TheBestisYettoCome Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I had to come here to post rather than text my ex back. She left me for someone else and lied for 2 months about not being sure she was making the right decision. Cried every time I went to see her and even stayed at my house to watch my dogs at the end of may when I went out of town for work. She finally came clean and said she was dating someone after I returned the favor and told me to move on. I was crushed, utterly destroyed over the last 4 months. I bought a home for us last year and worked my ass of to make it comfortable for her, only to have her say she was bored, wanted new experiences, and that she hadn't lived a part of her life yet. I decided that with 30 right around the corner (she's 26) it was time to start a new life close to my family, got better as a person, improved my appearance, and even got a better teaching job. I had everything going for me here, but I got my house rented, got myself to a good place, and made the choice to move on. It hurts like hell all the time, knowing I wanted to marry her, give her children, and live our lives together. I asked her to give me a year or two before she tried to reach out, that I was giving up the fight for her, and what do I get in return? A friend request on Facebook a week ago, which I accept and immediately block her. Then today a text saying she knows I'm leaving soon and wants to know if I want to meet in person to talk and say goodbye, but she understands if I don't want to. I'm ignoring this text even though I want so badly to tell her how unfair it is to be doing this, how selfish, and how much of a mistake she has made. So, I'm coming her to vent to you, asking you to tell me I am making the right decision ignoring her, and once and for all leaving this future I wanted so badly to give to her behind. The anger I feel right now is hard to explain. Thanks for giving me another place to release it =).
Ashlaria Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Hey there. What a horrid situation to be in. It never ceases to amaze me how selfish people can be. You asked for space but she's decided her need is greater and invaded it. Why? So she can confirm she broke you? Gloat over how she's moved on? What possible good could come of it? I am angry and I don't even know you!! You are doing exactly the right thing. Delete the text, don't reply and if you can, change your number. You've made great, positive changes and you should not let her knock you back. Nothing good will come from meeting her and it might set you back, which would be tragic looking at how far you've come. Good luck with your future endeavours, I hope things work out for you and you meet the person you deserve to be with
SimonSerenade Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Start a new life for yourself, don't look back, not after infidelity, you did the best job you could, be proud of that, it isn't your fault if she can't appreciate a good thing when she has one, what she is doing is not fair, not after such a long time has gone by, you sound like a good man who got a bad roll of the dice. Move on now and live a good life, enjoy time with your family, meet new friends and enjoy some new experiences, you have a great opportunity to put her behind you once and for all, do it. For what it's worth I know how you feel, just before my ex left I was looking at houses in the city she grew up in and loved, I wanted to move us there and take the next step, I was so happy then she left before I had a chance to tell her about it, the way she left and the things she did after that still haunt me and leave me feeling something horrible I've never felt before. At times I want to contact her and demand answers just to get my head around the whirlwind she pushed me head first in to but I don't and neither should you, your making the right decision.
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