JDPT Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Brief history, coming out of a 5 year relationship which ended roughly 2.5 months ago. For the past couple of days I've been having a very difficult time with myself. All I do is think about her and what she may be up to. The interesting thing is that I don't think about the happy moments we spent together but rather wonder what she is doing, if she is seeing anyone or screwing anyone. I'm taking my very last online class in order for me to graduate College. I've been sitting here for roughly an hour and a half trying to do school work but unfortunately have not been able to accomplish much or be productive. I can't seem to concentrate at all. I have to read a line from the lecture two or three times because my mind is simply elsewhere. It makes everything so difficult.
Philosoraptor Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Fill your life with happy things of your own, it should help cull some of the curiousity and allow you to focus more on the important things in your life.
bdizzle Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Brief history, coming out of a 5 year relationship which ended roughly 2.5 months ago. For the past couple of days I've been having a very difficult time with myself. All I do is think about her and what she may be up to. The interesting thing is that I don't think about the happy moments we spent together but rather wonder what she is doing, if she is seeing anyone or screwing anyone. I'm taking my very last online class in order for me to graduate College. I've been sitting here for roughly an hour and a half trying to do school work but unfortunately have not been able to accomplish much or be productive. I can't seem to concentrate at all. I have to read a line from the lecture two or three times because my mind is simply elsewhere. It makes everything so difficult. Been there, done that. Congratulations on graduating. Huge milestone. Word of caution though, and this is NOT to rain on your parade in the least. Graduated in May of this year. Yes, everything with the ex was happening around this point as well. Was tough to concentrate at times but being such a huge milestone, it was more important that the school work be finished. Graduation day. She didn't show up. Broke me. Through the thick and thin she swore up and down she'd be there, even after not speaking for a week we met up at her child support hearing with her children's father she even said then "I took that day off, I will be there." She never showed. What I'm trying to say is have the people you truly care about with you. Friends, family, whoever, but please don't let the relationship souring spoil such a momentous day for you. Its hard, I unblocked her on facebook, thats actually how I found out she was moving out. But that moment of weakness and sadness, I just had to see her face even if it was just a picture. Don't let this heartbreak ruin your progress or that day for you. Surround yourself with friends and family.
Author JDPT Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 Been there, done that. Congratulations on graduating. Huge milestone. Word of caution though, and this is NOT to rain on your parade in the least. Graduated in May of this year. Yes, everything with the ex was happening around this point as well. Was tough to concentrate at times but being such a huge milestone, it was more important that the school work be finished. Graduation day. She didn't show up. Broke me. Through the thick and thin she swore up and down she'd be there, even after not speaking for a week we met up at her child support hearing with her children's father she even said then "I took that day off, I will be there." She never showed. What I'm trying to say is have the people you truly care about with you. Friends, family, whoever, but please don't let the relationship souring spoil such a momentous day for you. Its hard, I unblocked her on facebook, thats actually how I found out she was moving out. But that moment of weakness and sadness, I just had to see her face even if it was just a picture. Don't let this heartbreak ruin your progress or that day for you. Surround yourself with friends and family. Very similar situation, it was towards the middle of last semester when she broke up with me and I believe that I was in a healthier state of mind that I immersed myself in my studies and to successfully completed the semester with all As. I, like you thought, school at this moment is way more important than wallowing about the break up. I think I have way too much time that in return leaves me thinking about her and her dealings. I've been told countless times that me thinking about what she does on her time at this point is irrelevant but for some reason I have a hard time letting that go, that's what's really keeping me stuck in time. I'm not sure how to get over that.
theonlyjuan Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I think that starts to fade when you become interested in someone/something else. If you met someone else that you liked, all your energy and thoughts would be focused on them. You would probably rarely think of your ex. I have tried to become interested in someone else but so far, not met anyone. If you get yourself out there, there are so many people to fall for. I just don't feel up to it right now, but I know that will change when I am ready
Author JDPT Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 I think that starts to fade when you become interested in someone/something else. If you met someone else that you liked, all your energy and thoughts would be focused on them. You would probably rarely think of your ex. I have tried to become interested in someone else but so far, not met anyone. If you get yourself out there, there are so many people to fall for. I just don't feel up to it right now, but I know that will change when I am ready I've never tried the "replacement" method and honestly wish I find a chick that could just keep my mind busy while I sort myself out as selfish as that may sound.
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