countrygirl01 Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 I've been broken up with my ex for nearly 6 months. I haven't spoken to him since March and he is still with the girl who he left me for. I had his password when we were together and didn't even attempt to log in until earlier today as part of my closure, but after all this time getting over him and out of curiosity I typed in the old password thinking "aahhh it won't work" - but it did O_o I looked at the search feature (under activity log) and was shocked to see that he had been searching me pretty much twice a week since about a month ago. This is odd for him as I can see he is barely on there and he rarely searches people - it appears that most the time when he does search for people, I am among them. My profile is private so he isn't able to see anything which causes great curiosity. Why do you think he could be looking? What are the possible reasons? I am in no way getting any 'hopes up' or anything - I am just completely baffled and curious. He has made no attempt to communicate with me at all since the split. Link to post Share on other sites
LME Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 It means nothing imo. He is probably just being curious. Think about how many people you creep on on a daily basis. Don't go into his facebook again Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 I agree with LME I quiet honestly believe is mere curiosity. I would suggest to lose passwords/logins and whatever other social media apparatus you can get your hands on. Link to post Share on other sites
Echo000 Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 yea you really shouldnt be looking on his fb. my ex had two accounts, a current one which i blocked way back in jan. and one she deactivated long before we split. we had been friends on that old account, and i found she would activate that old fb every once in a while because we were friends on it, and she could look thru my fb. When i found that out, i tricked her into being on with that account and defriended her. That pissed her off lol but u know why she said she did that? Because she said she found comfort in being able to see my stuff. In her own odd way, seeing my facebook allowed her to feel a sense of closeness and comfort with me, even though we had no contact. Point is, there could be a million reasons why. But they are HIS reasons, not yours. Let it go Link to post Share on other sites
Joyvke Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 (edited) My ex keeps activating his FB account as soon as we break contact as well. He admitted to it to keep track of me, making sure I'm ok and all that crap. Same deal as you, we're not friends and even friends of friends can't see a thing on my facebook. Now I don't know if he does look on my facebook. I took the liberty of blocking him today regardless. I think it might be a mind****, hoping you cave in to get back in touch, but I'm not sure if it is. It might just mean nothing as well . He only has 11 facebook friends and doesn't really use it for anything either. Edited July 18, 2013 by Joyvke Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 He's just being curious. If he's been with the other girl for 6 months, the newness has worn off and he might be thinking of his past relationships or last relationship. You really should dump his password, block him, etc.. Facebook causes more issues than it's worth once the relationship is over. It's agreed the best step is to block your new ex and all that are associated with them to move on w/your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Nicoleiia Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 He's curious because there's no contact..Keep NC.He might be regretting the break up as well. But, leave it alone and try not to go back on facebook if you can. People tend to be curious with exes when their situation isn't "great", or at best, they are past the honeymoon stage in their new relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 Boo on going into his Facebook. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 He searched for yours, you broke into and illegally entered his.... which is worse? Link to post Share on other sites
Author countrygirl01 Posted July 19, 2013 Author Share Posted July 19, 2013 I haven't "kept" logging into his facebook - yesterday was the first time I had. I can see your points and completely agree but it's not holding me back by looking in any way. I looked out of pure curiosity and to attempt to find a picture of his new girlfriend (not going to lie, I was curious!). Honestly, I would not have looked and set myself back if I didn't think I'd be prepared for what I'd find. We are no longer friends on facebook and my profile is totally private. This is why is it puzzling that he is looking for me when there is nothing to see. Link to post Share on other sites
Combo Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 Going onto his facebook is illegal. Also, if you are in a different town to him he will see a message when he logs on saying that the last login to his facebook account was from a different town. Link to post Share on other sites
