Mr Chips Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I guess like most people posting on here for the first time, I'm looking for a bit of guidance, support and maybe even confirmation of my feelings. I had been with my other half on and off for 6 years, the on times were great, the off times were frequent. Through those years there has always been something that wasn't right, it was my commitment, my children, not having more children.... It didn't matter, it was always something. For 5 of those years my OH was a heaving drinker, and a lot of the arguments previously were not based on that but I think the hangover caused them.... Then 6 months ago my OH stopped drinking altogether, a changed person, I offered the commitment got a house and tried to move in. The OH never got on with my daughter even saying she hated her, she got over that and they became close when she moved in, but then it was the dog who made so much mess, or the cat.... Now it's my son who can't do anything right and in her eyes is always rude. My question is.... Despite trying to do everything right are some people never happy ? We had a massive row this morning and I told her to leave my house, move out. I don't think I can take any more years of things never being right, Does anyone else have experience of a partner like this and how did they move on ?
lessica Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I am no expert.. but I don't really think it is uncommon for things to be wrong at times. But personalities can of course amplify things and make them more common. It may be her personality, a general dissatisfaction with themselves, or life in general. Sadly, I think becoming that type of person is an easy habit to fall in to. I have a relation that is like you described to a t. She is wealthy, semi famous in my country, great life, great partner. But there is always something 'not good enough', needs to be fixed, causing a problem... she just cant seem to settle and be happy. It is just problem after problem. Latest is a problem with her step son, completely uncalled for unnecessary, but still the problem dominates everything. Patience is about all you can do, or you can try to be really patient and address it- if nothing changes, and the pattern continues, you would be safe to say it is THEM in general.
Philosoraptor Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 She sounds at best very pessimistic; likely controlling and emotionally abusive. You're not happy and I'm sure the way she has treated your children doesn't please you either. The best thing for you to do is stay away from this toxic person as her attitude will imprint on your children the longer they are around her. No one should have to walk on eggshells around someone who is supposed to care about them. You sound like a good and respectable guy, you'll have no issue finding a much more suitable and stable mate.
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