Cam116 Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I've known this guy for a little over a year now. We go to school together, in the same program. He told me around the time that we had met that he liked me, but at the time I was in a relationship with someone else. My ex and I split up 7 months ago, and since he found out that I'm single, we've been interacting a bit more. Over the past month or so, it's REALLY heated up. We text eachother fairly frequently, our conversations are light and dripping with innuendo, mostly from him. He acts very flirty through texting, I know he is attracted to me and I am to him to, but when we hang out together outside of school, that flirtiness doesn't transcend! He seems to clam up, and I don't know if he's just not sure if he's interested or if he's just being shy. So we've hung out a few times outside of the classroom. We went tubing together about a week ago, had a really great time and went out for food afterwards (he payed). I casually mentioned to him on Monday that I was going again Tuesday (yesterday), and he showed some interest in maybe going. He didn't end up going because he had a test that night that he had to prepare for. So anyways, he definitely has shown interest in hanging out again. In fact, he texted me a few nights after our tubing trip and was asking when we were going to hang out again (pretty sure he had a little liquid courage in him). So we continued to flirt back and forth, I told him we would hang out again when he invites me out somewhere. But....there hasn't really been a follow up. We went out for drinks last night with the rest of the class to celebrate the almost-end-of-the-semester, and we had a great time. He mentioned something to all of us that he might be going up to NYC for a baseball game on Sunday, and asked if anyone was interested. I expressed some interest, even though I actually really don't want to go to NYC (but he's not even 100% sure he's going to be doing this anyway). So a friend of mine told me that I should try to persuade him to hang out with me on Sunday instead, like maybe invite him out somewhere local to watch the game. Do you think I should try to set plans with him? If this is being a case of being shy, I've had people tell me that I should ask HIM out somewhere, not wait for him. But at the same time, I don't want to look desperate or "too available". What do you guys think? And does it seem like he's interested?
New User Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I don't have a clue what's on his mind really. But if I'm interested in a woman I'd have made some kind of physical move by now (Kiss, club over the head and drag back to cave, etc). He might not have the confidence to make a move or he might just be naturally flirtatious. It doesn't sound like what I would really call shyness, but some guys- especially young guys- don't really know how to make the move that goes from friends to more. That isn't an insult- they don't teach that stuff in school and if you lack confidence it can be difficult to do.
salparadise Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 If this is being a case of being shy, I've had people tell me that I should ask HIM out somewhere, not wait for him. But at the same time, I don't want to look desperate or "too available". What do you guys think? And does it seem like he's interested? Sounds like to me he's shy. Yes, I think you should take some initiative and take the pressure off of him. Don't worry about seeming desperate or available. In this case it doesn't apply. He'll appreciate it and you'll probably be rewarded for your insight and efforts.
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