LosingHope0806 Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 A month after the break up I feel better yet I'm still hurt by his actions. Woke up to a beautiful post on twitter of him and his ex/now current referring to themselves as a Power couple... I lost it and broke down in tears. A power couple when just last month he was with me, I was in his bed...me an him were a couple. Just shows I meant nothing to this man, and why should I be hurting and crying when obviously he doesn't care about me at all. Hes only concerned with him and his "girlfriend" So one month later I'm done hoping that we can work it out, and how it feels, and letting you drag my heart around (if you know the song...yay) To all the broken hearts....remember that even on your weakest days..you get a little bit stronger.
Philosoraptor Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 It matters not what he is doing right now, it will do nothing positive for you to know anything of his life. You need to drop the twitter, facebook, email, and any other way you can find things out about his life. By keeping tabs on him you are only hurting yourself. 1
AllTooWell Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I posted that song in a song thread on here a little while ago! Love it. I don't know WHY you have him on social media. Stop kidding yourself and delete him. I have not and WILL NOT look at my exs social media. I'd rather avoid that gut wrenching sob fest, thanks. You are not in NC if you can still see their social media. Want a horror story? A friend dated someone for 5 months (not a very long time) but she fell hard for him. He dumped her without a word (ended their relationship on FB, deleted her off FB, and never talked to her again) and EVEN TODAY (its been over two years.) she still has his passwords to social media, and still logs in and reads/checks everything. And despite the fact that in many ways she's moved on, she will never TRULY move on until she lets that go. 1
theonlyjuan Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Drop the social media stuff, they are right. The first month or so is probably the hardest. I am nearly at 6 weeks and it has it's ups and downs. If I feel tired or run down, I start to feel sad and think about her more. Other than that, I can usually stay positive and happier. Nothing will be as bad as that first week.
Leegh Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 If you feel tempted to look at his Twitter info., etc. put a time limit on your computer usage. The last thing you need is to see him with a new girl. Try to take a day at a time, and focus on getting through each day. Good Luck, it's hard but you can do it.
Replaced Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 These guys are right in what they're saying. Delete all online social connections and do not check up on their profile(s). It WILL hurt you more than you can bare if you see something you wish you never saw. I'm telling you this from very recent experience. She broke up with me and deleted me from everywhere and deleted everything that showed we ever existed. She also replaced me so I got into the habit of checking her profile(s) for numerous reasons (none good for me). I have posted on here before about how I would stop it, but I couldn't resist and yesterday it was one giant stalking experience and things I saw hurt more then I can bare and I'm back to the start of the healing process. In fact it got worse. Last night I got no sleep at all, tossed and turned in bed for many hours. All I could think about was my ex and my replacement and my suicide. I have only myself to blame for checking her profiles, even then I knew it was no good for me but I learned the hard way the consequences of checking up on your ex. Don't do what I did, it will only cause you pain and set you back.
Author LosingHope0806 Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 Ok to clarify I do not follow him on twitter or any social media... We live in a small town and have mutual and not mutual friends (associates) someone retweeted his tweet because they thought it was "cute" and it ended up on my timeline!
Ashlaria Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 A friend recently told me to stop checking my ex's profile because I would never see anything good. And she was right. People only post the good parts of life on social media. You are never going to see anything bad or possibly even honest. So just stop! As for the retweets, that's sad, but why not look at it another way, if he was that fake with you, maybe he is that fake with her. The best revenge is a life lived well, so live it well and don't worry about how well he is living his 1
Author LosingHope0806 Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 I'm trying to stay positive and look at things in such light but things have been so rough these past two months. He cheated on me with his ex wife and thats who hes back with now. So i doubt hes being fake with her, he was only fake with me!
AllTooWell Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this that's really rough.
maturityassets Posted July 18, 2013 Posted July 18, 2013 Life is strange in all honestly. Its confusing and we forget how our's and our partner's lives are so separate when we are in our relationship. We forget that we haven't always been together, and that there were previous lovers in their lives prior to us. My ex did something similar, after breaking up with me, she spent a weekend over a friend of her's who she use to have feelings for prior to starting a relationship with me but he only saw her as somebody to hook up with. Broke my heart when I found out she did this. They didn't start dating all whatever and I found out in our last conversation before NC, she realized she could never like that guy again. Still though, my feelings were hurt. But hey she broke up with me, and its her own life. But sometimes it just makes us all skeptical about the entire relationship. Was I just a rebound? It couldn't have been though right, we were together for so long weren't we? Did we ever stand a chance? But you know we figure things out and we move on of course. It would be a lie though to say your ex never cared about you. They did care, now whatever is going through their minds or whatever their feelings are it doesn't concern you. I'm in a new relationship now after being dumped a few months ago. Of course its just started so it wouldn't be fair yet to compare my ex to my GF because well I loved my ex at one point while my current GF, our feelings still are in development. Regardless him going back to his ex says noting wrong about you, it says more about him. He is depended on her
Author LosingHope0806 Posted July 18, 2013 Author Posted July 18, 2013 Regardless him going back to his ex says noting wrong about you, it says more about him. He is depended on her Dependent on her when he should've been with me. It hurts because he tried to justify his cheating ways. When in all honesty if he would have told me that he needed to do this for his son I would have felt less betrayed and as if I never mattered. But from previous post I have stated how this is the 3rd time we had gotten back together. And he made it clear that the last time we broke up it only took him 3 weeks to get with someone else. I'm sure he cared about me at some point, but I was only a rebound for him. He could have never loved me and treated me in such a manner. But oh well....ill just keep moving on and leave all my questions unanswered.
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