MrTurk Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 When you meet a guy online or in person....how important is his job? I know I have seen a ton of women online, that have wrote "seeking professional man"....which basically means most blue collar guys can take a hike. I have noticed a few times when talking to women, they seem to change their tune slightly when I tell them I work for a retail company. How many of you see that as an instant deal breaker? A 40ish yr old man in retail? The thing is though, I dont work at a specific store, like a manager, or sales person does. I'm a technician that travels the district, and fixes the issues at different stores, computers, phones, alarm system, etc. I actually make good money, am almost debt free, own my home, and have 2 cars. Yet I just get the feeling that when I tell a woman I work for such and such retail company....that pops the balloon right there. I dont think many women care to date a guy that works in retail. I also think a lot of it has to do with her friends and family, asking where her new man works....she doesnt want to be embarrassed saying he works for a retailer.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I prefer to date white collar so online, I don't even meet up with blue collar guys. But...if I met soneone in real life and was attracted to him, I would give him a chance. 1
Keenly Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 So if you don't work retail, don't say you work detail. Just say you are an electronics technician. 8
Sanctionne Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 If someone is going to judge you based on the type of job you have all I can say is GOLD DIGGER... You shouldn't want that type of girl anyway. Someone should like you for you, not what you can buy them. 5
1369 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Look, you make good money, you almost own your home and have two cars. That's all that matters at the end of the day. You just need to change how you describe your job. Don't tell them you work in retail. Tell them you are a "business consultant" or something like that. Then let them figure out that you do well for yourself. 2
Salvatore85 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I prefer to date white collar so online, I don't even meet up with blue collar guys. But...if I met soneone in real life and was attracted to him, I would give him a chance. This is an odd post considering you created a thread wondering where all the good guys are however you severely limit your options worrying about someone's occupation... 5
Lani Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I care about a guys job, in the sense that he should care about it and be stable. It doesn't matter so much to me what he does, as long as it's a secure job with some sort of future attached to it. I'd suggest changing the way you tell women about your job. Along the lines of 'I'm a technician for all the 'blah blah' stores and I do 'blah' for them' Don't just say where you work. That's a boring response anyway. 3
bluegreen Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Why would he have to change-lie about his job to anyone. Does that mean if he drove garbage track he would forever had to be single? Good Lord those calculating b... have already counted how many dinners presents and how big diamond he can afford in first hour of meeting and found out not enough. May I kindly suggest you quit meeting woman at bars and start church volunteering and take few classes events to meet someone ... 3
Author MrTurk Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 I prefer to date white collar so online, I don't even meet up with blue collar guys. But...if I met soneone in real life and was attracted to him, I would give him a chance. This is an odd post considering you created a thread wondering where all the good guys are however you severely limit your options worrying about someone's occupation... Trying to introduce logic into the dating practices of some women is usually a fruitless endeavor 1
Author MrTurk Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 I'd suggest changing the way you tell women about your job. Along the lines of 'I'm a technician for all the 'blah blah' stores and I do 'blah' for them' Don't just say where you work. That's a boring response anyway. Yes...I do word it that way....but many women cancel all that out...and only pay attention to the name of the company....knowing that I'm employed by a retailer.
Imported Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 This is an odd post considering you created a thread wondering where all the good guys are however you severely limit your options worrying about someone's occupation... Women like that.....honestly......what if I lost my job. What did they see in me. A guy that provided them material needs. Where's the love in that. I look at it all and well, what does it even matter. I just tell them I am a badge inspector. I travel all over Central America inspecting badges. Or maybe cake decorator. Yes, I am the guy that puts the cherry on top. I am pretty sure there is a technical name for that job. Where are all the good guys? Side stepping pot-holes in life and moving on. 1
bluegreen Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Women like that.....honestly......what if I lost my job. What did they see in me. A guy that provided them material needs. Where's the love in that. I look at it all and well, what does it even matter. I just tell them I am a badge inspector. I travel all over Central America inspecting badges. Or maybe cake decorator. Yes, I am the guy that puts the cherry on top. I am pretty sure there is a technical name for that job. Where are all the good guys? Side stepping pot-holes in life and moving on. Give bad name to the rest of us and yes one day when it hits them all they missed they whine and cry about how there are no good man left. 1
Lani Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Yes...I do word it that way....but many women cancel all that out...and only pay attention to the name of the company....knowing that I'm employed by a retailer. Then they're shallow idiots and you don't want them around anyway.