xilver Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 Curiosity for sure. Even if he is in a loving relationship there is probably some part of him that misses what you had. I'm also laughing at all the illegal comments. We don't even know how you got the p/w and besides it's just fb. It's not like you hacked his bank acct or something serious so I wouldn't let those comments stress you out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author countrygirl01 Posted July 19, 2013 Author Share Posted July 19, 2013 We gave each other our passwords when we were together. He hasn't changed it. There is nothing illegal about that, if he really was concerned about me looking he would change his password like I did. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Combo Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 "There is nothing illegal about that, if he really was concerned about me looking he would change his password like I did." What's interesting is that you made a thread called "My ex is looking at my facebook profile" while actually you are the one illegally logging into his fb account using the password he trusted you with. You need to move on and stop stalking him. Link to post Share on other sites
xilver Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 And the illegal comments continue. lol You better get a lawyer before he calls the cops and tells them his ex won't stop logging into his fb page. Gimme a break people. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 You can laugh all you like, but actually, it's quite true. he could be spiteful and say it was done without his permission, or she hacked it (I had my account hacked) so don't dismiss the 'comedy' out of hand. It could happen. Link to post Share on other sites
xilver Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 You can laugh all you like, but actually, it's quite true. he could be spiteful and say it was done without his permission, or she hacked it (I had my account hacked) so don't dismiss the 'comedy' out of hand. It could happen. Really? Like the police don't have better things to do than investigate an ex logging into a FB account? All she needs to do is say she didn't. For some reason I don't think a judge will grant a warrant to search her computer. I'm sure the police would tell him to just change his pw because it is a very hard thing to prove without the proper search warrants. Link to post Share on other sites
Combo Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 On FB click Account->Account Settings->Account Security->Change There's a list of every login to facebook with the location of the computer which logged on. If he suspects something he will have all the proof he needs right there. E-mails and chat logs are all recorded so logging in to someones facebook is a big invasion of their privacy. Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 This is when you post a pic or two with you and a hot guy smooching. Link to post Share on other sites
xilver Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 On FB click Account->Account Settings->Account Security->Change There's a list of every login to facebook with the location of the computer which logged on. If he suspects something he will have all the proof he needs right there. E-mails and chat logs are all recorded so logging in to someones facebook is a big invasion of their privacy. That only shows the city. There is nothing linking a specific computer in that log. Far from "all the proof he needs" lol. Yes there are logs on the server that have that info but like I said without the proper warrants you ain't getting that info. Link to post Share on other sites
Joyvke Posted July 20, 2013 Share Posted July 20, 2013 It's not the point she logged his FB account. Sure she shouldn't have done that, but that's not the answer for her question. If he was keen on his privacy he shouldn't have given her the password to begin with and changed it after the break up. Facebook > privacy > change password. Or wherever it is. Takes less effort than finding where to put down login locations. Sheesh. Link to post Share on other sites
Ordinaryday Posted July 20, 2013 Share Posted July 20, 2013 Looking at an exes fb profile means nothing. It's not even a breadcrumb. I have no doubt that since my ex dumped me she has, a least once, looked at my fb profile. It is simple curiosity. People also often randomly type in the names of people they went to school with to see if the person has an fb - and they may have no desire whatsoever to chat to this person. It's not even a breadcrumb, it's nothing Link to post Share on other sites
Author countrygirl01 Posted July 20, 2013 Author Share Posted July 20, 2013 Those who have actually replied to what I asked... You're probably right. I suppose it is just strange seeing it in front of your eyes. Though as I said, he doesn't search for random people from school as I saw on that log, it is myself and a few of his friends occasionally. He rarely uses facebook and never really has. As for everyone having a little whinge about me apparently 'hacking' into his facebook: a) It isn't hacking when you were told the password and it wasn't changed b) It is facebook. I am not logging onto personal banking accounts or anything like that c) As I said he rarely uses it. d) I have logged in once. To be honest I am sure if you had your ex's passwords you'd be on it a heck of a lot more than that. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 20, 2013 Share Posted July 20, 2013 d) I have logged in once. To be honest I am sure if you had your ex's passwords you'd be on it a heck of a lot more than that. I wouldn't be so sure of that, if I were you. It has something to do with personal integrity, AFAIAC. Link to post Share on other sites
may_girl Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I went through a similar thing and found out my ex was looking at my facebook profile. On a regular basis too. Of course it signals he is thinking about you. Often too if he searches for you when there is nothing to see. It is a strange one. I would anticipate he may contact you soon, if it has only been recently that he has searched it may be that the curiosity gets the better of him. This by no means indicates that he wants to get back with you though. Just be prepared I say. Link to post Share on other sites
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