Sanctionne Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 My ex and I had been long time friends. The feelings were always there, but the timing was never right. He had broken up w/his long distance gf after they were together for a few months and then finally after many yrs we take our friendship to the next level.... There was a time when he was upset and said that the only reason he couldn't go back to his ex is because he had been w/me and she wouldn't take him back. He of course apologized and said he didn't mean it. i tried to forget this comment that he made, but it was burned in my memory and I blew up on him over it a few times.... He is the one that broke up w/her. Said he didn't feel the same way that she felt and blah blah.... So then why when we are apart he always goes back to talking to her?! was he telling the truth? is that who he wants to be with? I know that she'd take him back in a heartbeat, so idk what the frick he is waiting for? I'm just so upset and hurt. I never del like I was good enough. Maybe I'm not.
JDPT Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I'm sorry you feel upset and hurt but I believe this friend of yours is truly not over his girlfriend/ex and sounds like he won't be for a long time. I would suggest to try and not take anything personally, take things very slow and know that this person is not ready to be in a committed relationship with you. I wouldn't wait around for him it appears that he likes to go back and forth and land wherever he feels most comfortable, don't allow him to use you, you are better than that and deserve more than that. 1
Author Sanctionne Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 Thank you very much for the reply. I know you're prob right. But I can't understand why he even broke it off w/her or hasn't gone back to her? I suppose that's only an answer he can give and I'm not going to be talking to him again. 1 week NC, but it's a start.
JDPT Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Thank you very much for the reply. I know you're prob right. But I can't understand why he even broke it off w/her or hasn't gone back to her? I suppose that's only an answer he can give and I'm not going to be talking to him again. 1 week NC, but it's a start. And it's a very good and strong start. Who knows why he broke it off with her, he may just not know what he wants at this moment in his life and you are not about to jump on that emotional rollercoaster. Be strong, commit to NC and you will be just fine.
Recommended Posts