sydneysider1978 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I do judge guys according to what they do, but not for gold digger reasons. I'd rather date someone that did something they loved, or at least thought was important than some hot-shot business man that hates their job, works all hours and is motivated by his huge pay check. Jobs like teacher, journalist, carpenter, charity worker, not hugely well paid but all very attractive to me. (Actually, tradesmen get paid really well here in Australia, but that's beside the point) OP sounds like you have a great career and an interesting job. Describe what you do, not who you work for. If the ladies don't get it, *shrug* their loss. 3
Star Gazer Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Yes...I do word it that way....but many women cancel all that out...and only pay attention to the name of the company....knowing that I'm employed by a retailer. I don't think that's true. They probably don't like *what* you do, not who you work for. As an example, I have a friend who works for The Gap who just got back from a trip to Europe for work. He's in marketing. He doesn't say, "I work at The Gap." He says he's in marketing for a major corporation.
bluegreen Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I do judge guys according to what they do, but not for gold digger reasons. I'd rather date someone that did something they loved, or at least thought was important than some hot-shot business man that hates their job, works all hours and is motivated by his huge pay check. Jobs like teacher, journalist, carpenter, charity worker, not hugely well paid but all very attractive to me. (Actually, tradesmen get paid really well here in Australia, but that's beside the point) OP sounds like you have a great career and an interesting job. Describe what you do, not who you work for. If the ladies don't get it, *shrug* their loss. Yes I forgot to mention this very important part and am glad someone else did not
New User Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I ran into that a few times with OLD. It's kind of funny to me. I was working as a tower rigger for a while. Never bothered to tell them how much I made- not like I was rich, but for the area I'm in my income would put me in pretty solid middle/upper middle class. I can't help but think that most of the women who think in class terms would have been suddenly interested if they realized that. Oh well- I just looked at it as filtering out the women that weren't worth my time. I wouldn't change the profile. Anyone that is concerned about how much you make or what you do for a living isn't really worth the effort.
Eggplant Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Ultimately no -- it's not the most important. Intelligence does matter. Work ethic does matter. I don't want a gold-digger man. Some men and women out there are lazy and happy to let their partner carry all the weight. 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Never judged on the job, just the goal. Sounds like what you do isn't even CLOSE to retail though, I wouldn't call it retail to begin with.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 This is an odd post considering you created a thread wondering where all the good guys are however you severely limit your options worrying about someone's occupation... I have tried dating blue collar guys in the past and we just...have nothing in common. We are worlds apart. It's nothing to do with money. I highly value education; they make fun of it. They tend to be rough around the edges, I prefer some class. It's to do with compatibility and connection. 2
CarrieT Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Nicely stereotyped. I'm like Eternal Sunshine and it has nothing to do with stereotypes. Look, I lived with a blue collar worker and tried to make a go of a relationship for over a decade. Yes, he would come to operas with me, but had no interest in them. He would ask about the books I was reading, but wouldn't bother to read any himself. He would gladly attend and dine at the finest restaurants in town (that I was reviewing), but didn't have a tie or a jacket to look appropriate in... If there are blue collar guys with less rough edges, I would have dated them in a heartbeat, but most are more interested in less cerebral activities and that has nothing to do with stereotyping. It has to do with the fact that I have been around the block SEVERAL DOZEN TIMES and can speak from experience. 1
carhill Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Funnily, this blue collar guy counts owners of multi-million dollar corporations amongst his closest friends. I had one on his knees today screwing concrete board on a bathroom remodel I'm working on, for free. It's what we do. Good on the women who overlook blue collar guys like myself. Thank YOU! 4
KungFuJoe Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 In my experience, in my early to mid 20s when I dated, very few women cared what I did. But I guess as you get older that would change. On the flip side, I wouldn't date a woman who was 30 and driving a beat up old car and working customer service at best buy.
KungFuJoe Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Well let's be honest for a sec. There IS a correlation between your job level and how you have lived your life. Someone with an education and a more privileged background will generally have a higher paying and more prestigious job. And some people can relate more with that than a blue collar car mechanic. It's not about looking down on anyone but some people place a higher value on ambition than others.
bluegreen Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Well let's be honest for a sec. There IS a correlation between your job level and how you have lived your life. Someone with an education and a more privileged background will generally have a higher paying and more prestigious job. And some people can relate more with that than a blue collar car mechanic. It's not about looking down on anyone but some people place a higher value on ambition than others. And they make one bad decision company decides to make some cuts or they get fired and then WHAT ? Next job they get is "customer service" why well lets see : over qualified age inappropriate or piss poor economy you choose. Nothing in life is bought or paid for sure forever 1
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