Daze_n_Confused Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Hi. i'm just 3 days into NC after failure to get back with gf after argument that lasted a few days. she said she could be friends but she was cold and told me she didnt love me anymore after she todl me she loved me just the other day. Then few days later she calls and evnetually tells me she dont know what love is and she didnt want to Love ANYONE not just me. because it hurt too much to be in love. So she txt one more time. then i txt her and she still was aloof. So on monday i implemented NC. so far no contact has been made. I miss her so much. We only dated for like 4 months but it was hard and fast type of love which obviously crashed and burn as fast. She is about 27 and not dated very much and was in a bad abusive relationship in previous relationship marriage- kinda like pre-arranged. might have messed her up. Is it possible she still loves me but has shut down to protect herself. Kinda like bipolar I quess. to not love someone from one day to the next isnt normal. Did she really love me at all? as she said she dont know what love is or she feeding me a line to send me off? I'm sooooo sad and depressed and confused about what to do. All i know now is to give her space and prayer. any help or tips on how to deal ? ty
along60years Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Three days of NC really is not much, there are people in relationships who occasionally go longer for whatever reason, travel, work, etc. You really need to give it more time and try to focus on other things. As far as her loving you, I don't know. I have no doubt that you felt a strong attraction and chemistry with her, but 4 months is not enough time to really know someone and move beyond the initial chemical reaction that takes place. It was lust. Give it time and space to cool down and see if she reaches out. It may have been too much too fast for her. 1
Philosoraptor Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 "I don't want anyone else" usually means there is someone they are already gunning for. Saying it is a way to make themselves feel better by relieving guilt. Regardless though, you need to start working on yourself and not worrying about her. She has made it clear that the relationship is over, so moving on is the only path you can take here.
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