Brunettie Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Earlier today, I saw people telling someone who made a thread about insecurity to be careful because it could become a self fulfilling prophesy. I don't get that. How can someone think something and therefore make it happen? That's like if I think all the time that I'm going to win the lottery, then I do..
jphcbpa Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 By thinking "the other shoe is going to drop, this is too good to be true, I dont deserve this" ect., you draw negative energy to yourself and the R. Your thougths become your attitude and your attitude becomes your actions, your actions become your choice and thus your life.
StayBeautiful Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Ok, well I don't believe in that "negative energy" stuff, I think it's a lot simpler than that.... if you worry about being insecure, you'll probably subconsciously act in ways that make you come across as insecure. 1
Mr.Mango Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I'd say it's more about having a filter on your glasses. If you choose to focus on bad things and ignore good things, it will seem like bad things keep happening to you. This probably will lead to a cycle of: "I feel bad because bad things happen to me, which makes me feel bad because..." In all honesty, the only way I can comment on the whole insecurity leading to unfavorable situations is, it's sort of a reaction. Human beings are really good at interpreting body language, so in most cases people put their anxiety/insecurities out in the open without knowing it. If people sense something is off then they most likely will react accordingly. Like knowing when someone's BS-ing you. The lottery is just absurd dumb luck, which is heavily prevalent in the world. You could consider this the offset of intuition. A plane could crash into your house tomorrow, but that's has nothing to do with anything really. I feel like things just work based on impulses you send out into the world, and how it reacts, everything else is pretty much absurdity.
Phantom888 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Often times when people are afraid of losing someone (fear of getting dumped or getting cheated on), they behave in a negative way that actually pushes their S.O. away from them. If this happens too frequently, they are actually gonna lose their S.O., thus fulfilling the prophecy. 1
twinkie0 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 like StayBeautiful said. I also don't believe in "negative energy" and how you attract things by thinking about them. But thinking something can and will make you act subconconsciously in a way that will make you ruin things for yourself. If everything is fine and you are going crazy thinking something will go wrong, this will affect not only your attitude, but your descisions, and you will eventually mess things up for no better reason than you being paranoid. For example: You start feeling jealous that the guy you date has an attractive friend. They don't flirt but you get all paranoid and convince yourself they are, so you try to make him jealous, problems start, etc. That's the self-fullfilling prophecy.
Shepp Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 My girls like that, she reckons everyone leaves her, but she's so fixated on it she hots first and pushes people away and then they give up on her and she's got another example of 'everyone leaves me'. It's a self fufilling prophecy!! 1
Sunshine87 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I was about to ask the same question the OP asked. How do you draw the line between being unexpectant during dating periods which inevitably leads to some pessimism and being too expectant which often leads to disappointments in the event that nothing ensues from the dates? Isnt it better to expect nothing until the date gives you cogent reasons to expect something?
Dread Pirate Roberts Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 Earlier today, I saw people telling someone who made a thread about insecurity to be careful because it could become a self fulfilling prophesy. I don't get that. How can someone think something and therefore make it happen? That's like if I think all the time that I'm going to win the lottery, then I do.. The difference is that the lottery is outside of your control. When people are in the realm of the mind, so to speak, concerning insecurities...they will be insecure about something and expect it to happen, go looking for it, over exaggerate, or push someone to it. Or they subconsciously do it to push people away, so they don't end up getting hurt.
imnotsosure Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 The difference is that the lottery is outside of your control. When people are in the realm of the mind, so to speak, concerning insecurities...they will be insecure about something and expect it to happen, go looking for it, over exaggerate, or push someone to it. Or they subconsciously do it to push people away, so they don't end up getting hurt. Your username.. is.. seriously amazing. DPR is a God. But I want to add to this thread.... it's so true. I am going through it now..
Author Brunettie Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 Your username.. is.. seriously amazing. DPR is a God. But I want to add to this thread.... it's so true. I am going through it now.. Elaborate?
hoping2heal Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 It's like when someone thinks "oh this guy won't like me" and they start acting like a doink and behaving in ways uncharacteristic of themselves which lead to the guy really not liking them. Happens often enough.
Archanaart Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 It's a psychological term. "Self-fulfilling prophecies—ideas that become reality simply because someone believes them...." http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200504/self-fulfilling-prophecies
Recommended Posts