rastamoose Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I have a similar breakup to some on here. My ex didnt develop feelings for me and broke it off now rather than in a few years time. She said I was the perfect boyfriend. She said I am the nicest person she has ever met and I made her feel good about herself. All her family really appreciated what I did for her and are very great-full that I treated her right. Will this one day play into my favour? I guess there is a good chance that no one will treat her as well as I did. I really tried my best with her. Do you think sometime down the road she will realise what she had with me? She may fall in love with someone else but it doesn't mean they will treat her how I did. She is only 19 and probably thinks she has made the right choice at the moment. She has every right to think that. She is young and has the world at her feet, but I know life doesn't always go how you planned it I am not hoping she will realise this so she will ask me back, because I will say no. I guess I am just looking to get my self esteem back. I guess it will be hard for other guys to live up to what I did. Her family are very picky about their daughters boyfriends but they really liked me.
Philosoraptor Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Self esteem needs to come from inside, it can not be given to you by others. You are either confident in yourself or you are not. Right now it doesn't matter how good or bad someone else treats her, as she is not your concern anymore. What matters now is that you make your happiness is your #1 concern. You're a good guy if you were willing to give your all, it takes courage to do so. Take that with you and in time you will cross someone who is willing to give just as much as you are.
theonlyjuan Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Pretty similar to my situation. Yeah, there is a good chance that could happen, but will you ever find out? She might think it but would she ever mention it? It's the same for a lot of things.. I had this guitar once and it was amazing. It did everything I needed it to do and it sounded brilliant n all that. I really wanted this other one my favorite guitarist had. So, I sold it and bought the one I really wanted. It's a good guitar but it hasn't lived up to what I thought it would. It's not as good as my old one, even though at the time I thought I was making the right choice. Do I miss my old guitar? Yes! Do I regret selling it and buying the new one? Hell yes! I learned from that mistake. You don't know what you've got until it's gone. I tried new guitars, just like your girlfriend will try new relationships. They have not been as my previous. She may very well realise she let go of something good way too soon. She is only young and probably feels that there may be the right person out there for her. She may have had them all along....Perhaps she should have waited it out. When you were young I bet you thought differently, like her. Unless you are lucky to find " The One " early, you learn to settle a bit and see what comes of relationships, without questioning your feelings within a few months. Love can develop if you give it time, she is young. She has just jumped the gun. You just never know. You live and learm
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