Tyson112 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 (edited) Hi guys! My ex girlfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. We did not have the best relationship but we shared a lot of things and loved each other a lot. She was with me for a number of years. We were still in contact via text and calls up till the 2 months mark of our break up. She completely cut me off after that. So it has been a month since we have spoken to each other. Here's the thing, she sends me mixed signals about wanting to get back together during the first 2 months. And we text and even enjoy our inside jokes, sometimes she says that she feels like seeing me. But then she told me she's dating and when I told her I'm dating(Not anymore), she got angry and upset. When I heard she was dating, I tried to keep my distance but she still texted me during some nights saying she misses me. Just a few days ago, I found out that she was seeing that guy for 2 months now. So while she was texting and telling me how much she misses me and everything, she was also declaring her love for this new guy. Just 2 days ago, I asked her about this. She claims that she loves this new guy and he treats her better than I ever did. She seems madly in love with him, judging from her Facebook posts and the way she defended him when i questioned their love. She also told me that she no longer has feelings for me. And blocked me out. I just want to know if this is the real thing or is it more of rebound? Edited July 19, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
xilver Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I don't really know the answer but I will say that there are certain types of people out there that move on quickly from one long term rel to another. I don't know if they are lucky with finding these people or just grab on to whoever they can but it seems like cupid hits them every time. There are also people who will find someone else and wait until they know for sure before they break up. Also. unless she is immature, inexperienced or even possibly that devastated over the break up and wants to hurt you, I don't think she would lie. She obviously had some feelings for you if she still contacted you in that way.
AllTooWell Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 The answer to that doesn't matter. The thing is that you guys aren't together. it doesn't matter if she loves this guy, if she hates him, etc because at the end of the day she's choosing to be with him; not with you. Stop contacting her. Give her space. Go work on yourself and see what happens. 2
xilver Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Thanks for the reply! Well, she's a pretty insecure girl to begin with. She's very dependent emotionally. Not dissing her but just laying out the facts. I don't think she's immature though. She's older than I am. After she told me she was dating this guy, she said that "he's everything I can hope for but he's not you". That was like 1 month ago. I think she was probably confused when she was talking to both of you. Maybe even wanted you more but it wasn't happening how she thought it would for whatever reason. Then she had to decide to give it a try with this guy and couldn't really do that with you around. Typically though people don't lose feelings for someone so easily. I've been in rels with girls for months and in love, but find myself also missing the love of an ex. Anything is possible if she truly loved you
AllTooWell Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Thanks for the reply! Well, she's a pretty insecure girl to begin with. She's very dependent emotionally. Not dissing her but just laying out the facts. I don't think she's immature though. She's older than I am. After she told me she was dating this guy, she said that "he's everything I can hope for but he's not you". That was like 1 month ago. Unfortunately saying that is NOT saying she wants you back. My ex has literally told me he's miserable without me, wants to marry me, misses me every day... but still doesn't wanna get back together right now. It sucks and that's why it's important NOT to have contact with them - so that you don't get mixed messages and hurt by the things that they say. Unless she straight up says she wants to get back together, you have to try to disregard it.
xilver Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 (edited) You are strong to be able to hear about her and her new guy and still be civil with her. That is the best way to be Imo. No matter what happens they were an important part of your life. It's best to have a good conscious and know that you handled it the best way you could. Continue to be honest with yourself and her. Edited July 18, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
flitzanu Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 (edited) Hi guys! My ex girlfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. We did not have the best relationship but we shared a lot of things and loved each other a lot. She was with me for a number of years. We were still in contact via text and calls up till the 2 months mark of our break up. She completely cut me off after that. So it has been a month since we have spoken to each other. Here's the thing, she sends me mixed signals about wanting to get back together during the first 2 months. And we text and even enjoy our inside jokes, sometimes she says that she feels like seeing me. But then she told me she's dating and when I told her I'm dating(Not anymore), she got angry and upset. When I heard she was dating, I tried to keep my distance but she still texted me during some nights saying she misses me. Just a few days ago, I found out that she was seeing that guy for 2 months now. So while she was texting and telling me how much she misses me and everything, she was also declaring her love for this new guy. Just 2 days ago, I asked her about this. She claims that she loves this new guy and he treats her better than I ever did. She seems madly in love with him, judging from her Facebook posts and the way she defended him when i questioned their love. She also told me that she no longer has feelings for me. And blocked me out. I just want to know if this is the real thing or is it more of rebound? 1. they are dating 2. she is with him 3. she is not with you 4. she is in a relationship 5. calling it a "rebound" is just another name for "she's still dating this guy and not with you" Edited July 19, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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