Ide Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I'm with a very communicative, loving, trustworthy and loyal guy who I KNOW will not just leave me for another woman, as long as we're constantly working on ourselves together and experiencing things together. I still feel jealousy and insecurity, despite all his re-assurances of loyalty. And this paralyzes me and makes me do almost self-destructive things to push us both over the edge (to truly test things I guess?) I'm absolutely new to being in love and being in a serious relationship. It's scary and hurtful, but I want to make it work. I just have to somehow deal with my insecurities (without having to rely on materialism to substitute for my confidence). Any advice for a young woman in her mid-20s on dealing with this? I could really use some re-assurance / reality kick in the face / advice.
Philosoraptor Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Simply enough, everyone deserves a fair chance. If he has done nothing to show you he is untrustworthy, then why worry or test him? What has happened in your life to scare you away from relationships? No matter what it is, this guy didn't do it so you can't put the mistakes of another on him or you will push him away. I once dated someone with similar trust issues and tests. Had to explain that if these things didn't stop that I was not going to stick around and be punished for anothers mistakes. It's kinda like grounding one kid because the other did something wrong.
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