LME Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 After 2 months i broke NC and texted my ex. He responded right away and I asked him to meet up sometime that week, if he was free. He was traveling for work last week so he was not available to see me during the week and said he'd get back for the weekend. I wasn't sure if i was going to be out of town or not and told him that so he was like "ok well just let me know if you're gonna be around". So saturday I was around and I texted him asking if he was free on Sunday. He said he was and he agreed to meet me for coffee Sunday afternoon. I told him I only wanted him to come if he wanted to, not to do it out of pity/to be nice. He agree and said he would be there. An hour or so later he texted me and apologized because he forgot he had plans with his married friends we always hung out with. He said he was not avoiding me and he would catch me sometime during the week and apologized. I have no reason not to believe him and that he truly is not avoiding me,etc. but i just have this sinking feeling that i am not going to hear back from him at all this week and it sucks. Do you think he is being genuine? On one hand i can only take his word for what he said to me but on the other hand he could have tried to make plans during the week with me right when he cancelled and he didn't. I'm not planning a meet up to beg for him back or anything, fyi
JDPT Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 What is the purpose of the meeting then? Based on what you have disclosed I subjectively believe he is not being all truthful with you. And quiet honestly it does come across as if you are begging to meet with him and he is doing it out of pity. I can only suggest for you to start preparing to move on. I'm not too certain what your situation is but it appears that he has other priorities now.
AllTooWell Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I agree with JDPT. What are you hoping to get out of this meeting? What is the purpose? Be honest with yourself. I do not think you should contact him again.
Author LME Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 uh ****. you two are probably right. i just don't get why he would say he was not avoiding me,etc. if i don't hear from him by the end of the week im deleting all numbers/texts/fbooks/etc. i cant deal with that
aloneinaz Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 uh ****. you two are probably right. i just don't get why he would say he was not avoiding me,etc. if i don't hear from him by the end of the week im deleting all numbers/texts/fbooks/etc. i cant deal with that It's hard I know but he left you and didn't contact you at all in two months. You then re-contacted him after two months? Why do you think anything would of changed? What value would there be in discussing a relationship that ended two months ago by him? If he had ANY interest in getting back w/you he would of let you know that. It sounds like he was just being nice in replying but clearly is still not interested in talking to you or getting back with you or he'd change his plans and meet with you vs. hanging out with other friends. My advice is to lose all his numbers now and move on with our life. Why try to talk to someone who thru you out of his life? You're only going to add more pain and suffering to yourself and inhibit your healing. Focus on you and then find someone new. 1
AllTooWell Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 uh ****. you two are probably right. i just don't get why he would say he was not avoiding me,etc. if i don't hear from him by the end of the week im deleting all numbers/texts/fbooks/etc. i cant deal with that Because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Do you honestly expect him to say "I don't want to see you."? That's pretty harsh. You should have ALREADY deleted them. Not to give you a hard time. Don't wait til the end of the week. You are wasting your own time and giving yourself false hope. Go NC, go dark on him, and work on yourself.
JDPT Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Recovery starts now, do yourself a favor and avoid any further grief. Lose his number along with any other methods of contacting him or knowing about him. The relationship was done and over with long ago for him, we need to fast forward you to today and realize and accept the current situation. Let that be the last time he has any control over you, it's time for you to take charge of your destiny.
Author LME Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 You guys are right. He would have tried harder to reschedule or contacted me if he wanted to see me. Not contacting him again. Bye bye
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