So my girlfriend broke up with me recently.

[Allen101]

The title says it all. I was together with her for around 9 months and knew her 3 months before we got together. During the past month our relationship began to spiral down. I dont have a job and just recently got my drivers liscense, mind you im still in highschool. i know that i wasnt a great boyfriend seeing as i hardly had any money to spend on her, nor did i have the ability to take her places. So there wasnt really much to do. In the beginning she didnt care about any of those things and was happy just being together with me whether it was at the movies or simply together at the park talking about things. we would hangout atleast a few times everyweek or call and skype each other. We had alot of common interests and she was really pretty and cute, hence why I decided to get to know her more. I wasnt the type of guy who was an easy person to talk to and was kind of awkward to be around at times. But I felt that she was special and she felt the same way since she stayed with me for those 9 months. She didnt have much friends at school and the ones she did have didnt treat her as nicely so she would always be in the background when they talked. As i began to know her i found out that her mom left her at an early age and that her dads new wife treated her badly and insulted her all the time. Then I found out that she was taken advantage of by someguy earlier that year. I felt really bad for her but I was completly in love with her. I tried making her smile more and get out of the house more often and it worked, seeing as she became more comfortable being around me. I began to spend more time with her at school than my friends. I would hangout with her at nutrition and lunch and we would always be together.But later on in the relationship she began not wanting to hang out with me since she was bored of everything around here. I kept asking her to go out and just hangout because I'd rather be somewhere with her than just be home or hanging out with other friends. But her answer would always be that she's to lazy or that its just to boring. Truth is we hardly ever hanged out outside of school once school has started. Because of that i began acting like a prick at times to her since there was this "guy friend" whom she would hangout with alone more frequently than with me, he was 5or6 years older than her and had money to spend and took her out to fun and interesting places. but to make matters worse it seemed as if she enjoyed his company more than mine. Whenever i asked about him she would reassure me that he's just a friend whose like an older brother to her and that theyre just friends with no feelings. but i kept telling her that if they we only friends then why would he come out of his way to drive over 30 mins to pick to up then take you somewhere nice and buy you all those things, but she kept saying they were just friends. but later on one day at school i asked her if anything was wrong since she seemed a bit down, and she told me that the guy confessed to her saying he loved her but she told me that she felt nothing and wasnt sad or anything. Well I helped comfort her during that time since i found out that they began arguing alot more. Things began to get better and although there were small arguments here and there everything seemed perfectly fine. But once summer started thats when I problems began. I began asking her to come out more frequently seeing as it was summer and we have alot of free time. But much to my dislike she chose to hangout with her friends alot more than me, which got me jealous since it seemed she never had time for me. By this time we didnt text as much or call her. Then one day i asked her to go to the movies and she agreed we had a great time, made out a bit then held hands and just hugged. Nothing seemed out of the ordinary and all seemed well. Then once AX or anime expo came things turned to ****. We began talking less and less to one another and during the 4 days of AX we didnt talk at all. But once it was over i saw on her Instagram that there were some photos of her with the same guy and i found out that he was an online friend she met and they hanged out all 4 days of the expo. Just so you know I barely made an Instagram that week and was looking for people when I came across her account. I didnt follow her but I kept looking at the photos and got pissed off. They seemed very close with one another so when I decided to ask her about it she said that the reason she posted it on there instead of Fb was that she knew i would get jealous. Well that didnt help our relationship at all. Then the week after ax was over i asked her if she wanted to go somewhere but she said that she was to tired from all the walking, so I stopped asking her and let her rest. Then when I asked her if she wanted to hangout in the weekend she told me she has plans with friends. Turns out she made plans with the guy in the photo and some other online guy friend and one of her girl friends to go to the beach. But I only found out who she went with after she went. I got so freaking pissed off because she would always tell me that she wanted to go to the beach with me and when I did go during summer i invited her to come along but she turned it down and said she had things to do but in the end she didnt do the things she said she was going to do sinc ei asked her later. So I confronted her about going to the beach with the guy caus ei was jealous as fk,and she said that they were just friends and it was a hangout. Well now a few days later she told me that the relationship was really pointless and that she doesn't want to deal with a relationship right now since it brings unnecessary stress toward her life. And that she has no feelings for me anymore, even though we were all fine 2 weeks ago. She told me she just wants to have fun for now and make new friends. She told me all this over text and when I asked if we could meet or even talk it over on the phone she replied with "nope :D". I asked her if they was another guy but she said nope and that she just wants to make new friends. Im so lost right now guys, I've been depressed as fk the past days. All i want is to have her back but she said that theres no chance that we'll ever be together. I don't know what to do, she was the first person outside of my family that cared so much for me. I need advice and help pleasee help me out..

[daftpunk]

First of all, I suggest you make far more liberal use of the Enter key!

 

Secondly, she may have been the first person outside of your family to "really" care for you (though I use the term lightly, as such disingenuous behavior does not speak to any genuine empathy that I can discern), but she won't be the last.

 

Of course, that's not what you want to hear right now. Right now you'd probably find the prospect of blowing the planet to smithereens along with everyone on it a preferable alternative to imagining her with another guy. This is normal. But seeing as how you have no way of generating the 2x10^36 Joules of energy required to overcome Earth's gravitational binding, I'd say you should go for the next best thing: Accept that, for now, you have no future with her and move on to someone who won't play you for a fool. At least, perhaps not so blatantly.