I know a shy, unconfident guy who does great with women. Explain.

[MomsSpaghetti]

How can this be? I thought that being social and confident was a prerequisite for attracting women.

[sweetkiwi]

How can this be? I thought that being social and confident was a prerequisite for attracting women.

Is he hot? What's he packing? Is he rich?

 

Just kidding, he's probably one of the kind I like and they come to him.

[Southern Cal Dude]

He probably looks good. I'm not terribly outgoing myself, but any form of status can override shyness. One person who is actually quite according to reports...Brad Pitt.

[therhythm]

How can this be? I thought that being social and confident was a prerequisite for attracting women.

 

I know a guy in Amsterdam who can play the national anthem farting... I guess that means everyone in Amsterdam can do that right? :lmao:

[Keenly]

You are being just as extreme as what you are arguing against.

 

 

I'm a pretty decent looking guy. I'm confident in myself and my communication and charisma etc, but when I'm around new people I'm just quiet. Its just how I am.

 

Do I chase after women ? No. Do I hit on women ? No. I'll flirt with girls but I'll never just walk up and start hitting on a random girl.

 

 

I let them come to me. It doesn't happen maybe as often as the guys that get out there , but it. Still happens

 

Those are the only girls I want to date anyway, are the ones that express interest in a clear and direct manner.

 

There is no black and white for dating. Its all grey. There are no absolutes.

[ThaWholigan]

Unconfident how??

 

He may be a good looking guy, or interesting looking. Being social opens up more opportunities with women, but it's not a prerequisite - merely a strong advantage in the dating game. Confidence in oneself is something of a prerequisite, but confidence doesn't merely equal extrovertedness.

[Dread Pirate Roberts]

How can this be? I thought that being social and confident was a prerequisite for attracting women.

 

I'm somewhere in the middle. I have self-esteem but I can be quite shy at first, meeting someone I'm attracted to. I'm a bit of an ambivert, so when I want to be social I am and I love it, other times I'm not.

 

All women are different and some like shy, some like confident, some like x y and z.

[Dread Pirate Roberts]

That being said, usually women come to me, or I bump into them by chance. Unfortunately, I only want one and since I've been single I haven't found her yet.