tia Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 Forgive me if this topic has been beaten to death. I did peruse the other topics to see if was dealt with, but perhaps I missed it. After a nice convo with my b/f last night, I found myself thinking (I do that sometimes...it hurts, so I try not to )....How much contact is too much? If it were up to me...we could talk daily. I love sharing my day with him and knowing that he is listening. (He's a great listener). I do not call everyday, as the phone bill from Hong Kong to Australia would be HUGE. I would love to get a small email from him, an IM message...anything every day. During our conversation last night, we were discussing clingy people and he said that I am not clingy at all. He is perfectly happy with the amount of contact we have now. I am satisfied with it...but I would not say I am 'happy' with it. In your opnion....how much is enough??
Barby Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 Personally I think it varies from person to person. IMHO opinion if you love someone and are totally in love with them, you'd want to spend as much time as possible with them (even if that means chatting online since you can't see them).
bluechocolate Posted October 25, 2004 Posted October 25, 2004 I would love to get a small email from him, an IM message...anything every day. Have you told him that? I don't think it is a big ask. It's very easy to quickly type out a line or two in an email everyday. Does he get a small email or IM message from you everyday? I think with this kind of a long distance relationship it is important to have some guidelines such that you know when the two of you will speak, etc. If you both agree that Monday, Thursday and Sunday at 6pm (whoevers time zone you choose) that you will speak then you have something to look forward too. You could even decide that you'll have dinner together! It is kinda gross talking to someone on the phone when they're eating, but it is also nice knowing that you're "sharing" a normal experience that couples do together, even if it is over the wires & via satellite. I conducted part of my relationship long distance, Australia to the UK, so time zones were a real b*tch & that made planning contact even more important. That is not to say that you can't pick up the phone any old time & call each other. Or that you can't put finger to keyboard everyday & email. Just that you have a routine where you each know you have to make time to "be" together & that it is important to the relationship that you stick to the routine as much as is humanly possible. Of course there will be times when Thursday at 6pm is not available, but eventually it becomes a part of each of your routines & you plan your other activities accordingly.
N51 Posted October 29, 2004 Posted October 29, 2004 Hey tia yea i know exactly what u mean....maybe u guys can take calls in callin each other.....I stay in Melbourne and i know that they have some pretty amazing call cards here.....Like for 10 bucks i can get a call card to call my gf in the US and get 580 mins......Im sure they have some good offers for hongkong as well.......Another option is that u guys could use Skype (a program where i can talk to each other over the computer) .... http://www.skype.com .....Hope this was of any help Cheers N51
DJ_Dork Posted October 29, 2004 Posted October 29, 2004 I like to talk to my girl once every other day. I'm not into that call every day or call before you go to sleep crap. Got a life.
Stone Posted October 29, 2004 Posted October 29, 2004 Originally posted by DJ_Dork I like to talk to my girl once every other day. I'm not into that call every day or call before you go to sleep crap. Got a life. Well she probably won't stick around long
Author tia Posted October 30, 2004 Author Posted October 30, 2004 Thanks all! I have told him actually. Out times are not that out of whack either. He is 2 hours ahead of me. He's a bit of a slacker at times, honestly. Last night was a prime example. He logged in to MSN and then never said anything. When I did message him first, as I always do, he said he was just rebooting and then going to bed. Ok, fair enough and fine....but could you not send that in a messgae so that I do not wonder if I have done something to offend? When I do start conversations, 99% of the time, we have great talks and it is all good. I just get tired of being the starter. He knows that. I am not sure how to fix it. I do not want to talk to him daily...that may even be too much for me as well!! I would have to go with every second or third day.
tobie Posted November 12, 2004 Posted November 12, 2004 i like this guy he likes me back. yesterday i had a BIG fight with him. he is very sweet and i cant imagine losing him. HE is kinda like a boyfriend. i reall really dont want to lose him. oh yeah he called me on my cell and i hung up on him. and he got mad at that PLEASE HELP ASAP!!!
Author tia Posted November 23, 2004 Author Posted November 23, 2004 *Update* I sent a letter. I told him flat out that I was less than impressed with the level of conversation we were having. Shockingly, it has been infinately better. YEAH! *dancing dancing* He sent me a dozen roses for my 33rd birthday! I almost cried! He has *NEVER* sent ANYONE flowers before. LA WHOOT!!! 29 more days..... Xmas holidays can[color=red]NOT [/color] get here soon enough!!!
Semli Posted November 27, 2004 Posted November 27, 2004 Originally posted by Stone Well she probably won't stick around long Why? I don't talk to my g/f every day either and we've been dating LD for over a year now and going very strong. Because of our work and study situation, we simply cannot talk all the time and while we'd like to, it just isn't possible.
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