Dollheart Posted July 17, 2013 Share Posted July 17, 2013 My breakup was in dec '10. After 10 years and 2 kids he left for another woman. Obviously thing between us were not right at the time but I never thought he'd leave. I was devastated. The kids were devastated. But I did my best to stay strong, got a new full time job. Made friends, kept active, volunteered, went tp therapy. But at night after the kids were asleep I fell apart. I have many things to be grateful for and while I know I am where I'm meant to be...and I see all that I have gained....I still feel sad. I know it's unhealthy to still feel sad. To miss him. To feel jealous of her. I know it's not normal to hurt this way and to think about him as much as I do. I don't want to feel like this. I'm tired of it. He has shut me out completely. He treats me as if I did something wrong. It's confusing and frustrating. I have to have some interaction....we have kids. The kids barely acknowledge her and he blames me for that. But I never speak badly about either of them to the kids. I have actually reached out to her in friendship, hoping that it could lead to making them a bigger part of my children's lives. She wants no part of it. I am ready to let go. I want to enjoy my life, be present. How do I stop dwelling on the past? Link to post Share on other sites
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