Ex boyfriend playing games?

[caitlin1]

Currently I'm just confused and sad because I really don't know what's really going on. Advice would be great! Please and thank you.

 

It's a bit of a long story, but to get a clear picture for you about what happened I will try my best to make it as clear as possible. Last summer, I met this man and immediately fell in love with him. I can truly say I felt love at first sight. He was tall, dark and handsome and had the most gorgeous eyes. We immediately hit it off but there was a bit of a distance between us. He lived 1 hour and a half north of me and I currently didn't have a car. He would come to see me, come to pick me up go to back to his place or I would somehow find my way to his place. The first few months were very exciting, as I'm sure any new relationship is. We did everything together. Towards October I told him that I loved him. He said that he loved me too but he was very scared on how fast things have gone. And things did move very fast. So I didn't really blame him for thinking that way. But his demeanor started to change slightly. I could tell he was scared. He was kind of distant. I felt like I made a mistake by telling him that I felt love for him. He told me that he was very afraid of getting his heart broken. Things weren't really the same. We still made effort to see each other and still made the best of it. When we were together it was fine.

 

In November he messaged me one evening, and told me he couldn't do things the way we were doing them anymore. Because of the drive between us we would make arrangements to stay in my city for the evening. But it was beginning to be costly and it wasn't working. And that the distance was hard for him. We didn't get to see each other that often. Only on weekends and the rare occasional weekday. He said that he was really sorry but it wasn't working, that he did see us going somewhere but not so much anymore. I was absolutely heartbroken and angry. I didn't speak to him for weeks. He remained on my Facebook friends for those weeks, but towards mid December he had me deleted and blocked. That hurt even more. I was torn apart.

 

A few weeks went by and I tried to cope the best I could. I began working 2 jobs and going out with friends more. Trying my best to get my mind out of the gutter. But, I caved and called him. I told him that I was still in love with him and had been having a really hard time moving on. He told me that he hadn't heard from me in months and he had some time to move on. He had also began seeing someone else. That made my heart sink. He told me that he was very sorry but he did care for me, but it would take some time for me to move on. But that I would be ok. That I would find someone better than him. And he said the final Goodbye to me and that was the last I spoke to him.

That was in December.

 

Months moved on and I began moving on with my life. And as time grew on I began thinking of him less and less. I started dating again and found someone ideal. I liked him a lot.

 

Last month, beginning of June I was taking a nap and I decided to wake up and check my phone. There had been a Facebook message from my ex! I hadn't heard from him since December! Immediately I tried to act cool and act as if I didn't care. He said that he had a dream about me the other night and felt obligated to tell me. I found that odd. What a random thing to say to someone?

 

I began speaking with him little bit, not being too eager to talk to him, yet in my head and heart I was excited to hear from him. I asked him why he decided to message me after all these months. He said that he didn't know, that he guesses he shouldn't have and he was sorry. I said that it must of been some dream. And he said yeah. I tried to ask what this dream was about. He said that it probably was best not to get into it. I didn't reply to that message. I heard from him 2 days later asking me if I was still curious. I said yeah, but curiosity killed the cat. But he vaguely told me what it was about. It was about "what I used to be able to do". Hmmm. I immediately knew it had something to do with sex. And it did. And he had the balls to say "You should show me again!" I said that I wasn't a piece of ass, certainly not his anymore. He didn't reply to that message for a week. And I was fine with that. He message me again a week later asking me if we could text, I said yeah and gave him my new number. He still had my old one apparently. I made it a point to delete his number when we were done.

 

We spoke about old times, catching up a little. He began to ask me questions like where I was now, where I was working and if I would be coming back. I currently live 2 hours away from where I was living. I didn't reply right away to one of his texts so I guess he freaked out a bit and messaged me on Facebook. He said that he was sorry for texting me, that he shouldn't have. I asked him why he was sorry and he said he didn't know. I told him I wasn't offended and he was relieved. He then jokingly asked for a pic of me. I said that he was overstepping his boundary. He apologized and asked me why I wasn't texting him back. I told him I was busy but that I would when I get a chance.

 

We spoke a little more and he told me he was still living at his parents, still working at the same place as he was when we were dating. And then he asked for a pic again. But I didn't know if he was joking this time. I said no, that I wasn't sending him anything and that if he wanted a 'decent' pic of me, to creep my Facebook. He never replied to that message and I saw that he blocked me again on Facebook! I was like WTF?

 

I really don't know what's going on...A little advice would help, or some insight on what could be happening. I don't know if this is a game he's playing or what...

[Philosoraptor]

Well what was going on was that his relationship ended, he was lonely, and went somewhere familiar to get his fix. You didn't give him what he wanted so he got mad and took "control" again by blocking you and cutting you off.

 

In the future do not respond to anything he sends you. Even better, one up it by blocking him and just moving on with your life.

[colgirl]

I agree with the above poster. Don't play this man's silly little games anymore. As soon as you mentioned the 'I had a dream about you last night' I thought uh oh, here we go. That was your cue to ask him what he dreamed about and then that would kickstart the sex chat convo. If this guy was really genuinely interested in getting back with you he'd do a helluva lot more than texting you this tripe. He'd be making proper plans to come and see you. Don't entertain him any more, he's playing with your head because he knows he can.

[aloneinaz]

I agree. He's recently single, in between girls and was bored and lonely. You haven't been contacting him, massaging his ego so he was curious and sent that lame Facebook email to you.

 

As a guy dumper, I've done that as well. I'd go months w/out speaking to someone I'd dumped then maybe reach out to them one night when I was bored and lonely or horny. Guys and gals do this, it's common. It doesn't mean we want to get back together at all.

 

You need to block him on Facebook and ignore this guy and enjoy your life and new guy.