suarez Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 What are your opinions on contact between setting up the first date and actually meeting? I've been speaking to Someone from an online dating site and we organized a date for when I get back from work but that's 10 days away. She knows the day I get back so is it ok to just wait until then or should I just send 1 or 2 'how is your day going' texts so she knows I'm interested still? We have only really had 1 text convo and she suggested we meet up when I get back. We're fb friends as well. Thanks for any input you may have. Link to post Share on other sites
MrTurk Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 I dont really like getting into texting with someone all that much before I meet them. I feel that the more texting that goes on.....the more of a chance that the person forms a false sense of who you are, which in turn sets you up for failure when they meet you in person. You also risk a problem by reconfirming the said date and time with her....because a number of women can take that move as you not being sure of yourself or her. (a woman stated that exact scenario on this forum in the past) Link to post Share on other sites
Aero-el Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 After the first date is set and agreed upon, I would leave it at that. I would not text/call my date over and over with superfluous things, as there is no point to it. The point of texting/calling is to set the date. If/when she becomes my girlfriend, then I will up the phone communications a little. Link to post Share on other sites
Author suarez Posted July 18, 2013 Author Share Posted July 18, 2013 Yeah this is all true but is 10 days just too long to go without any communication. A woman's opinion would be greatly appreciated. I mean we hardly know each other so there isn't much to talk about before the first date, but I know girls that see it as a lack of interest if she doesn't hear from the guy for that long. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 Definitely keep in contact from now till 1st date. Call her every couple of days to say hi, and to show that you are interested. Link to post Share on other sites
CanCan Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 If a guy doesn't contact me for 10 days, I would think that he is not interested. At least drop her a text or email here and there asking how her day was. My 2nd date (/official first date) with my current boyfriend was not supposed to be until 2 week after we met for the first time over coffee; however, I ended up spending time with him 3 more times before our "first official date" which by then was really our 4th date LOL Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted July 19, 2013 Share Posted July 19, 2013 I would email her maybe twice before your date to tell her something funny you saw or heard. What sort of date will you be having? You could send her restaurant reviews or events happening around that time to see what she likes. Encourage her to do the same. Keep it light and short but keep the lines of communication open so she won't think you've forgotten about her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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