Willusmile Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 So im sure most of you know my story, I was dumped by my BF of 5 years I'm two weeks in. He is currently on vacation for the next few days, and he comes back on monday. My original plan was to talk to him when he came back from vacation and have "one last talk" However I recently heard from one of our mutual friends, that he has already been hanging around with another girl one of his coworkers. So far they're just hanging out, but I know it's the start of something between the two of them. I did feel down for the first few days but something happened gradually. I realized that he's moving on and I have to do the same thing. Obviously he has feelings for someone else, that's not me and I can't change that. It sucks really bad but I feel really calm. Im not crying, I'm not angry, Im not plotting ways to get us back together. It's just something that happened. I just have to keep looking forward. I'm not going to talk to him when he comes back. I have a feeling he's not going to respond to me no matter what I say. If he contacts me(I doubt he will) I won't respond to him. I'm going to LC until the apartment situation gets sorted out (I'm moving out so is he, and we're both on the lease) That should get sorta out by August and after that I am going NC with him. I can't even think of being friends with him, and if does get into a relationship with his coworker I don't want to be around to see it. I'm going to miss him terribly but I hope the best for him. I guess my actual question is I have been nightmares every night for a week straight about him dating someone else. In the dreams I always run into him with his new girlfriend (it's different girls every time) and I just feel so awkward that I see him with someone else. I try to get any from them but I always run into them and can't avoid them. Has anyone else experienced this? Is this my inner fears coming out?
Hoaks Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I am 13 days NC with my ex gf. I hardly ever dream, but the last 2 nights i have been waking up after multiple dreams about her, and the guy i think she is back with But i think i am dreaming these things because i have no idea what she is doing, who she is with, and how many different guys she is seeing and lying to. I hate the dreams, i just want her out of my head sooo bad. Nothing you can do, but give it time i guess.
Philosoraptor Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I guess my actual question is I have been nightmares every night for a week straight about him dating someone else. In the dreams I always run into him with his new girlfriend (it's different girls every time) and I just feel so awkward that I see him with someone else. I try to get any from them but I always run into them and can't avoid them. Has anyone else experienced this? Is this my inner fears coming out? Your fears and worries are making their way into your dreams. Are you either repressing, or thinking of these things often before you fall asleep? If so you need to shake up your routine in order to steer your dreams in another direction. Bad enough wasting your awake time with thoughts of an ex, even worse to waste your rest time as well.
Author Willusmile Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 Thanks for replying you guys. It is getting pretty ridiculous even when I take naps now i've been dreaming of him. I haven't contacted him at all, and I am trying my best to distract myself (video games, movies etc) but every time I fall asleep he's in my dreams. I just want him gone, I don't want to think about him anymore. It hurts enough I don't see him in real life.
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