noellelove10 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Hello All, I posted on here before in regards to my BF and the lack of communication. It’s driving me crazy. The biggest problem I have is, he has time to go on Facebook but it obviously kills him to just send me a quick text saying hi. I should add, he’s in the military. I understand, he’s super busy, but hey if he has time to get on FB, he should have a little time to just send me a text right? It feels as if I am the only one trying here, it kills me but I am tempted to cheat on him and break up with him and tell him I cheated. All of his ex’s cheated on him. (if he acted this way with any of them, I can see why they did it). It seems as if he as trust issues and he told me he has a hard time expressing himself. I usually text him a good morning text and most of the time he replies. But he hasn’t replied since last wk. I text him last Friday, nothing. Monday, nothing. I skipped Tuesday and Wednesday. (I did see he was on FB though). I text him today. Nothing. I don’t know what Im doing wrong or if I am being too needy. Do I just cheat and call it off? It seems hard to break up with him since I don’t wanna do it by text, if I call him, he probably wont answer (if he doesn’t reply by text why would he answer). I have a letter ready to send him via Facebook basically pouring my heart out and calling it off. (I was crying the whole time I was writing it by the way). Do I just wait it out? It kills me that I have the temptation to cheat, but it’s as if I wanna hurt him so he can know how I feel. Please help : ( I sometimes think he’s ignoring me in hopes I just stop all communication and that would be the end of the relationship. I have talked to him about this and he improved for like a day or two and went back to his old ways. He also lied to me about being stationed here in our home state. He later confessed and asked me to forgive him and I did.I told him I supported him and I was proud of him. And regardless, I would wait for him because he meant more to me than the distance that seperated us. (I waited for him while he was in Afghanistan as well)
Keenly Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Take the non petty, non childish route and break up with him before you do anything with anyone. You want to cheat on a guy, a guy that's been cheated on multiple times in the past, and then you want to break up with him and tell him you cheated? That's the smallest thing I have ever heard. Time to act like an adult. 7
Author noellelove10 Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 Take the non petty, non childish route and break up with him before you do anything with anyone. You want to cheat on a guy, a guy that's been cheated on multiple times in the past, and then you want to break up with him and tell him you cheated? That's the smallest thing I have ever heard. Time to act like an adult. How would I break up with him if he basically ignores me? Seems like the only way to get his attention is say “hey I cheated”…
Keenly Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 How would I break up with him if he basically ignores me? Seems like the only way to get his attention is say “hey I cheated”… Who cares if he doesn't respond. Once you say its over, its over from the moment you send it. 1
almond Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 You say it's hard to break up with him, because you don't want to do it via text, yet, you're planning on cheating on him first, then dumping him? Please. End this relationship now. Send him a text asking him to call you, and state that it is urgent. Break up with him. If he doesn't call in a reasonable amount of time, end it via text. DO NOT cheat on him. What a horrible, nasty thing to plan out in advance as you are. You need to grow up a bit. This man has opened up to you and advised of his trust issues, and you are planning on taking it to the bank. How horrible The way he has been treating you isn't right, but what you are planning on doing is just nasty, hurtful and completely unnecessary. Next time, try entering into a relationship with someone you actually care for and respect, because it is evident that it is not the case this time around. If you act with integrity and treat others the way you wish to be treated, you will be rewarded. I suggest you work towards this. 2
HeavenOrHell Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 If you're unhappy why not just end it with him if he's unable to change in the ways you'd like him to? Why would you want to hurt him like all his ex's by cheating? That's not what someone does to someone they love. Have you any idea how cheap, petty and immature this sounds >it kills me but I am tempted to cheat on him and break up with him and tell him I cheated. < Time to grow up. Hello All, I posted on here before in regards to my BF and the lack of communication. It’s driving me crazy. The biggest problem I have is, he has time to go on Facebook but it obviously kills him to just send me a quick text saying hi. I should add, he’s in the military. I understand, he’s super busy, but hey if he has time to get on FB, he should have a little time to just send me a text right? It feels as if I am the only one trying here, it kills me but I am tempted to cheat on him and break up with him and tell him I cheated. All of his ex’s cheated on him. (if he acted this way with any of them, I can see why they did it). It seems as if he as trust issues and he told me he has a hard time expressing himself. I usually text him a good morning text and most of the time he replies. But he hasn’t replied since last wk. I text him last Friday, nothing. Monday, nothing. I skipped Tuesday and Wednesday. (I did see he was on FB though). I text him today. Nothing. I don’t know what Im doing wrong or if I am being too needy. Do I just cheat and call it off? It seems hard to break up with him since I don’t wanna do it by text, if I call him, he probably wont answer (if he doesn’t reply by text why would he answer). I have a letter ready to send him via Facebook basically pouring my heart out and calling it off. (I was crying the whole time I was writing it by the way). Do I just wait it out? It kills me that I have the temptation to cheat, but it’s as if I wanna hurt him so he can know how I feel. Please help : ( I sometimes think he’s ignoring me in hopes I just stop all communication and that would be the end of the relationship. I have talked to him about this and he improved for like a day or two and went back to his old ways. He also lied to me about being stationed here in our home state. He later confessed and asked me to forgive him and I did.I told him I supported him and I was proud of him. And regardless, I would wait for him because he meant more to me than the distance that seperated us. (I waited for him while he was in Afghanistan as well) 2
HeavenOrHell Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 *facepalm* How old are you? 13? How would I break up with him if he basically ignores me? Seems like the only way to get his attention is say “hey I cheated”… 1
Woggle Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 If it is bad enough you want to cheat then break up. 2
LittleTiger Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 How would I break up with him if he basically ignores me? Seems like the only way to get his attention is say “hey I cheated”… If he's ignoring you then you're not really in a relationship - it sounds as though he checked out a while back. Even so, it will cost you nothing to send him a message (on Facebook so you'll know that he's seen it) to inform him that the relationship is over - then you can go and do whatever you like with whoever you like. 2
loverindistance Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Having time for facebook and not for you… no communication after a week?! Give me a break.[/FONT][/sIZE]
hotpotato Posted July 19, 2013 Posted July 19, 2013 He wants space away from you. All the texting and calling will only push him further away. It could be he just needs some space. Could be he has found someone else. My ex had two jobs one was the guard. I tried to cut him some slack. Even between those jobs he found time for someone else whilst ignoring me. I hate to say this, but its a possibity. Either way you need to cut contact with him. Sounds like he is taking you for granted my dear.
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