Do you think men and women have different ideas of what is consided attractive?

[Tina747]

Do you think men and women have different ideas of what is physically attractive (meaning what is physically attractive in women). For example, the woman that the women think is most attractive may not be the woman that the men find most attractive. Do you think this is true? And if so, how are their perceptions different?

[turt]

Of course. You can't really put certain traits together to figure out what's attractive. There are too many variables. Since men are attracted to women, they don't even have to think about it.

[Tina747]

For example, I have had female friends or female family members think a woman is not objectively pretty when men found her very attractive (and not just about sex, he really thought she was beautiful)...

[1369]

While men and women probably do have different ideals about what is attractive, I think the main thing is that men and women prioritize attractiveness differently.

 

For instance, a man can date a woman two points above his attractiveness. In other words, a man who is a 7 can date a 9. It's not even that uncommon for a man who is a 5 to date or marry a 10.

 

On the other hand, a man who is a 9 dating a 7 will probably want to upgrade sooner or later. And no man who is a 9 will date a 5.

[MrTurk]

I find women attractive that most men I know do not. But I also am very big on mental stimulation vs physical looks.

 

Women tend to have a jaded view I think, of what the male population finds attractive. Because women are told whats attractive by media, movies, TV, and books.....rather than listening to actual men.

 

This is the same reason why so many women are annoyed when they feel they look terrible.....and a guy still wants to hit on her.

[dasein]

IME, women are capable of finding other women attractive or not based on what degree they feel threatened by the woman in question. So have very often heard women go on and on about how cute another woman is who is in fact morbidly obese or crosseyed, and alternatively how ugly a particular woman is who is in fact quite lovely.

 

Have seen the same in men, but very rarely. Men's foible in this regard is that they are often afraid to comment on the looks of other men at all, and this is IMO due to sexual identity insecurity.

[ScreamingTrees]

And no man who is a 9 will date a 5.

 

Although I find numerical systems an asinine way of trying to make these points, I'll humor you in saying that I've seen very attractive men lusting over such physical extremes as girls who look like skeletons, children (truly a wtf moment), or the borderline obese..

[MrCastle]

I think they do. I think women feel like they always need to look like that skinny girl they see in magazines. And that most men prefer that body type.

 

Whereas most men prefer a curvy girl. Either big boobs, or big booty, or both.

 

I think it works both ways. There are some men that women find attractive that absolutely startle and disappoint me all at once.

 

I think most men get the tall, muscular thing. But when the guy has a face like Freddy Krueger, I'm like really? That guy? That's the guy?