and just be lying to her and saying it to make you jealous.
Joyvke Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Like the other guys have said it will probably not last and blow up. Sounds to me he's telling you on purpose to either have some sort of revenge for god knows what or to just make you really jealous. You are probably hurt because you wanted to live with him and it took so long and now he lives with someone within a few weeks. Hope you will feel better soon /hugs.
Author Gingerlee Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 He actually messaged me earlier. I am a driveling wreck. He told me that he'd heard his "mate" had messaged me and wanted to clear things up. He said that he wasn't moving in with her officially, just that they were talking about it, and that things were serious and that I shouldn't reply until the next day because she goes through his phone and is with him 24/7 now. He told me that he still cared about me, but will have to do it from a distance because she wont let him see his friends unless she's with him. I don't even know what to say! Why do I care so much? Why is he doing this to me when I've been so happy! I haven't given him much thought since the day he got into a relationship with her, so why am I crying now?
daftpunk Posted July 20, 2013 Posted July 20, 2013 (edited) The odds are almost comically astronomical that this blows up in his face ~3-6 months down the line. And I can assure you... It won't be pretty. And you're most likely the first person he's going to run to. Edited July 20, 2013 by daftpunk 1
Xiphias92 Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 He actually messaged me earlier. I am a driveling wreck. He told me that he'd heard his "mate" had messaged me and wanted to clear things up. He said that he wasn't moving in with her officially, just that they were talking about it, and that things were serious and that I shouldn't reply until the next day because she goes through his phone and is with him 24/7 now. He told me that he still cared about me, but will have to do it from a distance because she wont let him see his friends unless she's with him. I don't even know what to say! Why do I care so much? Why is he doing this to me when I've been so happy! I haven't given him much thought since the day he got into a relationship with her, so why am I crying now? Whoa there! Red semaphore signal just went up! Your best option you have at hand is to go no contact. Let him live with his choice and as the other CP's have mentioned it's going to explode within time - like a slow-motion train wreck. Don't be on the back-burner for him! It'll take time though since you're still in shock after what happened. But it will get better!
crederer Posted July 21, 2013 Posted July 21, 2013 Well this is obviously a rebound and his new girl sounds terrible. He likely wont come back to you and if he does you probably shouldn't take him back. I know it sucks but this is part of growing up and you'll look back on this in 10 years and think how the hell were you so into this chump.
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