notquitesur Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 There's this girl that Ive liked for awhile now, we been friends on and off but things are hard because shes in a LDR. She tells me she wants to be with me but yet shes still dating this guy. It gets to me. I met her family awhile back ago and this was my first time hanging out with her in over year. So I spent the day with her family things went good, I ended the night by just kissing her on the cheek. Then I message her the next day and I felt like I was being ignored but she ended up messaging me saying she just having a **** day and talk to me later. Her mom ends up messaging me thinking i made a move on her daughter, I explained what happened. So i thought maybe this was why I was being ignored. I messaged the girl I like asking hey did I do something wrong is that why youre ignoring me? Shes like no just a couple of ****ty days, I then asked her if it had to do anything with the kiss on the cheek I gave her. She just made a joke by asking me do i kiss everyone ?? Anyways I ask her did she want to talk to me about whats going on and shes like no I cant talk to you about it. I just let her know that Im here for her. The next day I just cant really do it that it gets to me about the love triangle so I asked her what does she want? She said she doesnt know. I told her that its not fair to me or this guy. That she needs to decide who she can live with or without, that it would be best for me to go till she can decide. I told her Im ready to start my life and Id love it for you to be in the picture. She just said fine go. A week goes by then she messages me saying that she would appreciate it if I didnt talk to her mom about her and that she gave me a chance and got to meet her family then I leave few days later. I said Shes the one that told me to go, and that she didnt know what she wanted and that I tried to be there for her and she wasnt talking to me. She said havent you thought maybe I was in the middle of ending things with him and that you just wanted to leave so why would I stop you. Shes says shes done dealing with this and she will message me tomorrow. She never messaged me, I messaged her for the next couple days just to say sorry and stuff but no response so I got flowers delivered to her house with a letter, an apology card with a poem inside last night, she messaged me to say that she got them thank you and that they were beautiful. We sent a few jokingly texts back to forth but then she stopped responding because she was just switching phone company but she messaged me back saying goodnight and stuff. I messaged her this morning saying goodmorning hope you have a good day . and she just messages back saying you too John. So i message her asking what she was up to for the day? No response so later that day our mutual friend messaged her and she responded to that then after work I tried calling her to see if she wanted to talk but no answer so I sent her a text saying Just wanted to see how you are and I hope you like the flowers. Just wondering if you wanted to meet up at the park just to chat. Im not sure what to do, I like her I wish she would tell me what she wanted and that she would just message me, or is she still mad at me that I should just give her some space and to see if she comes around. She usually comes back around when we havent talked like last time we havent talked for a month then she come message me
gaius Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 She is telling you what she wants. When people ignore you it means they don't want to interact with you. Calling and texting even more after being ignored dries up vaginas. Leave her alone and find something else to do. 1
Author notquitesur Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 Well things were going good for us and I ****ed it up by telling her that she needs to decide who she can live with or without and that it would be best for me to go till she can decide. I just dont want to feel like Im being strung along. I know in reality that ldr's never work, so that I should hold off. Ive done this before I stop talking to her for a month then we pick up things and she says she wants to be with me and just its different with me. Ill just try to talk to her one more time in the next few days and if she doesnt respond then Ill just go and initiate no contact and give her space to think stuff through. Usually she comes back.
Nick D1980 Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Noob here, I went through that a couple times. Move on.
Author notquitesur Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 yeah I try to. I ignore her and then we start the same cycle back over of starting talking then wanting to be with each other then I start to lose my mind because the other guy still in the picture.
Nick D1980 Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Wow you must really like her. You gotta move on though.
Author notquitesur Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 I do understand I have to move on. I'll message her once more in a few days and after that Im done. Ill just keep busy. I do like her whole family though, her mom contacts me and says if I need anything that shell help me out. Its going to be hard with the position I put myself in. Ill go back to deleting her number, and if she messages me Ill just do my best to ignore it. If she trying to get me to chase her or anything to boost her ego ill just straight up tell her that if you really wanted to be with me, we would have been already.
Nick D1980 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 It seems like her mom treats you as a son. She is playing games with you. The more you think about it the more it is going to F up your brain so to speak. Just be friends with her, plenty of fish in the sea. Let her come to you. I hate being in situation like this though. Answer my thread a few threads down. Im a late late bloomer.
Author notquitesur Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 Well I know her mom wants me to be with her daughter instead of this guy from the long distance relationship. Her mom even said that she needs to make up her mind so that we all can move on with our lives. But yes thank you for your advice, I appreciate it
Author notquitesur Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 I just spoke with her and she was telling me she doesnt know if she wants it anymore. and that she needs to think.. I told her Ill give her the space she needs. We can talk anytime shes readyt o
InsaneTrombone Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I just spoke with her and she was telling me she doesnt know if she wants it anymore. and that she needs to think.. I told her Ill give her the space she needs. We can talk anytime shes readyt o Let us know how it goes sir.
sdraw108 Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 She is telling you what she wants. When people ignore you it means they don't want to interact with you. Calling and texting even more after being ignored dries up vaginas. Leave her alone and find something else to do. Nice way of putting it! 1
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