Big flirt- what is wrong with me?

[guest]

I do not know what is wrong with me. I really like my bf, but I keep meeting guys at bars, and I never say that I have a bf. Guys ask me out, and I do not go out with them, but I just wait until the last possible moment to admit that I am taken. I flirt with them a lot- I even let them hug me and stuff...of course they think I am free. I do not want to date again at all, I am not interested on that. I think it is perhaps an ego thing? What is wrong with me? I figure I would get pretty upset if my bf would meet women in bars, and not tell them that he is taken and flirt with them...so how come I keep doing this?

 

I also wonder what these guys think of me when they later know I have a bf, and I have done this?

 

I just do not know- but I know I got to stop doing this and start behaving appropriately. I do not know why...I always tell myself I am going to stop, but I never do. It is starting to worry me. I feel like a total slut for this.

 

does anyone else do this?

 

Guys, your opinion?

 

Thank you-

[bluechocolate]

I also wonder what these guys think of me when they later know I have a bf, and I have done this?

 

They think you're a no-good c*ck teaser.

[anon2]

It's simple. You either are in a committed relationship with this BF or you are not.

 

If you are, then stop going to bars without him. You only go so you can shop for a thrill and possibly a replacement BF.

 

If you are not in a committed relationship, then make sure your "BF" knows that and continue doing whatever it is you want to do.

 

This act of puzzlement has to go though. You know exactly what you are doing. Take responsibility for your actions.

[Stone]

Are you SURE you want to be in a commited relationship right now?

 

If yes, stop flirting

 

If No, go have fun & flirt all you want.

 

Do you feel some sort of higher self worth or ego when men are flirting with you?

[same]

I'm the EXACT same. Down to a tee.

 

I can't help it, I love my boyfriend and I love being in a relationship, and I'm not bored at all with him. I wouldn't ever cheat on him. But I love flirting with men, and the butterflies it gives me - kind of like the excitement of being with a new person all over again. But then I go home to my boyfriend and I'm completely happy with him, and I don't feel guilty.

 

I only feel guilty when I think about how I'd feel if he was all over another girl. I'd hate it.

 

Me and a guy I go to college with have this constant flirtation going on. We take the p*** out of each other jokily and mess around at college, and we're extremely attracted to each other. He has a gf though and I have my boyfriend, so I know that it is safe and nothing will happen. It's just a bit of fun! We always end up hanging out together at college night outs aswell, and we're quite touchy-feely.

 

I guess a lot of people would disagree with that. I know I get distressed about it time to time, because I wonder why I'm like this, and why I can't just be satisfied with what I've got. I say it's just my hormones!! I would never want to hurt my boyfriend...but it's not like I'm doing anything dreadful and he doesn't even know, so........

[guest]

Frankly, I do not know why I do it. But, I decided this week to stop doing this and be very open to guys about having a bf. I do not want to cheat either..it is just about being out there and flirting. Flirting is fun...but I stopped to think I would not like for my bf to do this.

 

I think this is stopping me from really being committed and this is hurting the stability of my life.

[LaShawn]

Let me start this post by saying, I have been a huge flirt all my life...BUT.......

 

Liking the feeling of getting attention from guys is not the same as not being able to help it. You CAN control your actions. Even if it is hard.

 

I personally feel like, if you are committed to your bf then you need to stop flirting with other men. Period. Saying you can't help it is a cop out. Of course you can help it...the question is, Do you want to?