LTD_dude Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 (edited) Hey everyone, Havnt been here in a while. Just looking for some sound advice on a break up i am currently going through. I met this girl 9 months ago and we instantly fell for each other. We we're literally inseparable. Then one day out of no where she freaked out and ended it due to her own problems and couldnt be with me which sucked and then she came back to me once she had realised that she missed me etc. we then went solid for months and months. We were best friends and in love. We had a really healthy relatonship never fought and spent nearly every day together. Then all of a sudden out of nowhere she ends it because of the problems she had again. She said herself that it was the best relationship shes ever had. Whle we were talking breaking up she said she doesnt want to rule us out and this is a for now thing. I cant understand how she can get rid of something that i know made her happy. We have been talking a little bit and ive said some things which has given her every oppurtunity to rule us out. She is going away for month now and i just dont know what to do. I really dont want to give up on this girl and I want it to happen again. We havnt even been broken up a week and I really miss her. Possible GIGS? Edited July 17, 2013 by LTD_dude Wrong title
Legatus Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 I think you should take this month as a gift to work on yourself. She seems like a very unstable person - perhaps she needs time to figure things out. You should too! Try to get some distance and perspective on the whole situation but in the meantime - have fun and enjoy life. If she figures everything out she will come back and hopefully she will be fully commited this time!
Philosoraptor Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Sounds like she wanted out for one reason or another, and wanted to soften the blown and not ruin her chances to come back if things didn't work out the way she hoped. The timing of this seems fishy. Who is she going away with? Where is she going? She may just want to fool around while away and not be in a commited relationship for a month while away. 1
JDPT Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Seems to me like she gets a kick out of emotional rollercoasters. And perhaps isn't mature enough to deal with life challenges, freaks out and makes impulsive decisions. Based on what you have disclosed I would only suggest to move on, I don't think she is stable at all and won't be for a while. There are certain times in life when you have to do what's best for you and you only and it sounds like this is one of them. 1
aloneinaz Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 RUN.... FROM.... HER..... You should go no contact and move away from that toxic relationship. She's emotionally unstable and has dumped you twice already. She's not going to change and how would you trust her again? My man, my ex was emotionally unstable as well. She broke up with me 3 times with the third the final time as I'm done with her. I chase and get her back and she'd say what a huge mistake she made, wouldn't do it again, etc. She did. This people are not stable. Google emotionally unstable women and toxic people or borderline personality disorder. See how she matches up to these types..
Author LTD_dude Posted July 17, 2013 Author Posted July 17, 2013 The thing is though it was a fantastic relationship. The best we've both ever had. Which makes it very confusing
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