WiserParachute Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 hello everyone, im new to this forum so please bear with me.. my girlfriend and i were in a 2 year relationship and she just recently decided to leave me, we would get into arguements very frequently but would always get over them. i would also say things i did mean. well to make a long story short i said " i didnt want to live together anymore!"in one of our arguements,But i really didnt mean it. but she decided to move out anyway.Its been about 3 weeks and im missing her more than anything. I recently found out that she started seeing her ex boyfriend of 2 years ago, pretty much her boyfriend before me.. Im just wondering if i should wait this out or just move on?? I still love this girl very much.. Im wondering if she is using her ex as a crying shoulder or is she getting those feelings for him back??
RS Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 Originally posted by WiserParachute hello everyone, im new to this forum so please bear with me.. my girlfriend and i were in a 2 year relationship and she just recently decided to leave me, we would get into arguements very frequently but would always get over them. i would also say things i did mean. well to make a long story short i said " i didnt want to live together anymore!"in one of our arguements,But i really didnt mean it. but she decided to move out anyway.Its been about 3 weeks and im missing her more than anything. I recently found out that she started seeing her ex boyfriend of 2 years ago, pretty much her boyfriend before me.. Im just wondering if i should wait this out or just move on?? I still love this girl very much.. Im wondering if she is using her ex as a crying shoulder or is she getting those feelings for him back?? I would say at the moment it sounds like she is using her ex as a rebound, she is probably just as hurt as you and either needs someone to comfort her or she is angry at you because you hurt her and thought to herself "I will show that barstard!" Its always tough when someone leaves you and is with someone else before you have a chance to get over it. Hang in there and see what happens, it sounds like a classical rebound job to me, but I could be wrong.
Author WiserParachute Posted October 25, 2004 Author Posted October 25, 2004 so its just a rebound thing you think?? the guy that she is seeing is her ex, thats all im scared of...hopefully it works out for me cause heartache really stinks..
Weird Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 damn. So she was with that guy then broke up then get with you and broke up and is now with him and maybe might get back with you after break up wiht that guy a 2nd time. Not to sound mean but that'd be funny if that is what happens. Like she plays you and her ex..which I guess is her current b/f. I say continue living your life like you did before she showed up. If she wants to get back with you and still want her when that happens then you can get back together. One positive way to look at this is that she went back to someone she was with rather than getting a new guy to violate her orifices. If I were in your situation that'd make me feel better since she was already with that guy and isn't adding someone new to her list of dudes.
Think too much Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 It sounds like she is trying to hurt you. The things you said to her must have hurt her. You should not say mean things to the person you love even if you are angry and fighting. It does not sound like your relationship was very healthy. Hopefully you will learn from this. I know it hurts to have someone leave you and it hurts even more to be replaced. I really do with you the best whether you get back with her or not.
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